How Was Your Mediation Experience? Reflections from Clients
Reflections from clients discussing their divorce mediation experience.
Document Your Wishes: Divorce & Changing Life Insurance Beneficiaries
A surprising outcome that is noteworthy for Divorcing (or Divorced) Couples seeking to use Life Insurance Proceeds to assist their exes and or children.
Approaching Custody with Reason vs. Rancor
No matter how a couple may approach questions involving parenting after divorce, the answers are never easily derived.
The 2020 Tax Conundrum: Questions Facing Couples Whose Divorce is Pending
2020 has been a year of too many upsets, too many uncertainties, and too many confusions.
In the Time of Covid-19: The Rush to Modification
Today as the coronavirus keeps us isolated, huddled in our homes, fearful of venturing too far or thinking too deeply, we cannot long ignore the pandemic’s impact on contractual deals that we made when we thought we understood the present and even banked on a better tomorrow.
How Much Does Divorce Really Cost?
Some who are faced with the prospect of divorce, are deterred by the sheer magnitude of change that will impact their family’s lives.
What if You Die? Divorcing and Death
There’s an interesting dichotomy between married couples’ view of life insurance.
Do Post-Nuptial Agreements Belong in Marital Mediation?
Marital mediation is neither marital therapy nor couples therapy.
Divorcing After Long-Term Marriage Checklist of Considerations
For couples facing divorce in their late fifties, sixties, and beyond, the questions and issues are quite distinct from those facing younger couples.
Children First in Your Divorce
How to mediate in the best interests of the children.
The Tax Reform Law Impacts Families
The attached articles highlight further effects of the tax reform, one specifically focused on Prenuptial Contracts, and the second more generally on family financial decisions.
Prenuptial Agreements and the New Tax Law: Is There a Problem on the Horizon?
The message for divorcing couples is clear. If your divorce agreement will include provision for the payment of alimony, deductible to the paying spouse and taxable, as income, to the recipient spouse, you need to have an executed divorce agreement by December 31, 2018.
Change Is Coming: Tax Reform Act Punishes Divorcing Couples
The new act aims to prevent this “nefarious” practice, often labeled as a divorce subsidy, by rendering alimony payments as after tax income, beginning with the 2019 tax year.
Collaborative Parenting Can Mend the Divide
Professionals writing about divorce too often reinforce parental fears by recounting, even exacerbating the negative consequences of divorce
The College Education Expense; How to Share the “Experience”
The question to be answered by all parents—separated or divorced parents, married or unmarried—is: How will the child’s college education be funded? In short, who will pay and how much?
Avoiding the Holiday Blues During Separation or After Divorce
With some creativity, and openness to future adjustment, separated and divorced couples can preserve key ingredients of the holiday season by pre-planning the children’s shared visits ahead of time.
Business Mediation: Strengthening Partnerships for the Long Haul
Business partnerships are similar to marriages. Consider the problems encountered by these two very different partnerships.
Challenging The Myths Surrounding Divorce Mediation
Challenging divorce mediation myths, such as whether or not mediation will work if only one spouse can communicate well.
Divorce Mediation: The Best Forum for Families with Special Needs Children
Families who have children with special needs constitute a significant percentage of the divorced population. Children, all children, present a mixed blessing. Some times they may help to save a marriage; other times they add to the stresses of daily living in ways that parents are not able to handle.
The Good Divorce
“What is a good divorce?” you ask. “After all, divorce is not a good or a happy event.” Correct you are. Divorce cannot be logically characterized as “good,” if we are referring to the event itself. Divorce is a time of sadness, even regret; it symbolizes the end to dreams once held. “ So,” you ask again,” how can a divorce be good?”
Most people do not think of their household belongings as assets. It is, after all, just “stuff”. Except, that is, if asked to view the stuff as property subject to division in divorce. Then, suddenly, even the smallest or most insignificant items are seen in a whole new light, indeed take on a whole new value.
Post-Divorce Blues: Unresolved Issues and New Problems Unsettle Divorced Spouses
Months, even years, of haggling and anxiety were finally at an end. A new beginning was in the offering. Yet the initial relief, may be filled with sadness, and may well be short-lived. Divorced couples are often faced with agreements that do little to help them navigate an evolving, and even rocky, future. Mediation provides an agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow.
agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow.
Do Women Shy Away From Mediation?
Women believe that mediation is something like a venus fly trap. The appearance is beguiling, but the results are deadly. In mediation, couples look at the well-being of the family unit, what it will take to forge new lives. A mediator’s responsibility is to make sure that women and men have the knowledge and the know-how to make intelligent choices, that both parties understand their options and opportunities.
Mediation: A Process for Empowerment of Both Parties
Mediation has long been identified as a process which promotes the self-actualization and empowerment of the individual participants. But what does empowerment mean? Clearly, it would not be a “good” outcome for mediation to encourage individuals to learn to be aggressive or confrontational or to stubbornly stand their ground, so empowered are they by their newfound self-worth or importance. Nor is empowerment akin to granting individuals his or her own bully pulpit. Rather, in mediation, empowerment represents individual growth and new found personal confidence and strength, as well as the acquisition of new skills.
Marital Mediation is Not Therapy
Mediation is not therapy. Mediation is a problem solving process in which the three participants, husband, wife, mediator, determine the issues to be tackled, what information is needed to embark on the process and what were the objectives to be gained.
Elder Divorce Mediation
As the remaining baby boomers turn 50 this year, we continue to see a significant increase in divorce and separation among the general population of those in that 50-plus age bracket.
Fault Or No Fault: It’s Not A Mediation Question
The question of fault or the reason for the demise of the relationship is not germane to the mediation process. Mediation is a problem-solving approach; it focuses on designing settlements that are fair to all involved family members. It is not a process for looking backward.
Divorce Mediation: A Tool For Empowerment
Why do individuals choose to mediate their separation, divorce, or post-divorce issues? For twenty-eight years, we at the Centre for Mediation & Dispute Resolution (CMDR) have been tracking the responses of our clients. Here’s a sampling of what they tell us:
Divorce Mediation: A Tool For Empowerment
Why do individuals choose to mediate their separation, divorce, or post-divorce issues? For twenty-eight years, we at the Centre for Mediation & Dispute Resolution (CMDR) have been tracking the responses of our clients. Here’s a sampling of what they tell us.
Parenting Plans For Special Needs Children
All parenting situations are not the same. In particular, in families of children with special needs, the parenting plan needs to be crafted with great care. Here, parents need to think and re-think child-related situations that over the years have most challenged their coping mechanisms and include provisions for their interaction and oversight that deal specifically with these very targeted issues.
Divorce Mediation: Tackling The Division Of Retirement Savings
Who gets what in a divorce action is rarely an easy question or a foregone conclusion. Interestingly, of all the holdings acquired during a marriage, psychologically and financially, the assets most difficult to divide are retirement funds.
A Glimpse into the Separation of Two Gay Couples
Gay couples, not unlike straight couples, have different stories to tell, different issues to resolve. Yet since Massachusetts’s legalization of gay marriages, the “divorcing” population can be divided clearly into two distinctive sets: one group “living together outside of marriage” and the other “married.”
Blended Families: Protecting Children The Second Time Around
Second marriages are a time for new beginnings, dreams of romance and adventure may abound. Then, too, there are the concerns. Most disturbing of all are the worries that center around entitlements of children.