Don’t Hold Grudges. Nobody Wins.

From Vivian Scott’s Conflicts Of InterestBlog

One of the most interesting people I know just happens to be 100 years old. Mr. Raynes is long retired from a career as a pharmacist in Dayton, Ohio but he still volunteers at the local hospital. I’m not exactly certain what he does there, but one thing I know for sure is that anyone who has the opportunity to come into contact with him is one lucky dog. His gentle spirit and fascinating stories will suck you in from the get-go. At least I know they did me when I first met him a number of years ago.


I was thinking about him recently and realized his 100 years on this earth have probably given him quite a bit of insight into conflict and relationships in general. I asked him to share some wisdom with me so that I could share it with you. After thinking long and hard about it (weeks actually), he finally replied with, “Don’t hold grudges. Nobody wins.”


I thought about adding a few hundred words about the problems with grudges but I think I’ll just leave it at that. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t need me to expound on his thought because, well, it’s pretty clear. Instead, I’ll just thank him for the reminder. “Don’t hold grudges. Nobody wins.” Got it.


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Vivian Scott

Vivian Scott is a Professional Certified Mediator and the author of Conflict Resolution at Work For Dummies.  She spent many years in the competitive and often stress-filled world of high tech marketing where she realized resolving conflict within the confines of office politics was paramount to success.  Through creative solutions… MORE >

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