For years, family law litigators were the go to persons to facilitate the distribution of property, support obligations and the plan of care for children of the relationship between separating couples.
When we ask people to come up with a budget, even when they are given a detailed outline with prompts, they give us blank stares. Likewise, when we get those worksheets back, in many cases they are far from reality.
This article presents a self-help tool for people in the marriage or relationship. The tool includes principles for mediation and refers to the use of a mediator if conflicts are too difficult for themselves to solve.
Behind closed doors, in more than 500 locations across England and Wales, a network of National Family Mediation (NFM) services are meeting separated couples attempting to resolve their disputes over money, children and property – without a courtroom battle.
The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.
The divorce rate began its sharp increase in the early 1960's and more than doubled by the end of the 1970's. This was accompanied by dramatic changes in cultural traditions, societal expectations, and divorce and child custody laws.
Joan Kelly describes a research finding which concluded that families who mediated during the divorce had father's who were significantly more involved in their children's lives twelve years post-mediation.
An interview with an Aboriginal woman who talks about her experience with child protection mediation. She tells us how mediation helps both parents and child welfare workers who are unable to resolve a plan of care for a child, reach a decision together in a non-judgmental way.
In the case Ledbetter v Ledbetter, the appellate court considered the issue of whether parties to a divorce mediation should be bound to a settlement orally dictated by the mediator and affirmed by parties and their counsel at mediation, which was later repudiated by one of the parties.
This video describes the four phases of the mediation process. This is an informative role-play produced by Jean Munroe and TennesseeMediation.com. The topic of the mediation is divorce and child custody.
This video by Leo Hura shows a parent with a disabled child. She finds herself in a dispute with her school, but through the mediation process she reaches agreement with school regarding her disabled child in a culinary program.
Tobi Inlender and students discuss the Peer Mediation Program in Santa Monica. This is the original peer mediation program in Los Angeles, and is run by the Dispute Resolution program and Lincoln Middle School.
Andrew Schepard describes how Aboriginal tribes have an optimal process of dealing with child neglect and/or abuse. If abuse is reported, a family group conference may be called; they have the choice of opting out of the coercive court system, which he sees as a model approach.
Linda Singer describes how her interpersonal mediation experience in the past has helped her to mediate in multi-party, complex cases currently. The rapport-development skills she learned in interpersonal mediation carry over to multi-party disputes.
Joan Kelly talks about the central themes of her book, "Surviving the Break-Up". These include: impacts on children of different ages, impacts on the parents, reactions to the visiting relationship post-divorce, developmental impacts and behaviors over time.
Chip Rose notes that the field of collaborative law is in its adolescence and there is tension between the collaborative law people who think they are creating something new when in reality mediators have been helping divorcing couples for decades. The history and experience in the mediation field is not always fully appreciated and valued.
Constance Ahrons discusses how divorce does not mean automatic crises and disaster for a family and with cultural changes, family models are ever-changing. As long as the child has support, care, love, and stability in its relationships, they will be okay.
Falmouth Mediation at 184 Jones Road, a full-service, client-centered mediation practice providing an affordable forum for assisting families and individuals, is offering one hour of free mediation to help couples and ex-couples agree on holiday schedules for their families. read
Couples going through martial or domestic breakups are increasingly turning to the Family Mediation Service in Limerick rather than going to the expense of court action to divide property and agree on child access. 400 clients a year are now using the free service in Limerick. read
I want divorced parents to just act like parents, so their kids can be just kids, not “children of divorce” or “children from broken homes.” I hate labels that define children by something that happened to their parents’ romantic relationship. read
As a divorced mom and parent coach, one of the things I feel passionate about is helping divorced couples co-parent to the ultimate benefit of their children. So among the many things I did this summer was to take a week to focus on my own education before I hustled to launch my three young-adult children on their individual academic adventures. In short, I took the Divorce Mediation Skills Training Certificate Program at Northwestern University. read
Costs can be kept lower by utilizing mediation. In mediation, a neutral third party (on occasion two mediators) sits with the parties to the divorce and asks for their responses to a series of questions about assets and liabilities, the family home, parenting agreements for their children and other pertinent matters. This at-the-table work can be hard for people who are in a divorce, but the benefits are not only a lowered cost but also the fact that they design their agreement. read
Nine couples featured in a new BBC 2 documentary series Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator, which takes a fly-on-the-wall approach to the growing practice of family mediation as the UK now carries out more than 17,000 mediations a year, according to government statistics. The success rate is high: nearly 90 per cent achieve a satisfactory deal. read
When Tricia Lerdon and her husband separated, they had to figure out how to share their beloved dachshund, Jetson. "One of us giving up the dog?" she said. "That wasn't even a conversation." So while living apart, they co-owned Jetson for several years until he died earlier this year. He traveled between their homes on the same schedule that their daughter did, so she would always have her pet's company. read
Divorces can be messy and complicated. But an amicable divorce need not be impossible to accomplish. Here are a few types of divorce proceedings that possibly could make it easier on all involved. read
Indiana Attorney General Greg Zoeller’s office has appealed a federal court ruling that found a Marion County court discriminated against a deaf man in violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act when it rejected his request for an American Sign Language interpreter at a court-ordered mediation session during his child custody case. read
A deaf Indianapolis man was discriminated against when a court denied providing him an interpreter during a mediation session ordered in his child custody case. A federal judge ruled Friday that Marion Superior Court’s decision to deny the interpreter in a court-funded mediation program violated the Americans with Disabilities Act. read
In the context of a divorce, mediation is a good thing. It offers folks a real opportunity to settle their divorce without the acrimony or expense of a trial. Plus, in many counties, it’s mandatory—meaning the parties are required to mediate before going to court. read
With court fees on the rise, in some extreme cases by more than 600 per cent, and the cut backs in the administration of justice, most notably with some local courts shutting down, legal cases are more expensive and take longer to resolve. read