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A ‘Mediator’s Touchdown’: Tactfully concluding imperfect conferences
“That was a poor landing by the captain,” grumbled an unamused passenger to a stranger across the aisle. “Every flight is a risk. We must not take for granted that we are alive to complain,” the other responded.
The Beauty and Terror of Change
In my role as mediator one of the questions I am asked most often by parents, community groups, and interested parties is if an agreement reached at Family Dispute Resolution is legally binding and enforceable through the family court.
What if You Die? Divorcing and Death
There’s an interesting dichotomy between married couples’ view of life insurance.
The Intersection and Impact of Personality Type and Conflict Management Style
By understanding the relationship between personality types and conflict management styles we can achieve more productive dispute resolution discussions and increase the potential for mutually satisfactory resolutions.
The Effect of Power in Mediation
Balancing power is an important part of mediation. I did a mediation recently in which the levels of power of each party played a very important role.
Negotiating With My Client
As a freshly minted lawyer, I came to a realization within a few months of joining the workforce - my very expensive university education prepared me for only half the battle.
5 (Perhaps Unexpected) Ways to Reduce Legal Fees When Getting a Divorce
For anyone going through a litigated or high conflict divorce which can be very expensive, Kathleen Wells, lead partner at Wells Family Law shares her top 5 tips for keeping costs down.
Conflict Resolutions for 2020!
Here are my conflict resolutions for 2020. What are yours?
Peter Kaskell, 1924-2019
Peter Kaskell died on December 12, 2019. He was a dear friend whom I met at the CPR Institute and who taught me not just the delicate arts of demand-led commercial dispute management, but the even more delicate arts of humility, service and attention to others’ needs.
The Horror of Bullying at France Telecom
Between 2008 and 2009, 35 employees of France Télécom committed suicide.
Do Post-Nuptial Agreements Belong in Marital Mediation?
Marital mediation is neither marital therapy nor couples therapy.
A Fresh Approach to Advanced Training
This training seeks to provide: The right thing, in the right way, at the right time, in the right place, to the right person, for the right reason, with the right feeling... the first time.
Pressure-Cooker Mediation: Stick to basics to make a difference
Set in an adversarial environment with a clicking court battle time-bomb placed over our heads, my first experience of court referred mediation in Scotland, as a co-mediator, was overwhelmingly real.
A Guide To Creative Christmas Plans For Divorced Parents
This article discusses six options that are successful ways of sharing time with children over the holidays.
Why You Should Mediate Your Divorce Instead of Litigating It
This article shows a clear timeline for mediating your divorce. The purpose of mediation is to get you talking about how to settle every issue right away, so the process is usually much faster, much less expensive, much less stressful and overall much more satisfying than litigation.
Conflicts in the 'Family' Work Environment
What do you do when work treats you “like family”?
Divorce and Social Security
This article will discuss how benefits are distributed to two people who are now divorced.
Don’t Rely on Peer Mediation to Resolve Bullying in Schools
One way schools can equip students with the skills to address conflict is through peer mediation.
This I Believe
I am willing to respect you even though I might not admire or look up to you for the accomplishments you are credited with.
New Horizon for International Commercial Mediation: The Singapore Convention
The fundamental concept of the Convention began in 1958 with the signing of the New York Convention. That concept is the obligation of contracting nation states to give effect to private agreements emerging from alternative dispute resolution.
Thoughts on the Singapore Convention
The Singapore Convention parallels the New York Convention for Arbitration by legitimizing mediation as a dispute resolution method for international commercial transactions.
Mediating Your Divorce: How to Split Your Retirement Savings
As well as working with a skilled divorce lawyer, it can be in your interest to take advice from an experienced pension planner in order to achieve good solutions to these sorts of issues.
Four Ways to Sidestep Conflict and Enjoy Your Holidays
If the thought of enduring a meal—let alone an entire weekend—with your family or in-laws has you tensing up then you might want to keep reading.
It Takes Just One Moment to Change, For Good or Bad
It took just a moment in time: 6 August 1945 at 8:15am.
Conflict Prevention: Utilizing the Historical Reasonable Person of Common Law
Commitment to the reasonable man theory, a building block to many constitutions, is a commitment to one’s higher self, rather than to one’s instinct. Training individuals to act in a way that’s reasonable, creates internal checks and balances.
Thanksgiving After Divorce: New Turkey Time Traditions
Thanksgiving can be a particularly difficult holiday to plan for and experience for parents and children after divorce.
Lesley Cook Interview - Neurodiversity in Mediation
This is an interview with Dr. Lesley Cook discussing the importance of understanding your neurodiverse clients in the educational, family, and workplace fields.
ACR Taskforce on Safety: Recommended Guidelines -- Final Part 3 in Series
The Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) Taskforce on Safety in Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) has drafted the ADR Safety Planning to promote the safety of practitioners and participants in ADR processes. This is part 3 in the series--discussing what mediators can do in cases of extreme violence.
Being a Guide
This weekend, I saw the movie, Harriet, a riveting film about Harriet Tubman. I learned about how to guide people through conflict.
ACR Taskforce on Safety: Recommended Guidelines -- Part 2 in Series
The Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) Taskforce on Safety in Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) has drafted the ADR Safety Planning to promote the safety of practitioners and participants in ADR processes. This is part 2 in the series--discussing mediators can do in cases of violence.
Culture and Conflict
Culture influences conflict outbreak, conflict perception, conflict escalation, and conflict resolution.