Comments: Negotiating Happiness: Managing Peoples’ Predictably Irrational “Focusing Illusions” - Part 1

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Peter , Dillon Co   11/23/12
Negotiating Happiness
Robert, good piece. However, I wasnt aware that misanthropes were allowed to write about happiness. Its like asking anarchists to write rules. Then again, now that I think on it, who better? All best. -Peter Adler

Steven Abel, nyack ny     11/21/12
Divorce Statistics
Once again, you've taken a new tack that may really move things in our world of divorce mediation. I had a little twitch of unhappiness about that statistic that half of marriages end in divorce. The actual stat is closer to 40% but it seems that there's no consensus on a real figure. This statistic is part of the cultural landscape that may allow some people to be "happy" with getting divorced. It may be comforting to think that you're just part of a large movement and that divorce is "normal." And "normalizing" divorce is one of the advantages of mediation compared to litigation, which tends to treat every case as exceptional. So, I'm looking forward to the next installment, while thinking about whether to introduce the question of what would make you happy to my clients this morning.

Stephen Cipolla, WYNCOTE PA   11/20/12
Robert, I have been reading your work for years now, and this is the first time I felt I had to comment. If you're not the most literate and compassionate lawyer current writing, the I don't know who is. I am amazed by your grounding in Philosophy, psychology and sociology. And, you manage to integrate your knowledge of many disciplines in a way that conveys concrete advice, and is intellectually stimulating. For the past few months I have been considering mediation training and as I read your insights, I am even more drawn to the idea.

Pamela , Bozeman MT   11/20/12
Thank you Robert. Many of your comments could also be applied to what can be called "identity" conflicts where people's self-identification is put into question. Possibly one could say that a part of happiness could be becoming fully oneself. When a dispute prevents that self-actualization, those are the most profound conflicts. Looking forward to your next article. Pam Poon