10 Questions from New England ACR

Conflict Zen Blog by Tammy Lenski

Last month I facilitated a conversation about language and relevancy in the conflict resolution field for the New England Association for Conflict Resolution annual meeting.

If you’re a New England mediator who missed the vibrant, fast-paced discussion, you can now read a summary of it in the publicly available Winter-Spring 2012 NE-ACR News. I was also profiled in the issue for their ongoing “10 Questions for…” series. Here’s a snippet:

How did you get started in this field?

I was a college dean, and my president kept asking me to mediate disputes in various departments on campus and facilitate large campus meetings where there were diverse and strong opinions on a variety of organizational matters. Then she began recommending me to presidents at other institutions, and I realized that people saw me as someone who could help them sort out messy stuff. I was just winging it, though, so I decided I’d better get mediation training. I came home from that first basic mediation course knowing conflict resolution was the work I wanted to do all the time.

When was this?

That was in 1996. I was a VP by then, and it was months before I built up the courage to walk away from a good and fulfilling job.

Editor, NE-ACR Past President, and all-around fab mediator Louisa Williams has put together another gotta-read edition of the newsletter. It includes a review of Thinking, Fast and Slow by Danial Kahneman, whose early work lit me on fire while I was working on my doctoral dissertation in the early 90s. I enjoyed Kahneman’s new book tremendously and am still working to digest all that was in it.


Tammy Lenski

Dr. Tammy Lenski helps individuals, pairs, teams, and audiences navigate disagreement better, address friction, and build alignment. Her current work centers on creating the conditions for robust collaboration and sound decisions while fostering resilient personal and professional relationships. Her conflict resolution podcast and blog, Disagree Better, are available at https://tammylenski.com/archives/… MORE >

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