Comments: Our Culture of Conflict: Snorts and Retorts of an Untamed Brat
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Frank Laney 06/29/05
Loved your article.
I must share my health club incident. I was a member of the local YMCA
for years. They had no policy on bringing gym bags into the weight room,
but no one ever did and they did provide free lockers. To do a stretch
for my back, I need to sit with my back against a wall, legs out in front.
Due to windows, doors, mirrors and equipment, in the entire 2 room
weights area, there was only about 3 feet of available wall space for me
to stretch. Sometimes I had to wait, but that was OK.
One day there was a gym back had been dropped by that wall space. I
looked around, saw no one near by, moved it a few feet down the wall and
sat down. The owner came over, barked at me for messing with his stuff, I
pointed out that I needed the wall and he should not have a bag in here
anyway. He then offered to go out in the parking lot to discuss it
further. I left.
On the way out, I complained to the staff, as I do not go to the Y to
receive offers to get beat up. The kind, sensitive staff person
counselled me that I should not have moved the jerk's stuff. Thus,
presumably, he was justified in offering to beat my head in.
I had to react to the last paragraph of your excellent article. My father
died May 25 after a long cancer fight, and his last two days were spent in a
Hospice facility. They were so unresponsive and callous to him and our
family that it evoked temper tantrums from me and other family members who
are not (as I am) tantrum-prone. It certainly did positively influence the
care he ultimately received, but as my mother said, if it takes a temper
tantrum from a grown woman to get it done, you go girl. They consider you
crazy and do what you say only to shut you up. They could NEVER be
responsible, could they?
I enjoyed your article, thank you.