Gini Nelson

Gini Nelson

Gini Nelson is a sole practitioner in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Her practice emphasizes private dispute resolution, including distance dispute resolution, and domestic, bankruptcy and bankruptcy avoidance law.




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Articles and Video:

Dear Futures Project: What I Think I Know (07/01/15)
We are the fortunate beneficiaries of Jim Melamed and Mediate.com's twenty years of dogged persistence in all things mediation. Here are a few things about what I think I know about the next five years or so to come.

From Gini Nelson (10/14/13)
Mediate.com continues to grow and to provide valuable resources and connections for mediators and other conflict workers! IMPRESSIVE! Please,Jim Melamed, keep putting your awesome energies and imagination into this forum!

Confronting Psychological Challenges: An Interview With Daniel Shapiro (09/28/09)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Daniel Shapiro. Daniel is Associate Director of the Harvard Negotiation Project, and is on the faculty at Harvard Law School and in the psychiatry department at Harvard Medical School/McLean Hospital. He specializes in the psychology of negotiation. He co-authored with Roger Fisher the book Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate (Viking, 2005). Daniel founded and directs the International Negotiation Initiative, a Harvard-based project that develops psychologically focused strategies to reduce ethnopolitical violence.

A Creative Thinker: An Interview with Jack W. Cooley (08/04/09)
We are here republishing this interview by Gini Nelson with Jack Cooley. Jack recently passed away. Among many accomplishments, Jack is a former United States Attorney, Senior Staff Attorney for the United States Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit, and a partner in a Chicago law firm. His most recent article at Mediate.com is “The Joke Model Of Creative Thinking.” The article got five stars from Robert Benjamin, who declared about it, “The creativity and quality of thought are obvious.”

Private Sector Innovation: An Interview with Wayne Brazil (03/09/09)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Wayne Brazil. Wayne Brazil has been a United States Magistrate Judge in northern California since 1984. Before joining the court, Judge Brazil was a law professor and a civil litigator. He has hosted some 1500 settlement conferences and helped design his court’s ADR program. He has published a number of articles about court sponsorship of ADR programs.

An Experienced Negotiator: An Interview with Chris Honeyman (10/27/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Christopher Honeyman. Christopher Honeyman, Managing Partner, CONVENOR Conflict Management, based in Madison, WI and Washington, DC. He has led a fifteen-year series of large-scale conflict management research and development projects funded by the Hewlett Foundation.

'Perceptions and Stories', 'Heuristics and Biases at the Bargaining Table', and 'Psychology and Persuasion' (10/14/08)
I’m reviewing The Negotiator’s Fieldbook: The Desk Reference for the Experienced Negotiator, Christopher Honeyman & Andrea Kupfer Schneider, Editors (ABA 2006), through the rest of 2007 and into 2008 (it has 80 chapters, more than 700 pages of substantive text, and something for everyone, from novice to expert!). I’m reviewing the book because it’s hot, hot, hot.

Peer Resource Extraordinaire: An Interview with Rey Carr (08/24/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Rey Carr. Rey Carr is the Chief Executive Officer of Peer Resources.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Applications in a Law Practice (08/04/08)
While this is written explicitly for lawyers, whether mediators or not, the same principles apply to mediators who are not attorneys, in terms of the value of applying its principles.

Im Baackkk! (07/29/08)
Some of you have asked, and I thank you for that. You may have noticed that I haven’t posted for a while. I’m okay — I’ve had to prioritize getting my law practice back up and running. I had let it drop to almost nothing for several years while I prioritized Engaging Conflicts. I’ve had a real learning curve as I changed my market niche from family law (which I still do it by referral), to bankruptcy and bankruptcy avoidance. It’s been challenging and...

A Peacebuilder by Calling: An Interview with Jayne Docherty (05/26/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Jayne Docherty. Jayne is professor of conflict studies at the Center for Justice and Peacebuilding at Eastern Mennonite University.

Online ADR Journalist: An Interview with Victoria Pynchon (05/05/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Victoria Pynchon. Her Settle It Now Negotiation Blog is a leader in the field, and she also publishes the IP ADR Blog and the Mediators Without Borders blog.

How To Talk Like A Mediator Part Four (05/05/08)
This concludes Mary Greenwood’s series based on an excerpt from Chapter 9, How To Mediate Like A Pro, published February 2008. Here are the links to Parts One, Two, and Three. As her bio states: Mary Greenwood is an attorney, Mediator and Author of award-winning book, How To Negotiate Like A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes and her most recent book is How To Mediate Like A Pro:42 Rules for Mediating Disputes.She lives in Miami Beach, Florida. Her website is...

