Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.
Joan is an author, therapist, mediator, and parenting coordinator
with four decades of experience working with high conflict parents who are separating.
Bruce Derman, Wendy Gregson
This article outlines what couples need to do in order to consider and face the numerous dilemmas that are inherent in divorce.
According to Alexa.com, Mediate.com is most visited and most linked mediation website. In business since 1996, Mediate.com has over 6 million annual site visitors and serves as a bridge between professionals offering dispute resolution services and people needing these services.
Jan Frankel Schau, Nina Meierding
Anyone who has ever been married will admit that men and women argue differently. It should be no surprise to learn that women and men negotiate differently as well.
Most novice and experienced conflict mediators alike feel themselves viscerally tighten in the face of an impending impasse. However, current studies in neuroscience suggest that frustration can be useful in fomenting creative problem solving.
Many clients and attorneys are confused about what mediation is and is not, and are not sure what they will get if they go to mediation.
Lee Jay Berman
Conflict happens. It is inevitable. It is going to happen whenever you have people with different expectations. Here are some tools for avoiding and resolving disputes in the early stages, before they become full-blown conflicts.
What you have here is a brief synopsis of best practice strategies: a checklist of action items to think about before going into the conversation.
Michael P. Carbone
Every successful negotiation requires that you have a sound strategy. In this article I will explain the steps that I believe you should follow when developing a mediation strategy.
Although there are many intangibles in the definition of a “good” mediator, certain character traits are invaluable. It turns out that these same character traits may have other uses as well.
There are many threatening and frightening things that happen to individuals whose relationship ends up in separation or divorce. A successful divorce is one in which the parents divorce each other but do not require the child to divorce one of the parents.
Native American wisdom focuses on healing wounds, and bringing peace through good feelings, not fear. While mediations are focused principally on legal issues, Native American wisdom teaches us to be mindful of a person's emotional damage as well.
Fredrike P. Bannink
Little attention has so far been paid to theories of positive emotions in psychology and mediation. This may well reflect the spirit of the age in which most disciplines have focused on problems and it may also reflect the nature of emotions themselves.
There is often nothing more important to a successful mediation than insightful summarization of the parties’ perspectives.
What is the common denominator in most organizational conflict? The leaders have not spent enough time and energy thinking about culture —that invisible glue
that holds organizations together and determines organizational effectiveness.
Problem-solving and decision-making. Ask anyone in the workplace if these activities are part of their day and they answer 'Yes!' But how many of us have had training in problem-solving?
Whether two employees are fighting or a disgruntled client is on the verge of leaving, you—yes, you—can step in and help solve the problem. Here are some tricks of the trade.
Millions of men and women of all ages, ethnic, and racial backgrounds all
across the U.S. hate going to work, gradually fall into despair and often
become gravely ill. Some flee from jobs they used to love, others endure
the situation unable to figure a way out.
When you are speaking and someone is not paying attention, how do you feel? Annoyed, frustrated, discounted, rejected, anxious or angry? Such feelings usually make communication more difficult. So how can we show someone who is speaking that we really are paying attention to them?
As mediators, we seem to be drawn to the word
"neutral" as a descriptive term for what we do
and as a conceptual frame for our professional
role. Beyond the theoretical discussion, however,
there are some very practical risks for mediators
to consider in continuing to describe themselves
Donald T. Saposnek
One of the most typical questions asked of me by parents who are beginning the divorce process is, “What should we tell the children and how should we tell them?”
Workplace bullying is a growing international problem. It is more than a one-time incident. It is a pattern of behavior between a bully and another worker which can demoralize, isolate and trigger illness in the target of the bully.
In this short piece, I describe a few ways that disputing parties and their lawyers systematically depart from rational decision making. Along the way, I offer tips on how to get productive settlement discussions back on track after being derailed by our all-too-human psychology.
Richard J. Roberts
Behavioral scientists have conducted numerous experimental studies on the emotions of anger and fear. However, despite volumes of data, most of them have missed the key element in the relationship between the two emotional states: anger almost always masks fear (or some sort of “weaker,” more vulnerable emotion, such as anxiety, shame, guilt, helplessness, or grief).
Stanford School of Business
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This is an instructional video produced by the Stanford School of Business. It covers the process of negotiation by Joel Peterson.