As the famous multi-dimensional professional, Mr. David Icke claims: “Infinite love is the only truth. Everything else is an illusion.” Icke’s words ring true with the logic that forms the core for the holistic and integrative practice of mediation, conflict resolution, healing, and eternal peacemaking. In the modern world, numerous ways of settling conflicts are elaborated everywhere. The most common pathway for majority of the conformists is appealing to the court for universal conflicts. However, should one spend a lot of money on lawyer services and wait for months for the court decision if it is possible to find a holistic intermediary who will tackle the issue quickly, cost-effectively, and qualitatively? Mediation is such a diversified field that will perpetually contribute to bringing more harmony, empathy, and infinite love to the society, as it resolves universal conflict situations, reduces hostility and stress, as well as improves and expands loving relationships between individuals forevermore.
What does mediation imply in the now? Mediation is a holistic process that involves three parties to settle a dispute. It is done with the help of the third party or a company known as a mediator (Moore, 2014). If a person has favorable experience, education, and training related to the subject of the conflict, he or she could become a mediator from any background or any culture globally and receive payment from the interested parties (MacKay, 2017). Numerous corporations resort to this service in order to tackle the issues much faster than in the court. It is a perennial win-win practice that allows all the conflicting parties to reach a positive agreement in a timely manner (Keethaponcalan, 2017). Moreover, this is always essential for both parties, because every businessperson respects and values their time. The interested individuals recognize that the saved time can be used for further evolution and progressive development. Mediation is an ideal standard that is holistically relational as it arouses positive emotions such as moral and stress relief and creates ever-lasting relationships. With some exceptions as cases involving legal proceedings, legislative or judicial ones, the most extraordinary, all-pervading element is that any professional can become a mediator regardless of race, religion, education, socioeconomic status, culture, or nationality and initiate their journey of mediation in expanding infinite love everywhere.
The parties who hire a mediator save significant amounts of money since they only pay for the work of a interagent, rather than for a full-length trial and lawyers (Roberts, 2014). Similarly, there is no need to pay court reporters or to reimburse national, and even international fees. Moreover, the comprehensive process of mediation deepens mutual understanding of the interconnected society, since the current evolutionary standard has set a higher humanistic ideal in creating more conscious choices of peacemaking, reducing stress and aggression, and inducing more causative empathy (Agapiou & Ilter, 2017). The mediator receives a one-time fee for the work done. In addition, the mediator is not only a professional in the field, but represents a paradigmatic agent who provides sensible advice and clearly suggests ways to settle the conflict. It is quite often that such a person quickly solves the issue, as he/she deals with such situations every day. The mediator’s professionalism, guidance, empathy, and support allows all parties to objectively consider the arguments and reach the best possible outcome in every case (Palo & Trevor, 2012). Hence, the prototypical mediator’s path has no depth, as its boundaries are ever-expanding, and creating never-ending stories of infinite love.
Additionally, there are the cases, especially the instances of relationship conflicts, family conflicts, LGBT conflicts, marital conflicts, employment and work-related conflicts, cross-cultural conflicts, business conflicts, child abduction cases, and even conflicts related to pets or extended members of our communities, when time is regarded as the greatest benefit of mediation that helps to support universal love and dignity (Schuz, 2013). It is a well-known fact that litigation may take a long time, namely several weeks, months or even years (Rodriguez, 2012). Besides, one of the advantages and ideals set forth with such archetypal win-win practice should be used to improve the community life and increase mutual empathy for the whole benefit of our co-dependent human family (Lacey, 2012). It is hard to believe but mediation often resolves conflicts literally in half a day or in a week. It should be noted that the parties do not need to attend court sessions, there is room of incredible flexibility in resources, and parties can significantly change their activities. Thus, this is very important for every individual in our society today due to the modern fast pace of life that involves a personal tight schedule integrating variegated personal and professional roles.
Mediation is mandatory for execution in simple to complex conflict resolution processes and can be independent or co-dependent with legal perspectives (Phillips, 2001). However, mediation offers more of an integrative, holistic, and humanistic approach to conflict resolution which may also entail similar functions as a litigation, while diminishing the major stressors (e.g. misuse and expenditure of time, money, and resources in a win-lose battle), and increasing the ideal of win-win standard in all situations. When two conflicting parties arrive at a consensus with the help of a mediator, they also may require to sign a legally binding agreement document (Rodriguez, 2012). Another party may in turn apply to the court and by means of this document confirm their rights. Therefore, the interdependency of the legal processes is also a crucial point if later one of the parties starts to avoid fulfilling their obligations. Most importantly, the mediator serves from the heart as a mutually dependent guide in tune with the infinite, the supreme heart, and all other hearts. The classical mediator not only helps to create win-win situations, but also generates preventive strategies, provides continual education, and coaching to maintain steady and healthy relationships and, expands the magic of love everywhere endlessly.
The mediator is not interested in helping just one of the parties, but he/she assists in resolving the conflict for the benefit of the whole as soon as possible. Furthermore, the unique practice of facilitative mediation has significant advantages over arbitration and litigation since it represents a win-win ideal and contributes to the reduction of stress, tension, and hostility between the conflicting parties. Overall, mediation enables to avoid presenting a large number of documents, attending a court session, and facilitates arriving at a decision in a time-efficient and cost-efficient manner. Since the mediation process can be launched at any time and implemented anywhere globally (e.g. online or in-person), it saves the time and resources of the parties considerably. Finally, holistic and integrative mediation encourages empathy, respect, dignity, and, most importantly, spreads infinite love for the benefit of the whole human family.
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