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Everyone Has a Story . . .

Yes…it’s true, everyone has a story. I have a story, you have a story, your friend has a story, even your enemy has a story. Everyone has a story. Agreed?
When I sit down with people everyone has a story. These stories usually are conflicting stories and each person believes that their story is the truth. I also formulate a story from these stories…then there is a ‘story’ that actually happened out there somewhere. One thing that I try to do is to get people to see the other person’s story…whether they believe it or not, then both people/parties can formulate a new story together. One thing that I love about the video below is the last two cards that Jordan holds up….I’m not going to write them…but take a look at them and let them sink in.

I know this video isn’t talking about mediation or conflict (well…kind of about conflict for sure…) specifically, but I think it is something that will help all of us in our next conflictual (yes I created a new word) situation. Take a look and let me know what you think down in the comments section!


Jason Dykstra

Jason is a Conflict Management Specialist who is helping organizations and congregations move from conflict situations to creative solutions. He specializes in relational and communication issues and uses his experience and training in mediation, group facilitation, conflict management coaching, speaking and teaching to aid you and your surroundings to better… MORE >

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