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How the Mediator Gains the Parties’ Trust
Step 1 in gaining the parties' trust: Demonstrating Mastery Over the Process.
Pump the Brakes
The ability to resolve conflicts with one another is a critical life skill, especially in today’s challenging world.
When Did Bullying Stop Being Something that Only Happened in the Playground?
It's Anti-Bullying Week; and bullying is now just as much synonymous with workplaces as with problems at school.
Interview with Ken Cloke
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Ken Cloke, author and Founder of Mediators Beyond Borders, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Mediation Myths: Barriers to the Use of Mediation
Despite a record of success, in some quarters mediation continues to receive skeptical treatment as an unnecessary step in dispute resolution.
Scorched Earth Clients: Mediating with High Conflict People
You have met them if you have been mediating for any length of time: High Conflict People.
Zealous Advocacy Can Kill
His divorce was going really badly: aggressive lawyers on both sides, court battles and blame-ridden affidavits!
Mr. Rogers and the Power of Persuasion - Video
This video discusses the history of arguing and ways to make it more effective.
Family Feud? Use Eldercaring Coordination for High Conflict in Eldercare
This article distinguishes elder mediation and eldercaring coordination, and discusses the benefits of eldercaring coordination for high-conflict cases.
Mediator as Judge
When trained as a mediator, the first thing I learned was that mediation is a client-driven process.
What Should You Ask Your Mediator at the Initial Session?
What I offer in this article is some thoughts and ideas of questions that may be helpful to ask at your initial consultation with your mediator.
Don’t Dread Divorces this December
Thanks to the 2017 federal Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017, (“TCAJA”), divorce lawyers and mediators know that December will be a busy time and some of us may be working right up to the close of the courthouse on Monday, December 31st.
Bringing Down a Giraffe
Each of the described four impulses gives rise to tensions in negotiation: the need to compete and claim, the impulse to cooperate and find common ground, the drive for pragmatic and technically competent solutions, and the push for a moral basis in solution-making.
Two Points: Detrimental to any Mediation Process
The post is about TWO points which may go against the Mediation Process in India: (i) A constant persuasion of Mediator on either parties would have opposite effect.
Empathy
I travel all the time for my job--and part of the traveling experience is vulnerability.
An Ounce of Prevention
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure": It is true about many things in life, but it is particularly true when it comes to conflict.
What is Child-Inclusive Mediation?
If you are a parent going through separation or divorce it is highly likely you are worried about the effect it will have on your children.
Jim Melamed Selected For First APFM Outstanding Mediator Award
After a nominations process open to all Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) members, Jim Melamed, Mediate.com CEO, was selected to receive APFM's first "Outstanding Professional Family Mediator Award." The award was presented to Jim at the recent 2018 APFM Conference in San Diego.
The Mediation Advocate’s Alphabet
From limited experiences, learning from mistakes, compliments from clients, advise from mentors and suggestions from peers, here is a guidebook with some cheat codes for any amateur lawyer looking to rehearse before a Mediation.
10 Do’s and Don’ts of Successful Co-Parenting After Divorce
Are you struggling with Co-Parenting after divorce? If you are, it is no surprise.
APFM: The Dream, Progress to Date, and New Goals
In March 2012, eleven amazing people announced the creation of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators. They had big dreams and grand expectations. Let’s look at how far we have come and where we may go.
Weapons and Sports Agents
Life imitates art, art imitates life, and both reveal deeper patterns.
Mediation Power Imbalances: Weighing the Arguments
It is commonly said that power imbalances in mediation render it unfair.
What Do Marriage Counselors and Mediators Do?
There is a big difference between marriage counselors and mediators, and each is specific to the condition of a relationship.
Interview with Chip Rose
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Chip Rose, a national leader in the fields of divorce mediation and collaborative practice, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Book Review: The Master Agreement by Jay Bultz
'The Master Agreement', now in its Second Edition, offers a comprehensive manual of issues, clauses and phrases for use in drafting Marital Settlement Agreements. This book is unique, of very high quality, will save you time, and elevate the quality of your drafting.
Mediation – Engaging the Rhythm of Polyvagal Regulation
What do garden snails, lizards and humans all have in common?
Like the Fireflies Generating Light
It is currently common to use expressions such as "polarization" or "crack" to describe the attitudes with which the inhabitants, politicians and governments in different countries raise or debate their problems.
Como Las Luciernagas Generando Luz - en espanol
Actualmente es común usar expresiones como "polarización" o "grieta" para describir las actitudes con las que los habitantes, políticos y gobiernos de diferentes países plantean o debaten sus problemas.
Family Mediation and Domestic Abuse
Mediation in Worcester, Gloucester and the surrounding areas is increasingly the default option when it comes to family dispute resolution.
Interview with Maxine Baker-Jackson
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Maxine Baker-Jackson, former Director and Mediator, Los Angeles County Superior Court, Dependency Court, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.