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Self-Reflection Following A Mediation

by Charlie Young
July 2016 Charlie Young



Self-Reflection Following A Mediation


  • Was my Opening Statement thorough?
  • How did the Story Telling go?
  • How did the Understanding phase go?
  • Techniques used during Solutions?        
  • Was I facilitative in all that I did?
  • Did my judgments enter the process?                                                           
  • What thoughts guided my actions?
  • Did I follow my mediation philosophy?
  • Did I acknowledge emotions & equality?
  • Did I encourage the parties’ expressions?
  • Did I pursue the whys, interests?
  • How did I respond to pushed buttons?
  • Was I comfortable responding to needs?
  • How was my reframing?
  • Was the resolution totally the participants?
  • Were tasks & relationships kept separate?
  • Was I caring and empathetic toward the participants and their concepts? 
  • Was I perceived as co-partial?
  • Did I foster shared respect among all?
  • Was the setting of support & legitimacy?
  • Did I apply BATNA/WATNA?
  • Is the agreement clearly enforceable?
  • Did the agreement include likely healing?
  • What am I doing for my own well-being?
  • What resources am I using to expand my skills?


Charlie Young was raised and educated in MA, and was ordained a priest for the Baker City Oregon Diocese.  Charlie served as a priest in the Baker diocese from 1958 to 1977 and was an assistant pastor and pastor and the Director of the Office of Religious Education from 1971-77.  He left the diocese in 1977 and after a year of discernment, asked to become a lay person.

Since then Charlie has been a flight instructor, corporate pilot and served as a Human Resources Director for several large firms.  In his last position, he was the Head Trainer for a Total Quality Management program.  The goal was to establish the company as a leading electrical contractor in Oregon.   The owners believed that they achieved their goal.

Since retirement in 1997, Charlie has been active as a mediator in the judicial system and the Community Dispute Resolution program, Community Solutions (CS) of Deschutes County.  He has participated in 1,400+ mediations in the last 18 years and has assisted in several basic mediator training programs and has conducted advanced mediation skills seminars.  He is a facilitative mediator who leans toward being a transformative mediator. 


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