Mom: The Ultimate Mediation Trainer

There’s some debate about whether great mediators are born or made. I say that those of us lucky enough to have Mom’s as mediation trainers provide a great model for sound mediation principles. My Mom, Bette, taught me these principles which have guided and eased not only my parenting, but some good instincts which serve me well professionally, too. Here are a few: 1) Be patient. 2) Not all of your wishes will come true. Choose those that are really important to you, and give in on those that aren’t. 3) Life is about compromise. You can’t win “em all! 4) You are the best and the smartest and the prettiest. But you don’t have to tell people that to earn their love or approval. 5) Always be respectful. 6) Develop a curiosity about people. There is something good or interesting in everyone you meet. 7) Creativity counts more than smarts. 8) Put yourself out. People will appreciate it. 9) You get out of life what you put into it. 10) Strive to be fair. If you are fair to others, they will be fair to you. 11) Watch what you eat and take care of your health. That’s the only body you’ll get. 12) There’s a time to speak and a time to remain silent. Sometimes people just need to be listened to. 13) If you really want something, persevere. You’ll get it or something else will come along. 14) Be open to new challenges and adventures. 15) Nobody can take away your self esteem but you. Stand up straight! 16) Put value in the stuff that you can’t buy: love of family, friends and your good health. The rest doesn’t matter.

On this Mother’s Day, I appreciate these lessons and want to say “Thanks Mom” and to all of the Mom’s who have spent a lifetime teaching by their example in ways that promote peace.

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Jan Frankel Schau

Attorney Jan Frankel Schau is a highly skilled neutral, engaged in full-time dispute resolution. Following a successful career spanning two decades in litigation, she has mediated over 700 cases for satisfied clients. Ms. Schau understands the nuances of trial and settlement practice as well as client relations and balancing the… MORE >

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