We like to believe that we are rational beings who make rational decisions. Sometimes, we are. And sometimes, we are not.
Goals, predictions, vision statement. Frame it in any manner, what stakeholders are looking for is the fulfilment of the promise of mediation.
After a conflict between communities or nations has been led to an ending phase, political reconciliation requires that both parties be brought closer to the point they may have respect for each other’s rights and can live peacefully together. When the conflict passed through war or mass atrocity, reconciliation is especially hard to achieve. There are limits to forgiveness that may state significant barriers on the pathway to reconciliation.
The recent film “Exodus: Gods and Kings” has sparked some renewed interest in the actual written record of those events.So I share some of the themes which have emerged belatedly for me in this case study extraordinaire. One of the indicators from research of an “expert” modern day negotiator is someone who takes time to reflect systematically on past negotiations and attempts to record lessons from those events.
Everything is Workable (Shambhala, 2013) is Hamilton’s book about how to live consciously in a world sated with conflicts. She acknowledges that learning conflict skills asks something of us: 'The more intimate we become with human suffering, the greater our compulsion to serve others.'
(10/21/14)Michael A. Zeytoonian
I wanted to continue the theme from my last Blog post about the Sea of Galilee and the notion of “being a Galilee” a bit with this blog post. This article discusses what I learned over this trip and the trouble with false assumptions.
(10/13/14)Michael A. Zeytoonian
Strange as this might sound, I had the good fortune of being in Israel during a war, a declared cease fire and its aftermath, and experiencing how these impacted the people involved. While it was a source of some tension and heightened vigilance, it provided a rare opportunity to experience the shifts and changes that occur when a war stops and a cease fire is in effect, in this place that has been a historical hotbed for conflict.
The traditional view is that a mediator is a neutral, third party who helps two or more conflicting parties cooperatively resolve their differences. Interestingly enough, this belief is analogous to the Cartesian-Newtonian epistemological position that holds that one can be an independent observer of an objective world, in science or in daily life. However, I am skeptical about this position, both epistemologically and clinically. What remains an open question is whether a mediator can actually ever be a 'neutral third.'
(6/21/14)Leslie Short, Joyce P. Dugger
This article is defining what we believe a faith based mediation is seen and practice through the lens of being inclusive of all faith and belief system. This article asks two question "What is faith" and "Does it Matter" we explore these two questions understanding the process of embracing all faith. To create a dialog that opens all faith to come to the table without being judge.
As a mediator, I am often in the middle of tense situations. Through Aikido, I have learned to be aware of how that tension affects me physically and to prevent it from spilling into the mediation room.
(6/13/14)Tony Belak, Pradeep Deshpande
The importance of including meditation in mediation efforts is explained. A considerable body of evidence in the scientific literature, as well as reputed media publications, are supportive of the hypothesis meditation will enhance workplace mediation programs. Together they will lead to less workplace discord and workforce conflict, as well as offer improvements in health, wellness, quality, productivity, and competitive position.
The area that is now occupied by the United States has always been a place of multiculturalism and religious diversity. This was the case many generations before the arrival of the first undocumented immigrants coming from Spain, England, the Netherlands, and France. Those immigrants had long been preceded by hundreds of different native tribes of somewhat diverse ethnicity, often with different languages and religious practices.
You can make your marriage strong but you’ve got to acknowledge that disagreements are inevitable. Preventing conflict begins identifying what are common conflict points in your marriage. Preventing conflicts also means strengthening your marriage to withstand outside conflicts. This is a faith-based article discussing Biblical viewpoints for strengthening marriage.
Have you ever wondered why the construction industry is still saddled with its culture of adversity, contractual conflict and a “who’s to blame” attitude? Or what causes job disputes to quickly escalate into full-blown claims despite the well intentioned calming efforts of the site managers?
This paper reflects on the necessity and efficacy of a Faith-Based Mediation approach for Dispute Resolution, and intends to answer three leading questions: First, why is Faith-Based Mediation necessary for the religious communities and people? Second, what are the fundamental referents of a Faith-Based mediated process? And third, how can a Mediator be useful in Faith-Based Mediation?
(2/07/14)Morghan Leia Richardson
Without the religious divorce, Leah would not be able to remarry -- or even date -- in her community. Her life was on hold, tied to her ex -- at his whim. And she is not alone. This article discusses the conflict that many in religious communities are trying to resolve.
This is one of a 40-day video reflection series about conflict resolution. It is produced by the Taming the Wolf Institute and discusses the use of power, rights, and interests in mediation.
This article uses a case study to examine whether mediation is a sign of guilt and what the Bible says about resolving disputes. Biblical Based Mediation can help churches prevent embarrassment, devastating notoriety, church splits, and possibly legal actions that do permanent damage to one or both parties.
Baruch Bush and Joe Folger conducted a training in May called “Responding Effectively to Workplace and Family Conflicts”. This workshop focused on how we might best manage our own conflicts, taking into consideration the transformative framework. A participant in that course posed the following questions afterward.
Watch this TEDx Boston event featuring peace and conflict resolution promoter, Farah Pandith. She is also the first ever US Department of State Special Representative to Muslim Communities. She talks about the global Muslim youth community, perspectives, and particularly the diversity of what it means to be Muslim.
(5/18/13)Lester L. Adams
This article addresses two congregational issues: why we do not seek help to settle our disagreements, and the misguided reasons we use to justify it.
As mediators, we learn to “reframe” issues. This mediator asks if it's possible to even reframe the seemingly unreframeable: The Seven Deadly Sins.
I teach mediation skills at the National University of Singapore Faculty of Law and it has always been something that I have found tremendously fulfilling. Apart from influencing generations of lawyers to consider the resolution of conflict in non-adversarial, more amicable ways, there is the occasional personal transformation on the part of the student that makes a lot of the grief (yes, there is grief) worthwhile.
For the first hour of conflict, my neutral gave to me a round table with a great view
For the second hour of conflict, my neutral gave to me two succinct summaries
And a round table with a great view
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This articles talks about the natural, cyclical process of holidays and mediations. They all have a natural beginning, middle, and end.