Always Expect the Unexpected

As an attorney and mediator for many years, I have learned the most
important lesson for mediation: always expect the unexpected. Whether the
parties send formal, lengthy briefs, replete with numerous citations to both facts
and legal authorities, or whether they simply show up at the mandated start time,
there are always surprises. A good mediator must be ready to handle any situation
that arises, with patience, flexibility and a good sense of humor. And, the
participants in the mediation must also exhibit these qualities to insure a
successful outcome.

I have been on the mediation panel for CAI since its inception. I recently
mediated a case through the CAI program involving a complaint from an owner
that second-hand smoke from a unit next to the owner’s was permeating her unit,
causing detrimental health effects and generally causing a nuisance. With the
understanding that second-hand smoke is a declared carcinogen by the State of
California, and knowing that many community associations and even entire cities
have banned smoking entirely, I assumed that the parties might consider forming a
-smoke free complex as a way to resolve the dispute. I was wrong. The complex
happened to be composed of many smokers and others who took the “don’t tread
on me” slogan to heart and did not believe anyone had the right to take away
another’s right to smoke. The board of directors’ position reflected the sense of
the community.

In addition to confronting an unusual and emphatic pro-smoking
community, I was unprepared for the onslaught of 16 people who attended the
mediation. The participants included the usual suspects: the board of directors,
composed of 5 individuals, all of whom attended, and the association’s attorney,
the complaining homeowner, 3 other homeowners who were her allies, and her
attorney; the smoker and the smoker’s property manager, two grown children and
the smoker’s attorney, for a total of 16 participants! While I knew I would be
faced with 3 parties, and had arranged for rooms for them, I did not anticipate the
need for so many additional people.

In mediation, the facilities are extremely important. All sides to the
dispute must be able to have their positions stated, without being rushed, and feel
as though their positions were heard. Since discussions among the separate
parties are to remain confidential, the facilities must allow for each side to have
their own space. The facilities must also be comfortable. The sheer amount of
participants in the mediation discussed above was a challenge; finding enough
chairs alone took some time. I was ultimately able to find enough chairs, an
empty office, and use of an alternate coffee room, to allow all sides to be able to
have their comfort and their privacy.

There was a great deal of acrimony and all sides needed to express their
positions, most in vehement ways. However, despite all of the acrimony, the
parties had not considered whether modifications to the buildings could solve the
problem. Once all the parties had the opportunity to have their positions heard,
the dispute was ultimately resolved. The association agreed to investigate ways to
insulate the non-smoker’s unit, and the smoker agreed to pay a portion of the cost
of the insulation.

Another mediation involved an owner who owned many condominium
units throughout Southern California, and was using the units for short-term
rentals. In addition to the business of renting multiple condominium units as hotel
rooms, he had an airport pick-up business, picking up individuals from the airport
and transporting them either to their “hotel” rooms in the units he owned in
various condominium complexes, or to his units temporarily as a way station
where they waited until their other, more traditional lodging was available. The
board of directors of one of the associations in which the owner was conducting
his business was fed up, and demanded that the owner comply with the CC&Rs
which prohibited use of units for transient or hotel purposes.

Although the facilities for the mediation were appropriate, and each side
had their own private, comfortable space, unexpectedly, some of the parties did
not speak English, which led to difficulty in communication. All mediators will
agree that the ability to communicate is instrumental in mediation and essential
toward achieving a resolution of the dispute. Fortunately, one of the participants
did speak both languages, and was an unexpectedly good interpreter.
Often the most difficult time in achieving resolution of a conflict is at the
end of the process where the parties see that the conflict is on the way toward
resolution. Parties in conflict sometimes have trouble letting go of the conflict.
The mediator’s job is to facilitate the parties’ ability to let go of the conflict and
be able to see another, better way to interact. In this case, the board had issued a
multitude of fines for many months against the homeowner for using his unit as a
hotel, but had not attempted to collect the fines. The amount of fines had risen to
many thousands of dollars.

Sometimes the imposition of fines, or the parties’ expenditure of
attorney’s fees, are impediments to resolution. Recognizing this, I discussed the
issue of the fines with the board. Early in the mediation, the board told me that
the fines were not important, what was important was obtaining the owner’s
compliance, and agreed to waive the fines. However, when all of the other issues
were resolved, the board then changed its mind and wanted to collect 100 percent
of the fines. After discussions with both sides, I recommended a solution that
both parties agreed to, and the dispute was resolved.

Both of the above-discussed mediations had unexpected events; one, the
sheer amount of participants and the pro-smoking bent of most of them, and the
other, the inability of some of the key participants to speak English and the 11th
hour refusal of the board to compromise on the issue of the fines. In both cases, I
was able to adjust to the circumstances, keep the parties engaged, and facilitate a
resolution.

Some people believe that a successful mediation ends where both sides are
unhappy, but forced to live with their compromise. I choose to strive for a
resolution that leaves both sides happy, satisfied with the result, and pleased that
the conflict is over. In my experience, when the parties feel their positions were
heard and given respect, and are a part of the solution, they end up satisfied with
the outcome.

                        author

Laura Snoke

Laura J. Snoke is an attorney and mediator who provides legal and mediation services to homeowners associations, homeowners, and other clients throughout Southern California.  She is on the panel of CAI-GLAC mediators. She is a member of Mediate.com and Southern California Mediation Association.  She has been practicing law for over 30 years,… MORE >

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