Co Parenting Strategies

Divorce Detox blog by Allison Pescosolido M.A.

  • Co Parenting Strategies

    1. MaintainConsistency.

    Set boundaries and routines for daily practice. Choose quality time of quantity.

    2. Share Parenting.

    Set routines for visitation and exchange. Even when you can’t look at your ex, be sure to send an email with important family issues. Be a role model for good behavior. Act the way you want everyone to act.

    3. Educate Yourself.

    Learn about the impact of divorce on children then have a conversation. Open the doors by talking with your children.

    4. Define Divorce.

    Be a role model for the divorce transition. Act with integrity. Be aware of your own thoughts concerning divorce. Knowing your feelings will help. Remember there is no definitive outcome, only self- created experience.

    5. Help Yourself.

    Be sure to spend time with your feelings and emotions. They are your body’s feedback. Get professional help. You need mental healthcare during this dramatic life change. You need legal assistance. Make sure you get them. Exercise. Eat well. Sleep. Take care of you.


    Allison Pescosolido

    Allison Pescosolido, M.A. is a relationship expert with a Masters in Psychology, from the University of Santa Monica, undergraduate degrees in Economics, Urban Studies and Public Policy from Boston University and is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist® by The Grief Recovery Institute. Allison has helped thousands of men and women transform their lives through major… MORE >

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