When locked in bitter conflict, sometimes people resort to court. This can result in poor outcomes as the court is more limited in terms of solutions that can be ordered.
What is needed is a flexible approach to service and services that are actually structured to address specific issues. Here are four examples of specific issues and services that may be helpful:
Issue: Parents have concern about the behavior and/or mental health of a child. They each blame the other for the situation. The child is likely stuck in the middle. This is a situation that calls for a more clinical approach to resolve the difficulties.
Issue: Parents each believe that the court will find in their favor to settle a dispute. However, the process is both lengthy and costly. Neither may understand about the various other approaches available to resolve the conflict, approaches that may be more timely, cost effective and more likely to provide a peaceful resolution. This situation calls for a sit-down to discuss process options that are available for resolving the dispute. Although perhaps a costly meeting, this upfront cost is often far less expensive that going through litigation. It helps to know your options.
Issue: In some situations, the parents are locked in with opposing views, realize that court will be a costly and risky option, yet don’t have confidence in handling mediation alone. The parents already have their own litigation lawyers and don’t want to begin a new process with Collaborative lawyers. This is a situation where working with a mediator yet including the lawyers can provide relief to the issues at hand.
Issue: As much as most parents try to keep their children out of the conflict, there are times when hearing from the child can be helpful to the parents who then can more reasonably structure their parenting plan. This is particularly helpful in situations involving preteen and young teen-aged children expressing a residential preference.
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