Adding Cooperative Practice to the ADR Toolkit, Part Four (04/29/08)
This is one of Guest Blogger Law Professor John Lande’s posts in his series “Adding Cooperative Practice to the ADR Toolkit”. His Introduction is posted here. [Earlier Parts to the series are posted here: Part One, Part Two, Part Three] Part Four: The Divorce Cooperation Institute And How DCI Lawyers Do Cooperative Practice. The last part of this blog [Part 6] describes why the ADR field should add Cooperative Practice to the “ADR toolkit.” This part describes how lawyers can add it to ...

How To Talk Like A Mediator - Part Three (04/29/08)
This continues Mary Greenwood’s series based on an excerpt from Chapter 9, How To Mediate Like A Pro, published February 2008. Here are the links to Parts One, and Two. As her bio states: Mary Greenwood is an attorney, Mediator and Author of award-winning book, How To Negotiate Like A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes and her most recent book is How To Mediate Like A Pro:42 Rules for Mediating Disputes.She lives in Miami Beach, Florida. Her website is...

Malcolm Gladwell and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Part One (04/21/08)
A friend and colleague recently forwarded to me a September 2004 article Malcolm Gladwell did for The New Yorker on the MBTI and other personality tests that employers may use (Personality Plus: Employers Love Personality Tests. But What Do They Really Reveal?). I respect and use the MBTI as a tool in my law and mediation practices. Indeed, I am a “qualified administrator” of the instrument, which is a “controlled instrument” whose access and use is regulated as further...

A Conflict Transformer: An Interview with Kristine Paranica (04/14/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Kristine Paranica. Kristine is the Director of the University of North Dakota Conflict Resolution Center (CRC), where she also serves as Adjunct Professor of Law in Alternative Dispute Resolution. She is a Fellow and Administrative Director of the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation (ISCT), and a trainer and facilitator of transformative mediation, and conflict management.

The Negotiator's Fieldbook Series: 'Unforgiven: Anger and Forgiveness' (04/14/08)
I’m reviewing The Negotiator’s Fieldbook: The Desk Reference for the Experienced Negotiator, Christopher Honeyman & Andrea Kupfer Schneider, Editors (ABA 2006), through 2008 (it has 80 chapters, more than 700 pages of substantive text, and something for everyone, from novice to expert!). I’m reviewing the book because it’s hot, hot, hot. More about the book and its editors here. Unforgiven: Anger and Forgiveness Ellen Waldman & Frederic Luskin Here’s the annotation from the...

Four Questions About International Online Dispute Resolution Part Three (04/07/08)
Today’s post continues a series co-authored by myself and international business attorney Vonda K. Vandaveer on the use of online dispute resolution to solve problems associated with traditional ADR. [Earlier posts: Part One, Part Two.] This post addresses the question: What Disputes Work Well for ODR? Online ADR works well for most business disputes, assuming the parties want to obtain a mutually-acceptable resolution to their problem as opposed to “winning.” ODR is amenable to the same...

Four Questions About International Online Dispute Resolution Part One (03/31/08)
Today’s post introduces a series co-authored by myself and international business attorney Vonda K. Vandaveer. For business leaders, alternative dispute resolution rather than litigation has no doubt become the preferred process for handling problems, thanks to its efficiency, cost-effectiveness, and flexibility. As businesses become more global, however, the traditional methods of face-to-face mediation, arbitration or other dispute resolution processes pose significant logistical...

Four Questions About International Online Dispute Resolution Part Two (03/31/08)
Today’s post continues a series co-authored by myself and international business attorney Vonda K. Vandaveer on the use of online dispute resolution to solve problems associated with traditional ADR. [Earlier posts: Part One.] This post addresses the question: How Does ODR Work? ODR takes advantage of technology that most everyone in business already uses, such as computers, internet, email, instant chat, video conferencing, telephone conferencing, and increasingly VoIP (e.g. Skype). ODR...

10 Guidelines For Effective Brainstorming (03/24/08)
As her bio states: Randah Taher is a project developer and consultant who worked in montreal for 7 years before moving to Toronto, Canada, where she currently resides. She works with learning, non-profit organizations, and social enterprises, and is involved in projects concerning youth, education, and community revitalization. She consults and trains groups in creative problem solving tools, innovative strategic management, restructuring and program development. Randah is the founder of My...

