Oran Kaufman has been a mediator since 1994 and runs Amherst Mediation Services in Amherst, MA where he concentrates his practice in the area of divorce and family mediation. He is also co-owner of ConflictWorks which provides conflict resolution training for organizations and businesses. He is a former president of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation and is and advanced practitioner with the Association of Conflict Resolution and the Academy of Professional Family Mediators and a certified mediator with MCFM. He has lectured extensively and written numerous articles on mediation related topics.
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Mediation and Lawyers
A common question at my initial free consultation with clients is, “Will I need to have a lawyer?” or, “Am I going to have to hire a lawyer?”
Timing is Everything Again
They say that in real estate the key is “location, location, location.” It could certainly be argued that in mediation the parallel is “Timing, timing, timing.”
Can You Teach an Old Dog New Tricks?
What can mediators learn from dog training?
Even More Conflict Resolution Tips
Following up on two previous articles, this article taps into 24 years of mediation experience and provides divorcing couples with tips that will help them navigate their divorce and mediation process in sane and healthy manner and will help them stay in control of the process.
What Should You Ask Your Mediator at the Initial Session?
What I offer in this article is some thoughts and ideas of questions that may be helpful to ask at your initial consultation with your mediator.
On What Level Are We Mediating?
How do you define success in mediation? The answer depends in part on who is asking the question? Success for the parties may be different than success for the mediator or success for the court. This article explores the question of how to define success in mediation from a variety of angles including what does success mean for the mediation profession?
Mediation and CollabLaw
What is the difference between mediation and collaborative law? Couples going through divorce today fortunately have many more options available to them to finalize their divorce. Choosing the right approach involves knowing and understanding the differences between approaches.
More Conflict Resolution Tips for Divorcing Couples
Many aspects of the mediation and conflict resolution process are counter-intuitive. It is very easy and tempting as clients to throw in the towel and give up on the mediation process when an impasse occurs. This article provides useful tips for the mediator to properly set the stage so this does not occur and suggestions for clients that will allow them to work through the conflicts and bumps in the road that are bound to arise in the mediation process.
From Oran Kaufman
Mediate.com is not only a wonderful opportunity for mediators to share their thoughts and ideas, it is a great resource for articles on a multitude of topics. As an additional benefit, I recently got a new client who found me through an article I had written in mediate.com. Keep up the good work.
Looking For A Mediator In The Internet Age
Mediators love information gathering. It is an essential part of our process. Thus, coming from an “information is power” perspective, the Internet is an amazing tool for consumers searching for a mediator. The problem today is generally not that there is not enough information, but, rather, that there is an overwhelming amount of information. So how is one to weed through the multitude of Google ads, mediation websites and third party sites such as Mediate.com? This article provides guidance on some steps to take to find the right mediator for you.
The Benefits Of Facilitated Meetings In Guardianships And Conservatorships: A Case Study
I recently was involved in a case involving an elder with dementia that is a wonderful case study and a great example of the benefits of an early intervention/facilitated family meeting. The names and some of the facts have been changed to protect the identity of those involved.
Timing Is Everything
Timing plays an important role in all aspects of mediation. What time of day is the mediation occurring? Are there things to be watchful for if the mediation is occurring in a particular month? What if one party wants to move fast and the other wants to slow down the mediation? This article explores these issues and will increase your awareness about the importance of timing in mediation.
Lingerers, Malingerers and Those who Throw Zingers: Dealing with Challenging Clients
Unlike litigation and trials, in the mediation process there are no set rules. Without your own set of clear guidelines and boundaries it is very easy to get trapped and tripped up. Unless the mediator has established clear guidelines in advance, clients will test the boundaries, sometimes unwittingly and at times with a purposeful intent. This article explores some of those challenging situations and what mediators can do to avoid an ethical dilemma that could potentially derail the mediation.
Conflict Resolution Tips for Divorcing Couples
Mediation provides clients with a safe venue to discuss their divorce. Mediation however will not automatically undo years of ingrained behavior. Mediators and therapists can offer clients tools which will help them mentally and emotionally for the divorce process. Below are a few suggestions. At the end of this article, I have included a Conflict Self-Assessment tool as well as an outline of this article which you can give to clients engaged in the divorce mediation process.
The Benefits Of Self Reflection In Your Mediation Practice
It is not uncommon in our busy practices to overlook the benefit of spending time to reflect on mediations we have conducted and mediations that are coming up. There are lessons in every mediation, whether the mediation was successful or not. Taking the time to think about and evaluate mediation sessions improves our skills as mediators and ultimately helps us provide better services to our clients.