From Michael Zeytoonian’s Dispute Settlement Counsel Blog
A dispute was swirling around a man and his followers who were promoting an alternative way of living, different from the norms of their time. The man had just been betrayed by one of his insiders and the dispute was about to come to a head. As authorities came to arrest him, a physical confrontation between sides broke out, but was quickly diffused by the man’s unconventional intervention between the parties. Before it could escalate, the man not only stopped the fighting, but reached out and healed someone on the other side.
The confrontations in the Garden of Gethsemane offer a classic modeling of non-adversarial dispute resolution. While rooted in Christian spirituality, the events have a universal message: It is possible for one to be zealous in holding his position or defending a right, continue to be an advocate for one view and stay the course with respect to pursuing one’s interests and goals, without taking up the fight. And in the process, one may not only be able to treat those on the other side with respect, but do some healing.We can fully engage in advocacy without engaging in an adversarial approach. It sounds counter-intuitive, but when you think about it, the most clearheaded advocacy comes when the advocates are not shackled by a narrow focus on winning a positional battle. When a dispute arises, we have choices to make, and the initial decisions are critical, yet they are often made without enough thought about the options. Do we immediately pull out our swords, take positions and do battle, seeking to win no matter what the cost?
There is another option – one that allows us to be an advocate for our belief and work to satisfy our interests, without declaring war but staying grounded and centered. It is a natural instinct, perhaps, to declare war, to want vengeance, especially when we have been betrayed or wronged, and “have our day in court.” But is it the best way? Can legal counselors serve their clients in a dispute and continue to be advocates without drawing swords? Can parties work to have their interests met without fighting? Can lawyers and clients collaborate from the outset of the dispute on problem solving? Yes, we can.
When one of his followers, Peter, drew a sword and attacked, Jesus stopped that approach. He did what all great dispute resolution masters do; he changed the conversation. “No more of this,” he said, telling his own side to “Put your sword back in its sheath.” This game changer resulted in all swords being put away and revised the rules of engagement.
The rest of the Gethsemane narrative tells us that Jesus did not cave in and accept the other side’s position. And despite the strong temptation to do so, he did not take the bait and get adversarial. He continued to acknowledge the interests of both sides. He also recognized that he could address the needs of the other side without undermining any of the interests of his side. Knowing that and staying grounded, he moved toward the opponent who had been injured and healed the wound.
An approach like this changes the equation and pulls the rug out from under the battlefield. It reminds both sides that, despite their differences, they share some common ground, are connected in their humanity and in the course of events that shape their situation. Further, this approach acknowledges the legitimacy of the other person’s needs and that often, those needs can be met without sacrificing any of our own interests.
In this way, our purpose is not to abolish the law, but to fulfill it.
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