In a recent blog post, Adryenn Cantor, a San Diego, CA attorney included an excellent list of five questions for people to ask themselves to determine if they are a good candidate for using Collaborative Law in a divorce case. Here are her questions:
"Do you want to end your marriage with respect and integrity?
Is taking a rational and fair approach to dividing your assets more important than seeing yourself as a winner and your spouse as the loser in this process?
Are your children the most important aspect in this process?
Is saving money, which could go to you or your children more important than spending it on protracted litigation?
Do you want to model for yourself, your spouse and your children how mature adults handle significant challenges?"
If you answer "Yes" to one or more of the questions, you should seriously consider using Collaborative Law. You can find a lot of information on this blog about how it works. You can also search other web sites for information. Finally, call a local trained Collaborative lawyer and meet face-to-face to discuss the process and whether it would be helpful and appropriate for you.
Warning: Some lawyers advertise that they do Collaborative Law when they really don’t. If you meet with an attorney who tells you Collaborative won’t work for you, do yourself a favor and get a second opinion from another Collaborative lawyer. You may have run into one of the "bait and switch" non-Collaborative lawyers.
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