Nobody Does It Better: An Interview with Diane Levin (03/10/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Diane Levin. Diane Levin publishes the award-winning blog, Mediation Channel, which explores conflict resolution, negotiation, and the law, together with the social and cultural influences that shape them. It also regularly features articles on mediation, in particular the training and credentialing of mediators, and examines the intersection of law, justice, and ADR. Mediation Channel has been designated a “Featured Blog” at Mediate.com and attracts regular readers from throughout the world.

Peter Adler's 12 Questions to the Presidential Candidates (03/10/08)
Peter Adler is one of the conflict specialists I respect most. Earlier posts about his work are posted here and here. He has a new, particularly timely article at Mediate.com that bears reporting: 12 Questions for Hillary Clinton, John McCain, and Barack Obama on “Eye-of-the-storm” Leadership. These are Peter’s questions to the Presidential Candidates: What Is Your History of Bringing People Together? Who Are Your Best Examples of Leaders Who Brought People Together? On...

John Lande Awarded the CPR Institute's 2007 Award for Outstanding Original Professional Article (03/04/08)
Congratulations to John Lande for receiving the 2007 CPR Award for Outstanding Original Professional Article in the 24th Annual Awards for Outstanding Scholarship in ADR. I posted about John’s article, “Principles for Policymaking About Collaborative Law and Other ADR Processes” here. From the press release: New York, NM, January 18, 2008 — The International Institute for Conflict Prevention & Resolution (CPR Institute), a membership-based, nonprofit alliance of...

Community Peace-maker: An Interview with John B. Stephens (01/14/08)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of John B. Stephens. Among many accomplishments, John is co-author of Reaching for Higher Ground in Conflict Resolution and an associate professor at the School of Government, UNC-Chapel Hill. He has worked on education, land use, and environmental issues, and designed and facilitated dialogues on homosexuality and denominational policies in the United Methodist Church. He can be reached at www.ncpdr.unc.edu

Drawings That Will Change Your Life (12/17/07)
Ralph Perrine has an article recently published at ChangeThis, described thusly: Ralph Perrine believes drawing to be indispensable to good planning and good collaboration-the top two critical skills for success in life. Here, he shares twelve drawings to help bring focus and clarity to teams and any personal planning. Well, actually, only 4 drawings are presented in the article but they are helpful and were enough to send me to his website where he is selling the full set as a 12-month...

WELCOME Guest Blogger Ombuds Thomas Kosakowski (12/04/07)

tomk.jpgFrom time to time, a Guest Blogger will share voice at Engaging Conflicts. Previous Guest Bloggers are introduced here. Today we welcome Guest Blogger Thomas Kosakowski. Tom is Claremont Graduate University’s first University Ombudsperson.

Tom majored in economics and minored in art at Occidental College. After working as an economist for eight years, Tom earned his law degree from Loyola Law School, where he was an editor of the Entertainment Law Journal and a member of Phi Delta Phi. In nine years of law practice, Tom represented and counseled clients in state and federal actions and in California State Bar disciplinary matters. Tom has also been an associate ombudsperson at UCLA and interim director of the ombuds office at UC Riverside. You can find out more about him and ombuds at his personal blog, The Ombuds Blog, with news and information for and about organizational ombuds. Yesterday marked the one-year anniversary of his blog — congratulations, Tom!

Tom has written a 10-part series for Engaging Conflicts on “10 Things Lawyers Should Know About Ombuds.” Here’s the series list:

1. Organizational Ombuds Are Different Than Classical Ombuds

2. The ABA Has Endoresed Ombuds

3. Ombuds Assert Their Communications are Privileged

4. Ombuds Protect Their Independence

5. Ombuds are Neutral and Impartial

6. Ombuds Avoid Formal Processes

7. Ombuds are Increasing in Number

8. Ombuds Don’t Keep Records

9. Ombuds Are Not Agents of Notice

10. Ombuds Provide Upward Feedback

The series will start soon. It’s part of the Engaging Conflicts‘ Taking Peacemaking Public series.

As Tom notes on his blog, equally appropriate for his posts here:

I am a University Ombudsperson, Mediator, and Attorney. The material in this blog does not reflect on any matters I have handled or am currently handling. This information should not be construed as legal, medical or psychological advice; readers should consult their own professionals for advice.

Welcome, Tom! We look forward to your series!

NZ Barrister, Commercial Mediator, Blogger: An Interview with Geoff Sharp (11/12/07)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Geoff Sharp. Geoff is the 2007 chair of the NZ Law Society ADR Committee and often speaks on mediation both in NZ and more recently in the United States at the invitation of the American Bar Association. He is also the author of mediator blah...blah...

