Comments: Your Divorce Mission Statement

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Ada Jo Mann, Washington Di  adajo@innovationpartners.com     01/14/11
Positive Family Dynamics
If you are interested in an Appreciative approach to family conversations, please check out "Positive Family Dynamics: Appreciative Questions to Bring Out THe Best in Families. It's available at www.taosinstitute.net/positive-family-dynamics Enjoy

Diana Mercer, Los Angeles CA  diana1159@aol.com     01/13/11
Just embarassed it took me 22 years....
I'm just embarassed it took me 22 years to figure out "begin with the end in mind" applies to divorce and everything we do, not just our to do list!

Leah , Buford GA  leah@leahcagle.com     01/13/11
What a great idea! Divorce is messy. Getting couples to focus on "how they want the story of their divorce, and life afterward, to read" can help them to move beyond the hurt and work toward healing.

Diana Mercer, Los Angeles CA   01/13/11
Parenting Mission Statement
@Joseph I love this idea! What a great way to get people in a positive mindset.

Joseph Chamberlin, Baltiomore Md  joe@praxismediation.com     01/13/11
Parenting Statements
The article was interesting. It reminded me a process that I use. Trained in Appreciative Inquiry, I often have parents develop a Parenting Statement. I ask each parent to list three hopes for their child(ren) when they reach 18 years of age. What are their respective hopes? What will the child be doing? What kind of person will they be? I have them sit quietly and individually write their hopes on a sheet of paper. Then, I have one of them share a hope which I write on a chart for both of them to see. If they have the same hope I hold it up as a point of agreement. I often have them read the list alternating so that they read what the other person said. The resulting statement is kept posted during the mediation reminding the parties that our work is to help them develop a parenting plan that will ensure their hopes are realzed. The statement is included in the parenting plan.