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Four Tips to Navigate a Difficult Conversation at Work
Although you can’t control the outcome of a difficult conversation or meeting at work, you can take inner action to support an effective conversation and a good outcome.
The “Do Nots” of Conflict
There are a lot of things NOT to say or do when in conflict with someone else if we are wanting to resolve or mend things.
Ever Wondered What it's Like to Train as a Mediator?
Are you looking to carry out workplace mediations? Not sure what the training would involve?
Expanding Access to Remedies Through E-Court Initiatives
Amy J. Schmitz, Elwood L. Thomas Missouri Endowed Professor of Law at the University of Missouri School of Law, has published a timely article titled “Expanding Access to Remedies Through E-Court Initiatives.”
Co-Mediation Can Bring Harmony to a Complex Case
When you have a complex, multi-disciplinary problem, should you hire one expert in one aspect of the problem and then hope that that person can manage all the other aspects?
My Favorite Resource Featuring Robyn Weinstein
This month, Resource Center Director Nicole Wilmet spoke with Robyn Weinstein, ADR Administrator at the United States District Court for the Eastern District of New York, to learn about her favorite resource.
When Someone You Love Disappears on You
How can you help clients when the other party disappears?
The “ABC Test” is Retroactive!
In 2018, the California Supreme Court drastically changed the employment law landscape in California by adopting the “ABC Test” for determining whether workers are employees ( and not independent contractors) under California wage order laws.
The Downside of DIY Divorce
With the increasing popularity of Pinterest, the concept of “do-it-yourself” or “DIY” projects have become enticing for many.
Why the NHS Shouldn't Need to Worry About Whistleblowers
The end of NDAs should be fundamental to encouraging good working environments across the NHS and the kind of honest, self-aware culture that both staff and patients can rely on.
Three Common Ways Conflict Shows Up in Organizations
Conflict in businesses and organizations can show up in at least three different ways.
Start With a Small Yes
The outset of a difficult conversation often feels like a back-and-forth trading of position and perspective with little common ground. Here’s how to use the psychology of agreement to begin shifting that kind of positional debate to collaborative problem solving.
Interview with John Ford: The Future of HR and Workplace Mediation
This is an interview by Dr. Clare Fowler, current Mediate.com Managing Editor, with John Ford, the first Mediate.com Managing Editor and a well-known HR and workplace mediation specialist.
Is There LIfe After Divorce At 45? Your Mindset Tells It All
You’re 45, and finally on the other side of your divorce.
Have We Lost the Ability to be Curious?
Adrian Chiles in The Guardian recently made the point that “on all media, mainstream and social…nobody wants to know stuff; they just want to tell you what they already know, or how wrong you are about what you think you know.”
The Need to Be Right
One of the many attitudes to conflict that derails interpersonal conflicts (and most conflicts, really) is a need to be right
Avoiding a Conflict Debt at Work
Conflict debts at work are hard to pay down.
Two Things About Negotiating
Have you ever heard yourself say (or think) something like,“Wait. No. Actually I didn’t mean it that way. I was just throwing ideas out. I . . .” Oops.
Division of Assets and Debts
Financial matters are a primary topic of discussion in divorce mediation.
The Linctus of Choosing a Mediator
Mediation is now the toast of the day in America, Canada, Australia, the UK and many parts of the European Union.
Slow Down and Be the Bedouin
It feels productive to toss out ideas for a solution and demonstrate how much we want to help. But it’s usually unproductive if we haven’t done something essential first: Make sure we understand the problem from their frame of reference.
Who Are You When You Are In Conflict?
Some conflictual interactions bring out parts of us we don’t really like or, even recognize at times!
Are You and Your Ex “High Conflict Parents”? 5 Red Flags and What You Can Do
Whether you are divorced or considering divorce, you’ve probably heard the dreaded catch phrase “high conflict parents”.
Save Your Professional Relationships: The Doctor’s Guide to Conflict Resolution
Conflict in medicine: It’s about as inevitable as the flu season.
Name Your Anger
Disagreements often start when someone doesn’t want to discuss something or take a necessary action, and someone else accuses that person of avoiding.
You Say You Want a Resolution?
Not so random thoughts on mediation and dispute resolution.
What’s Fair Is Fair… Or Is It?
“I only want what is equitable. That is my operating principle.”
It’s Not Just About the Money and Other Food for Thought for Mediators
A number of recent mediations have reaffirmed some essentials which I share here in the hope that they might be helpful to others.
Mediator Hostility is Effective?!
What follows is confusing and disorienting . . . and a little disturbing.
5 Tips for Coping With Divorce And Child Custody With a High-Conflict Ex
‘Child Custody’ is becoming an outdated concept.
The 5 Pillars of Conversational Intelligence
Preventing conflict is better than a cure!
Second-Guessing Ourselves When In Conflict
I don’t know about you – but there are many times I “second-guess” what I said or did in some conflict situations. Or, I might “second-guess” what bothered me in the first place.
Silence is Golden!
A pause at the right moment can be a very powerful tool.
Lead Without Bullying
We’re reading a lot these days about leaders who bully.
HOBAS: Understanding the Data Behind U.S. Crisis Hostage Negotiation
Working with the FBI, I had access to the Hostage Barricade Database System (HOBAS) and put out what I believe to be is the most current up-to-date information on law enforcement negotiation statistics.