The Online Media Workshop Highlights, ACR Phoenix 2007 (11/06/07)
Here are my notes for the presentation I made last Thursday at the ACR conference — just notes; you’ll have to go to the links for more information. (Oh, and I must confess that I may not recall all that we talked about, because we had a very lively, interactive discussion!) October 2007 ACR/Phoenix Wikis and Podcasts and Blogs, Oh My! HIGHLIGHTS Gini Nelson, MA, JD This isn’t a “how to”, so much as an overview of some of what I have tried in the past 1 and 1/2 years (and I ...

International Conflict Resolution Day and the International Coalition of Concerned Mediators (10/23/07)
Today is International Conflict Resolution Day, and the International Coalition of Concerned Mediators (ICCM) has annouced its re-launched new and improved website with a host of new functions and exciting opportunities. The new website is at the same URL: www.concernedmediators.org. The ICCM now has over 1000 signatures from 41 countries on its Call to Action first presented in October 2006 in Keystone, Colorado at the Consolidating Our Collective Wisdom Conference sponsored by The...

Nobody Does It Better: Diane Levin Interview (10/16/07)
“I actually have a bunch of heroes. They’re not the big iconic names in the field… Instead my heroes are the people in the trenches–the individuals I know who are using cyberspace to talk to the world about the conflict resolution field…” — Diane Levin Diane is interviewed in today’s issue of Engaging Conflicts Today. Diane publishes the award-winning blog, Online Guide to Mediation, which explores conflict resolution, negotiation, and the law,...

An Experienced Negotiator: Christopher Honeyman Interview (10/08/07)
“The field is so internally diverse that an ethical issue that strongly affects one type of practitioner is all but nonsensical in another area. But one ethical issue that I think really does apply across the board is the temptation not to be straight with the parties and the public as to the embedded values of a number of different programs and kinds of intervention.” — Christopher Honeyman Chris is interviewed in today’s issue of Engaging Conflicts Today. Chris is...

Spirit in Life and Practice: An Interview with Kenneth Cloke (10/01/07)
This is an interview by Gini Nelson of Ken Cloke, J.D., Ph.D., L.L.M., the Director of the Center for Dispute Resolution, and a nationally acclaimed author of journal articles and several books. Ken speaks to his career path, his perspective on conflict resolution and mediation.

Cyberweek 2007's Free Online Conference, October 15 to 19 (10/01/07)
The University of Massachusetts at Amhearst National Center for Technology and Dispute Resolution (NCTDR) has announced Cyberweek 2007, a week-long, all online, free conference on all things online dispute resolution. Details and links for registration are at the end of this post. I’m especially excited about a panel I’m setting up right now for John DeBruyn, the “go to guy” up in Denver, CO on spreading the word on innovative use of online tools for dispute resolution, ...

Private Sector Innovation: An Interview with James Melamed (09/23/07)
This is an interview of Jim Melamed, CEO of Mediate.com by Gini Nelson. Jim speaks to his career path, his perspective on mediation and our field, or lack of field, currently and in the future.

From Gini Nelson (09/06/07)
Mediate.com is truly cutting edge and the result of years of persistent hard labor. As Thomas Edison said, "Genius is 1 percent inspiration and 99 percent perspiration." I first saw Mediate.com at its booth at the first ACR Conference in Toronto in 2001. I had just a few weeks earlier found online articles about terrorism and our best response at Mediate.com immediately after 9/11 that moved me very deeply. I then used Mediate.com directly in my work in 2002-03 when I wrote a biweekly newspaper column for the Los Alamos Monitor, linking freely to Mediate.com articles. Next, I attended one of Jim Melamed’s workshop at the ACR Sacramento Conference on using online resources for a professional practice. And in March 2006, I was so inspired as to begin the Engaging Conflicts blog, and now have been embraced by Mediate.com as a featured Mediate.com Blog. In fact, Mediate.com, through its support, has elevated the visibility of all negotiation, mediation and conflict resolution blogs. Mediate.com -- cutting edge, innovative, a resource and ongoing support. Blessings on you!

The Negotiator's Fieldbook: Why Even the Best Get Stuck (09/04/07)
I’m reviewing The Negotiator’s Fieldbook: The Desk Reference for the Experienced Negotiator, Christopher Honeyman & Andrea Kupfer Schneider, Editors (ABA 2006), through the rest of 2007 and into 2008 (it has 80 chapters, more than 700 pages of substantive text, and something for everyone, from novice to expert!). I’m reviewing the book because it’s hot, hot, hot. More about the book and its editors here. Part I: Why Even the Best Get Stuck is comprised of three articles...

