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Marrying Rich? Why We Read Advice For Hefner’s Bride-to-Be

by Victoria Pynchon
January 2011

From Victoria Pynchon's Settle It Now Negotiation and ABC of Conflict Blog

Victoria Pynchon

Why is Negotiation Advice for Crystal Harris poised to take over the day’s top spot as’s most popular post as LeBron James’ advice for the NBA fades into obscurity (as my item will tomorrow)?

It’s not just freeway accident rubber-necking.

Following (and criticizing) the lives of celebrities is one of the ways we establish community norms (viz the recent New York Times “Vows” dust-up over cheating spouses celebrating their wedding in the section Carrie Bradshaw once called the “women’s sports pages.”)

As a recent academic article on the subject of gossip and norms noted:

Gossip has many functions, not only providing low-cost access to information about others but also allowing individuals to learn about cultural norms and the consequences of norm violation (Baumeister, Zhang, & Vohs, 2004). These multiple functions may explain why estimates of the proportion of naturally occurring conversation that concerns the doings of other people range as high as 70% (Foster, 2004, p. 79)

See When Will Academics at Last Entitle their Work in a Manner that Communicates its topic to Ordinarily Well-Educated People? here (formal title: Contextualizing Person Perception: Distributed Social Cognition by Eliot R. Smith and Elizabeth C. Collins of Indiana University, Bloomington) at page 349.

If you’re young and poor and marrying old and rich (or want to comment on the good or bad of it) click on the link to the Crystal Harris item.


Attorney-mediator Victoria Pynchon is a panelist with ADR Services, Inc. Ms. Pynchon was awarded her LL.M Degree in Dispute Resolution from the Straus Institute in May of 2006, after 25 years of complex commercial litigation practice, with sub-specialties in intellectual property, securities fraud, antitrust, insurance coverage, consumer class actions and all types of business torts and contract disputes.  During her two years of full-time neutral practice, she has co-mediated both mandatory and voluntary settlement conferences with Los Angeles Superior Court Judges Alexander Williams, III and Victoria Chaney.  As a result of her work with Judge Chaney in the Complex Court at Central Civil West, Ms. Pynchon has gained significant experience mediating construction defect litigation.  Ms. Pynchon received her J.D., Order of the Coif, from the U.C. Davis School of Law. 

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