Working with Financial Neutrals (10/18/21)
One of the hardest problems that a divorcing couple may face is how to divide up marital property.

Who Wears the Pants in Your Family? (09/07/21)
So much has changed! When I was growing up, the expectation for middle-class marriages (which were always between women and men) was that it was the man’s job to earn enough money to support the family, and it was the woman’s job was to have children and to contribute to the economy by spending money.

Why I Don’t Caucus (08/30/21)
One of the things to think about when you are looking for a divorce mediator is whether they will meet with both of you together or will meet with you each separately.

The Five Divorces (08/09/21)
Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college.¹ They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce.

You Might Have more in Common with Bill and Melinda Than You Think… (06/01/21)
Bill and Melinda Gates recently announced that they are divorcing after 27 years. Besides having to address their billions of dollars and their enormously influential foundation, this has brought attention to issues of a mature (or “gray”) divorce.

We Hear What We Want to Hear! (03/27/20)
"But how did you flunk the test? We studied together! I know you were prepared!”

Promises, Promises (02/14/20)
The Oscar-nominated film, Marriage Story, by Noah Baumbach, is really a divorce story. It centers on the relationships between Nicole, an actor, her husband, Charlie, a Broadway director, and their eight-year-old son, Henry.

What’s in Your Wallet? (Do You Know?) (12/27/19)
One of the things that I’ve noticed when I mediate is that one person in a couple is often much more financially literate than the other.

What to Do After You Get Your Divorce Judgment (11/29/19)
When we submit your divorce papers to the court in order to obtain a Judgment of Divorce (JOD), the terms of the Settlement Agreement become the law.

Being a Guide (11/22/19)
This weekend, I saw the movie, Harriet, a riveting film about Harriet Tubman. I learned about how to guide people through conflict.

What to Do After You Get Your Divorce Judgment (10/25/19)
When we submit your divorce papers to the court in order to obtain a Judgment of Divorce (JOD), the terms of the Settlement Agreement become the law.

What Happens in the Mediation Room? (07/12/19)
I ask both parties to come in for an introductory meeting when they inquire about divorce mediation.

Hold Your Grudges! (06/06/19)
Are grudges useful in negotiation?

What’s Fair Is Fair… Or Is It? (04/12/19)
“I only want what is equitable. That is my operating principle.”

Who Are We (12/07/18)
One of the oddest questions I have to ask when I am preparing adoption petitions or processing divorces is how people identify in terms of religious heritage, race, or ethnicity.

Why Do I Want You to Stay in the Room? (10/05/18)
I want to say a word about neutrality, which is a very important concept in mediation.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T — Find Out What it Means to Me! (09/24/18)
I write this just days after the death of the infamous Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin.

Families Belong Together (08/10/18)
Several experts have commented on the trauma the children must have experienced being separated from their families.

Keep Your Enemies Closer (07/02/18)
We are all capable of hating; but we are all capable of loving, as well.

Tips for Keeping the Kids out of the Conflict (12/22/17)
Remembering this simple list may go a long way in helping your child — and you — through rocky waters.

Dividing the Marital Home (12/09/17)
One of the things that needs to be decided in a divorce is how you’re going to divide up what you own together, and one of the biggest assets that couples usually own is their home.

I Hear You (09/01/17)
“I hear you.” Listening is a very simple act.

Prenup? That’s Good News! (08/08/17)
Your wedding day is only a few months off and your fiancé nervously mentions that he would like a prenuptial agreement.

Why Do I Love What I Do? (07/21/17)
We transition from the family we were born into to the ones we create.

Mediating Your Divorce? Do You Still Need an Attorney? (05/23/14)
Reviewing or consulting attorneys are crucial to the divorce mediation process. This article explains why, and helps readers know how to find the right attorney for the job.