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Five (Personal) Principles About Healing Conflict

by Lorraine Segal
November 2010

From Lorraine Segal's Conflict Remedy Blog

Lorraine Segal

My blog has been a wonderful way for me to reflect on my fundamental beliefs about conflict resolution. Many times I would write a new entry, and then wonder uneasily if I was repeating myself.

I realized that although I offer different stories and contexts, a few principles about conflict and communication are at the heart of my writings. As this is the one year anniversary of my blog, I thought I’d share with you the principles I uncovered:

1. We all deserve loving nourishment, so we can grow, heal, and lead a rich meaningful life.

2. Much conflict and unhappiness come from poor communication, misunderstandings, and unrealistic expectations. We can our increase awareness and acceptance of differences (including cultural, generational, ethnic, religious, gender, sexual orientation, class.) We can learn to listen with compassionate openness and express ourselves clearly, honoring our inner truth and that of others.

3. Learning to forgive ourselves and others and letting go of resentments are essential aspect of healing. We need to accept that making (frequent) mistakes is simply part of being human. And changing our own attitudes and behavior, challenging though that is, is much more feasible than changing other people.

4. Workshops, classes, conflict coaching with individuals or small groups, mediations, and meeting facilitation can all be vehicles for healing conflicts and communication problems.

5. Transformation, healing, forgiveness, and joy are always possible. And I wish for each of us to find and walk that path.

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Lorraine Segal, M.A. is a Conflict Management and Communication Consultant, Coach, and Trainer. Through her own business, Conflict Remedy, Ms. Segal works with corporations and non-profits as well as governmental entities and individuals to promote harmonious and productive workplaces. 

She is a consultant and trainer for County of Sonoma. And, at Sonoma State University, she is the curriculum designer and lead teacher for the new Conflict Management Certificate program. Ms. Segal was recently named one of the top 30 Conflict Resolution experts to follow on LinkedIn. She is also a contributing author to the forthcoming book, Stand Up, Speak Out Against Workplace Bullying.



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