Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships

This review by Denise Arellano is for the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD.

 Initially I thought this book wouldn’t be relevant to me since I didn’t consider myself a “violent” communicator. A few pages into the book however, it became evident to me that despite my easy-going nature, I had much to learn about communication. Dr. Rosenberg identifies learned communication that disconnects us from each other and is at the very root of violence. He then offers a simple yet powerful 4 step model that leads to respectful and compassionate communication. One catch – while the model is simple, it can be challenging to apply, especially when we’re upset. That’s because most of us have learned to blame others when we’re upset and it’s hard to unlearn this behavior. However, use of the model deepens our awareness and it becomes very clear how destructive our habitual knee-jerk reactions are to both ourselves and others. The Nonviolent Communication model helps us to become conscious and choose to respond differently – that is in ways that are more likely to lead to positive and satisfying outcomes for everyone. If you’d like to transform your relationships, for example: learn how to really listen to others while not taking anything you hear personally (what a gift!), learn how to give and receive in ways that are deeply gratifying, and much more, this is a must read. Also, this model is applicable in all relationship types – perfect for couples, parents, teachers, managers, executives, counselors and anyone else interested in relationship building.

On a personal note, this book has been life-changing for me. I have witnessed truly amazing results in all my relationships including one relationship which had been a great struggle for me for many years.

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Denise Arellano

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Marshall Rosenberg

Dr. Marshall Rosenberg has spent more than 40 years of traveling the world teaching communication, managing anger, empathy, conflict resolution, mediation and peace building skills.  In the past 15 years, primarily through word of mouth, his Nonviolent Communication book has been translated into over 30 languages and purchased by over… MORE >

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