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Beyond Solutions
Mediation, like other forums where leadership is called for, can be a hard business, not for the faint of heart. On the other hand, every once in a great while, something magical, unplanned, and unexpected happens and the room is suddenly filled with hope and light.
Even More Conflict Resolution Tips
Following up on two previous articles, this article taps into 24 years of mediation experience and provides divorcing couples with tips that will help them navigate their divorce and mediation process in sane and healthy manner and will help them stay in control of the process.
Essential Tips on Writing an Effective Mediation Submission
Mediation and the written agreement has become integral to the litigation process and offers avenues through which disputes can be settled amicably.
Comparative Data on Mediator Directory Websites
According to new data from Alexa.com, Mediate.com is most visited and most linked mediator directory website.
How Indigenous Voices Can Get Lost in Mediation
This article focuses on how differences in communication styles and in world-views can lead to Native Americans not being heard or understood in mediation; and some thoughts on how to address this problem.
Liberia, Its Poverty Recovery Strategies and Failures, and Why Its Pro-poor Agenda will Fail if Lacked Future Perspectives
This article discusses Liberia's path to peace and liberation, 1871 - 2017.
Legal Stress
This post provides excerpts from my research summarizing significant stresses affecting each of these groups and notes resources and ideas for dealing with them.
Mediation Dance-Writing
Sometime between 480 and 221 BC during China’s Warring States Period, a general named Wu wrote a short and now widely read treatise on how to win a big fight. The highest excellence, he said, is the “sheathed sword,” achieving your goal without fighting.
This Mediation Failed. Or, Did It?
This article poses the question of how to evaluate success and failure of mediation.
How to Deconflict Situations for One's Personal Benefit
Whether loved, despised, or a stranger, conflict causes anxiety, increases tension of blood and causes inconvenience.
Mediation, Mediator, Mediation
Mediation has an identity issue - but it’s not its fault.
How to Get the Most from Mediate.com
This PDF presentation reviews the major sections of Mediate.com, including content, resources, getting cases and Mediate.com services.
How the Mediator Gains the Parties’ Trust
The first step in gaining mediation parties' trust is demonstrating mastery over the process.
Pump the Brakes
The ability to resolve conflicts with one another is a critical life skill, especially in today’s challenging world.
When Did Bullying Stop Being Something that Only Happened in the Playground?
It's Anti-Bullying Week; and bullying is now just as much synonymous with workplaces as with problems at school.
Interview with Ken Cloke
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Ken Cloke, author and Founder of Mediators Beyond Borders, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Mediate.com Recognized as a Top Attorney Directory for SEO!
Now entering our 24th year, Mediate.com is recognized as a Top Law Firm Directory.
Mediation Myths: Barriers to the Use of Mediation
Despite a record of success, in some quarters mediation continues to receive skeptical treatment as an unnecessary step in dispute resolution.
Scorched Earth Clients: Mediating with High Conflict People
You have met them if you have been mediating for any length of time: High Conflict People.
Zealous Advocacy Can Kill
His divorce was going really badly: aggressive lawyers on both sides, court battles and blame-ridden affidavits!
Mr. Rogers and the Power of Persuasion - Video
This video discusses the history of arguing and ways to make it more effective.
Family Feud? Use Eldercaring Coordination for High Conflict in Eldercare
This article distinguishes elder mediation and eldercaring coordination, and discusses the benefits of eldercaring coordination for high-conflict cases.
Mediator as Judge
When trained as a mediator, the first thing I learned was that mediation is a client-driven process.
What Should You Ask Your Mediator at the Initial Session?
What I offer in this article is some thoughts and ideas of questions that may be helpful to ask at your initial consultation with your mediator.
Don’t Dread Divorces this December
Thanks to the 2017 federal Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017, (“TCAJA”), divorce lawyers and mediators know that December will be a busy time and some of us may be working right up to the close of the courthouse on Monday, December 31st.
Bringing Down a Giraffe
Each of the described four impulses gives rise to tensions in negotiation: the need to compete and claim, the impulse to cooperate and find common ground, the drive for pragmatic and technically competent solutions, and the push for a moral basis in solution-making.
Two Points: Detrimental to any Mediation Process
The post is about TWO points which may go against the Mediation Process in India: (i) A constant persuasion of Mediator on either parties would have opposite effect.
Empathy
I travel all the time for my job--and part of the traveling experience is vulnerability.
An Ounce of Prevention
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure": It is true about many things in life, but it is particularly true when it comes to conflict.
What is Child-Inclusive Mediation?
If you are a parent going through separation or divorce it is highly likely you are worried about the effect it will have on your children.
Jim Melamed Selected For First APFM Outstanding Mediator Award
After a nominations process open to all Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) members, Jim Melamed, Mediate.com CEO, was selected to receive APFM's first "Outstanding Professional Family Mediator Award." The award was presented to Jim at the recent 2018 APFM Conference in San Diego.