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Every Time I Give Up on David Brooks...

by Colin Rule

From Colin Rule's blog.

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...he comes back and says something nuanced: "...most political and social disputes grow out of differing theories about the self, and I find Hofstadter’s social, dynamic, overlapping theory of self very congenial.
 
It emphasizes how profoundly we are shaped by relationships with others, but it’s not one of those stifling, collectivist theories that puts the community above the individual.
 
It exposes the errors of those Ayn Rand individualists who think that success is something they achieve through their own genius and willpower.
 
It exposes the fallacy of the New Age narcissists who believe they can find their true, authentic self by burrowing down into their inner being. There is no self that exists before society.
 
It explains why it’s so hard to tackle concentrated poverty. Human beings are permeable. The habits that are common in underclass areas get inside the brains of those who grow up there and undermine long-range thinking and social trust.
 
It illuminates the dangers of believing that there is a universal hunger for liberty. That universal hunger may exist in the abstract, but we’re embedded creatures and the way specific individuals perceive liberty depends on context.
 
It lampoons political zealotry. You may be a flaming liberal in New York, but it’s likely you’d be a flaming conservative if you grew up in Wyoming.
 
Finally, it points toward a modern way of understanding how people fit into society..."
 
It's interesting the degree to which a crisis among the conservative intelligentsia provides an opportunity for introspection for some, like Brooks, or retrenchment for others, like Kristol.
 
It makes me think of Don Schon's concept of the "reflective practitioner" -- where one is confronted with the reality that one's current cognitive frame is inadequate to explain new evidence, and is forced to change their worldview through reflection. (It is interesting to note that Schon's last projects focused on reconciling intractable policy controversies.)
 
This core idea -- that most of our social disputes grow from differing theories about the self -- is an important realization in the effort to find a path out of the bog of self-righteousness and "deaf dialogue" we're currently lost inside. There's no way we can reconcile the great issues we're wrestling with until we can confront the core of the disagreements. I don't know if our society can muster the will (good or otherwise) necessary to have that discussion, but I think it's something we have to confront if we want to move forward.

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Colin Rule is CEO of Mediate.com.  From 2017 to 2020 Colin was Vice President for Online Dispute Resolution at Tyler Technologies. Tyler acquired Modria.com, an ODR provider Colin co-founded, in 2017. From 2003 to 2011 Colin was Director of Online Dispute Resolution for eBay and PayPal.  Colin co-founded Online Resolution, one of the first online dispute resolution (ODR) providers, in 1999 and served as its CEO and President.  Colin worked for several years with the National Institute for Dispute Resolution (now ACR) in Washington, D.C. and the Consensus Building Institute in Cambridge, MA.

Colin is the author of Online Dispute Resolution for Business, published by Jossey-Bass in September 2002, and co-author of The New Handshake: Online Dispute Resolution and the Future of Consumer Protection, published by the ABA in 2017. He received the first Frank Sander Award for Innovation in ADR from the American Bar Association in 2020, and the Mary Parker Follett Award from the Association for Conflict Resolution in 2013. He holds a Master’s degree from Harvard University’s Kennedy School of Government in conflict resolution and technology, a graduate certificate in dispute resolution from UMass-Boston, a B.A. from Haverford College, and he served as a Peace Corps volunteer in Eritrea from 1995-1997.  You can read many of his articles and see some of his talks at colinrule.com/writing.



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