Now More than Ever, Creativity is Needed in Divorces
We live in an uncertain world where things can change radically at the drop of a hat. We experienced this last year in a huge way with the Covid-19 outbreak.
3 Strategies for Effective Co-Parenting
Above all, remember that co-parenting is about your kids.
Confirmation Bias: Something Mediators Need to Appreciate
As far as I can tell, much of the research on how neural functions affect mediation has been done in the last 20 years.
For Family Cases Involving Reports of Intimate Partner Violence, Shuttle and Videoconference Mediation Are Safe, Effective and Preferred by Parents
In a randomized controlled trial of family cases involving parents reporting high levels of intimate partner violence (IPV), parents felt safer in and were more satisfied with shuttle and videoconference mediation than litigation.
Settlement Verification in the Virtual World
My goal has always been to provide each and every mediation participant with the most satisfying experience possible.
Co-Parenting Online Course – How to Not Put Your Kids in the Middle of Your Divorce
The ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) ACE’s study, is one of the largest studies about traumatic events in the lives of children ages 0-17. This study identifies three types of risk factors for trauma in children: abuse, neglect and household dysfunction.
Online Mediation Training Task Force Family / Elder Committee Report
The Family and Elder Committee was initially tasked with Considering the Following Questions: 1) How can family and elder mediation training be improved to embrace online mediation; and 2) How can family and elder mediation training best be offered online, for basic training, advanced training, and ongoing continuing education?
Proposal for Standard Explanation in Mediation
Since writing my recent short article, Courts Should Make Mediations Good Samaritans Not Frankensteins, I have been thinking about how to maximize the substantial benefits of court-connected mediation while minimizing the risks of coercion.
You Might Have more in Common with Bill and Melinda Than You Think…
Bill and Melinda Gates recently announced that they are divorcing after 27 years. Besides having to address their billions of dollars and their enormously influential foundation, this has brought attention to issues of a mature (or “gray”) divorce.
The Problem With the Label "High Conflict Divorce"
It’s generally true in conflict that “it takes two to tango.” In the world of divorce, the fundamental problem with being labelled “high conflict” is how rarely both parties are dancing together.
Married Mediators: Marilyn McKnight and Steve Erickson
An interview with Marilyn McKnight and Stephen Erickson about the origins of family mediation, their different conflict styles, and the future of conflict resolution. Recorded and shared as part of the Mediation 2020 Conference.
Married Mediators: Joan Goldsmith and Ken Cloke
An interview with Joan Goldsmith and Ken Cloke about mediation, being married to a mediator, and the future of mediation. Recorded and shared as part of the Mediation 20/20 Conference.
Approaching Custody with Reason vs. Rancor
No matter how a couple may approach questions involving parenting after divorce, the answers are never easily derived.
Cryptocurrency and Divorce
Naturally, as a Divorce Financial Advisor, I began thinking how these types of crypto assets were going to impact divorce settlements.
Divorce and Property Division: Am I Entitled to More Because my Spouse Ruined Our Marriage?
There are a lot of reasons why couples decide to get divorced. Financial troubles, lack of communication, continual arguing, unrealistic expectations, lack of intimacy, infidelity, and abuse are among the more common reasons why couples split up.
International Patent Litigation and Mediation
As many of you may know, mediation is not used as often as it should be to resolve international patent litigation. But is this also the case within the industry?
The Muddy Time
Some of us call it the muddy time. It’s the time in between the decision to divorce and when the actual divorce is made final.
How to Manage In-Laws Post Divorce
When I got married, I found that one of the strangest transitions wasn’t to being newlyweds or calling him my husband but was more related to my new in-laws. I think that often in-laws, especially mothers-in-law, have gotten a bad rap in popular culture.
Helping Kids Adjust to Life When Parents Go Through Divorce
If you are going through a divorce, one of the most significant concerns you may have is the effect it has on your children.
How Do We Tell our Friends We’re Getting a Divorce?
Recently I had a client ask me, “How do we say to our friends we’re getting a divorce?”
Using Mediation to Develop a Prenup that Satisfies Both Parties
My last mediation of 2020 was for a prenuptial agreement, and to me it was kind of a sign of hope for the year to come.
Keeping the Marital Home in Divorce and Pitfalls for the Unwary
In most marriages there is a marital home/the kids' childhood home and it’s often the largest asset--and the largest source of conflict.
A First-Hand Experience with My Premarital Agreement
One of the questions I used to get asked most often by my clients was whether I was married, and until recently, the answer to that had always been no, which then often their follow-up question was, are you ever going to get married?
Five Principles to Maximize Chances of Success in Mediation
As a current mediator who has for years also been litigation counsel representing clients in mediation, I have noticed that there may sometimes be a disconnect between what mediators and litigators each expect from mediation and from each other.
Unmarried Parents and Children
It is said and proven that when a child is born to unmarried parents, the child would most likely remain and be cared for by the mother.