A Protean Negotiator: An Interview with Peter Adler (08/28/07)
This is an interview of Peter Adler, President of The Keystone Center and one of the world's leading public policy facilitators by Gini Nelson. Peter speaks to his perspective on the nature of negotiation, conflict and our field, or lack of field, currently and in the future.

Creative Thinker: John W. Cooley Interview (08/06/07)
John W. Cooley, former United States Attorney, Senior Staff Attorney for the United States Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit, and partner in a Chicago law firm, is featured in the current issue of Engaging Conflicts Today. His most recent article at Mediate.com is “The Joke Model Of Creative Thinking.” The article got five stars from Robert Benjamin, who declared about it, “The creativity and quality of thought are obvious.” If you would like a copy of his...

Being Human: Exploring Our Blind Spots and Biases Program Description Available (07/27/07)
Early Bird registration ends on August 3rd for the Being Human: Exploring Our Blind Spots and Biases CLE Conference taking place September 26-28, 2007 in Santa Fe. Early Bird registration also ends on the 3rd for the two-day pre-conference Transformative Mediation Training CLE (September 24-25, 2007). You’ll get your best prices for these events if you register now! I’ve completed the program description for September’s Conference now. The Conference features workshops by...

Free Emotional Intelligence Test At Six Seconds (07/09/07)
I’ve posted before about Six Seconds, a not-for-profit organization providing emotional intelligence information, tools, and services. Back in October 2006 they offered their SEI Strengths Report at no charge (when it is usually $15), which I posted about here. Now for the month of July 2007, they are offering the SEI 360. From their site: The SEI 360 is a new tool that measures “Emotional Performance” (EP) — the way your emotional intelligence is playing out in your...

'Sticky' Stories and 'Save the Darfur Puppy' (07/02/07)
Made To Stick:Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die… by Chip and Dan Heather (who are brothers) identifies six principles at work to create ideas that stick, ala Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point. I read it last week, and reviewed my notes yesterday, intending to begin my posts about the book. I found myself again amazed at how valuable and useful the book is… there was so much in even just my notes, that I could not get to the posting until today. Here’s from the...

Principles for Policymaking About Collaborative Law and Other ADR Processes (05/14/07)
Prof. John Lande has his new article (of the above-title) in the Ohio State Journal on Dispute Resolution (”JDR“), the official law journal of the American Bar Association’s Section on Dispute Resolution and the most cited journal in the field of Alternative Dispute Resolution, available as a .pdf online at his website. It’s a comprehensive and detailed article (almost 90 pages including it footnotes) recommending policymaking principles;...

Governor Bill Richardson Signs New Mexico Mediation Procedures Act Protecting Confidentiality For Mediation Communications (03/19/07)
Governor Bill Richardson yesterday signed the New Mexico Mediation Procedures Act, establishing confidentiality for certain mediation communications. Mediation is broadly defined to include any process that facilitates communication and negotiation between mediation parties, or promotes reconciliation between mediation parties. Mediator is also broadly defined to include any individual who holds herself out as a mediator and who conducts a mediation. The confidentiality protection is...

Colorado Ethics Committee Concludes Collaborative Law Per Se Unethical, Cooperative Law Not (03/12/07)
As previously posted in EngagingConflicts here, there is a significant ethical critique of Collaborative Law, and a growing movement for the practice of Cooperative Law. The main issue is Collaborative Law’s requirement of mandatory attorney disqualification if the process is unsuccessful. Cooperative Law is defined in the Colorado Ethics Committee’s Opinion as identical to Collaborative Law, but without the mandatory attorney disqualification agreement. This is the Conclusion from Ethics...

Building a Culture of Peace (03/05/07)
Dear Friends of Peace, You are cordially invited to attend the Building a Culture of Peace global conference on May 16-17 2007 in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The conference will be held at the Hilton Hotel in downtown Santa Fe. Registration and further information is at www.worldpeaceconference.org. This working conference will call together 500 local, national and global leaders for inquiry and strategic thinking on the question, “What would it take to transform the current culture of violence ...

Ethical Standards for Elder Mediation Symposium (02/12/07)
You are invited to the First National Symposium on Ethical Standards for Elder Mediation, April 19-20, 2007 at Temple University’s James E. Beasley School of Law, Philadelphia, PA. Find all the details at www.mediation-services.org. This exciting 2-day event will feature Harry “Rick” Moody, Nancy Neveloff Dubler, Robert Baruch Bush and distinguished panelists from the fields of mediation, elder law, bioethics, geriatric ethics, geriatric medicine and social work. The Symposium will tackle...