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A Way Out Of The Prison Of No Man's Land. Use The Key Of Music

by Stephanie West Allen
August 2010

From Stephanie West Allen's blog on Neuroscience and conflict resolution.

Stephanie West Allen
513I2BpcA4L._SL500_AA300_ Musician David Amram tells a story in the beginning of his book Upbeat: Nine Lives of a Musical Cat, and that story holds a big clue about why I want to include music in conflict resolution. I first heard a quick reference to his adventure several years ago, found the book to read more details, and since then have told Amram's story many times.

In the spring of 1978, he was stuck in the New Delhi Airport in India. He was supposed to be performing in Tehran, but instead was held up in this airport, in a room called No Man's Land,

the nickname given to the isolated room ... where travelers whose connecting flights were canceled or delayed for more than 24 hours were housed and not allowed to leave the airport since they had no visa for India ... .

In addition to delayed travelers, he was housed with "suspected drug dealers, ... and criminals arrested in the airport who were waiting to be extradited." The carpet upon which he sat was "ratty," and he was hungry and thirsty.

The situation gets even worse.

A young man in a navy blue uniform ... strode into the room. 'Ladies and gentleman,' he intoned in a cultivated British accent. [The lieutenant announced his name and asked] 'Whom among you would like a glass of water?'


'Paracalo Kyrie. Theepsau' ('Please sir. I am thirsty,') cried an elderly Greek woman, raising her hand as she stood, much like the statue of Athena.

'That will be one dollar, U.S. currency only,' said [the lieutenant] in curt tones. Every one of the involuntary citizens of No Man's Land groaned. A woman from Scandinavia put down her copy of Rolling Stone Magazine and came over to me.

'Do something,' she said. 'This is dreadful.'

What did the musician do? He used music to harmonize the situation.

I took off the Guatemalan ocarina I still wear around my neck today ... . I began playing 'Son de Palo Volador,' an old folk song I learned when I was in Guatemala.

[The lieutenant] stopped haggling over the proposed dollar ... . He walked towards me, beaming.

... [The officer said,] 'What a lovely tone you get from that tiny instrument. Let me fetch a bonsri (wooden flute) from the gift shop.'

He ... returned, clutching an armful of wooden flutes. ... One of the stranded travelers took a small push-button accordion from her bag and joined in. A half-hour later, other airport employees ... joined us, playing tablas and other instruments borrowed from the gift shop. The Scandinavian woman began to dance and the rest of the temporary residents of No Man's Land joined in ... . At the conclusion of our World Premiere and final performance, [the lieutenant] came over and shook my hand.

'This was simply a marvelous time,' he said. 'I'm having the airline buy everyone dinner.'

The captives in No Man's Land all applauded. The woman from Scandinavia came over to me.

... 'How did you do that?'

'I followed a universal principle,' I said. 'Many Native Americans have a motto; Respect, Love, and Sharing. That's all you need to know to make music anywhere with anyone. ...'

'Yes, but how did you know what to do, when those people from India joined in with us and began to play those exotic melodies and rhythms?'

'Very simple,' I said. 'I listened very carefully to them. It's about sensing what to do and what not to do and following the ancient principle of how to make music with others when they are playing, which is simply, when in doubt ... leave it out!'

Good advice for conflict resolution, too, don't you agree? When in doubt, leave it out. Music has many lessons for conflict professionals as I will continue to illustrate here at Brains on Purpose.™

In my last post here, I talked about how much of the brain is engaged by music. A truly brain-friendly mediation will facilitate that high level of neuro-involvement. Music is one medium that can raise the brain's attentiveness to the process—and open up pathways to new solutions, just as it did in the New Delhi Airport.

Note: Click to watch the trailer of the upcoming film on the life of David Amram. From YouTube:

This is the trailer for the upcoming documentary about the life and times of Classical/Jazz/film score composer/conductor/jazz french hornist/world musician and Beat novelist Jack Kerouac's musical collaborator, David Amram.


Stephanie West Allen, JD, practiced law in California for several years, held offices in local bar associations, and wrote chapters for California Continuing Education of the Bar. While in CA, Stephanie completed several five-day mediation training programs with the Center for Mediation in Law, as well as a two-year intensive with Center co-founder Gary Friedman. She has been a mediator for over two and one-half decades.

She is the author of Triversity Fantasy — Seven Keys To Unlock Prejudice, Creating Your Own Funeral or Memorial Service: A Workbook and many articles on workplace and professional issues for such publications as Lawyer Hiring and Training Report, Colorado Nurse, The Complete Lawyer, National Law Journal, Of Counsel, Law Practice and Denver Business Journal.

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