Rock, Paper, Scissors

Most disputes don’t really matter in your life. Work on the ones that do matter — the ones involving loved ones, important colleagues, valued others — and walk away from or quickly resolve the rest.

For the ones that don’t really matter (will you remember and care about them tomorrow? in a week? in six months?), keep it simple, stop your histrionics, find something simple like rock, paper, scissors, and get on with living life. Simple, unimportant disputes deserve simple, easy methods for getting it done and moving on.

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Tammy Lenski

Dr. Tammy Lenski helps individuals, pairs, teams, and audiences navigate disagreement better, address friction, and build alignment. Her current work centers on creating the conditions for robust collaboration and sound decisions while fostering resilient personal and professional relationships. Her conflict resolution podcast and blog, Disagree Better, are available at https://tammylenski.com/archives/… MORE >

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