Professional Details

Stacey Langenbahn, J.D.
Senior MediatorSenior MediatorSenior Mediator

Detente Mediation Services, LLC

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7137 Colleyville Blvd.,
Suite 101
Colleyville, TX 76034


Description of Practice

This Mediator is Certified
Détente mediation offers a fresh, innovative approach to separation, divorce, or reconciliation that is healthy, family-friendly, and affordable.

Divorce litigation devastates family and finances. Our unique divorce mediator team is a sensible alternative to the adversarial two lawyer divorce system for those couples and parents who want to stay in control of their family's future and make their own decisions. At Détente ninety-five percent of clients successfully reach agreement on all their issues!

One neutral family lawyer and a counseling professional skillfully guide a couple over legal, financial, and emotional hurdles to reach well-informed private agreements that work for everyone. No matter the conflict, Détente’s clients make best choices, achieve best outcomes, and preserve best future relationships! Trust only Détente's experienced divorce mediators to gather information; explore options; and negotiate well-informed, mutually acceptable agreements for your bright futures! Call today for a free consultation to see if Détente is right for you!

Professional Background

Founder, Détente Mediation Services, LLC; developer of collaborative mediation; Best Lawyers in America 2012, 2013; Top ADR Attorney Ft. Worth Magazine; "Superb" Avvo rating; mediator, civil and family trial lawyer, and pioneer in collaborative law for over two decades. Collaborative mediation and collaborative law international and national trainer and presenter.


Stacey turned her attention full-time to family/divorce mediation in 2009, practicing a cutting edge consensual resolution process she developed called collaborative mediation. Detente's collaborative mediation made its international debut at the Imago Relationship Institute in Vancouver, BC in 2012. Collaborative mediation combines the best strategies of collaborative law with the simplicity and cost effectiveness of mediation. The result is an affordable, family friendly process that has proven more effective than mediation or collaborative law alone. Before becoming a full time family mediator, for almost two decades Stacey successfully represented clients as a trial lawyer in hundreds of mediations. She has also served as a neutral mediator since 2000, and was a pioneer of collaborative law in Texas, nationally, and internationally. She co-drafted the Global Collaborative Law Council's participation agreement and protocols of practice that are being used worldwide.


Washington College of Law at the American University, Washington, D.C.
1989; University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill 1985


Dates    Trainer(s)    Title   
2000    Academy of Attorney-Mediators    Basic mediation training (40 hours)
2002    Association of Attorney-Mediators    Advanced mediation training (18 hours)
2003     Latz Negotiations    Advanced negotiations training (8 hours)
2004 - 2009    International Academy of Collaborative Professionals    Basic and advanced collaborative law training (100+ hours)
2009    Peace Talks Mediation Services    Basic family mediation training (25 hours)
2012    Academy of Professional Family Mediators    Advanced mediation training (25 hours)


Stacey knew if she was not part of the solution, she was part of the problem. She made a conscious decision she would no longer contribute as a divorce lawyer to the same broken family law system that caused her so much pain from her own parents' divorce. Stacey knows exactly what it feels like to be pulled in different directions by parents she loved equally. She saw a real need for an early, cost-effective reconciliation, separation, divorce, and post divorce resolution process that is family centered, client controlled, and that could be done with or without divorce lawyers. She knew from her collaborative law experience that having a family counselor to encourage communications and manage emotions (not to do therapy) was a key aspect of successful negotiations between parents or divorcing spouses. Stacey created Detente and developed the concept of collaborative mediation. People seeking divorce, separation, or end of the rope reconciliations benefit from a neutral legal professional and a family counselor team. The combination of professionals has resulted in a streamlined process that has been remarkably successful. If they do not settle in Detente's collaborative mediation process, the parties do NOT lose their lawyers!


We are with you start to finish. We give you a free consultation at the beginning, and a free hour at the end to coordinate with attorneys (if you have them) to make sure there are no hitches in the completion of your divorce. Unless they are in "Fast Track", couples meet with us in a series of two hour mediation sessions. There is a fixed fee per session that covers both of you and your co-mediators. Because every family is different, it is difficult to predict how many sessions or much assistance outside of sessions you might need from your mediators. Most couples finish in four to six two-hour sessions. Some have taken more. A few have taken less. The good news is because you control that decision yourselves, you also control the cost of your mediation. We have pricing flexibility and will try to work within your budget. Come in and talk to us about your situation. We offer a "Fast Track" alternative for couples who are fully committed to working together to stay out of court and who have very limited issues to decide (little or no property and/or no children). "Fast Track" gives you all the benefits of our co-mediation team and T.R.U.C.E. steps just like in full mediation, but you save money by mediating in one three-hour session or two sessions of two hours each.

Areas of Practice

  • Adult Family
  • Divorce (all issues)
  • Divorce (parenting)
  • Family
  • Marital Mediation
  • Parent-Teen
  • Pet Mediation

Professional Services

  • Mediator
  • Advanced Mediation Trainer
  • Communication Skills Trainer
  • Mediation Consultant
  • Mediation Trainer
  • Conflict Coach
  • Mediating Lawyer

References available upon request.


      Collaborative Mediation.pdf Collaborative Mediation.pdf