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Divorce Mediation: The Best Forum for Families with Special Needs Children
Dr. Lynne C. Halem 10/15/2015
Families who have children with special needs constitute a significant percentage of the divorced population. Children, all children, present a mixed blessing. Some times they may help to save a marriage; other times they add to the stresses of daily living in ways that parents are not able to handle.
Finding a Maryland Divorce Mediator
Donna Duquette 07/08/2015
If you are thinking about working with a divorce mediator, then this is probably one of the more difficult times in your life. To make matters even more challenging, in the midst of this emotional turmoil you are called upon to make some important family decisions. One of these decisions is how to find a divorce mediator who will be right for you and your spouse. Here are suggestions for finding a divorce mediator in Maryland.
Solving the Growing Never Married Parent Dilemma for Courts and Divorce Professionals
Don Gordon 06/29/2015
Almost one of every four births today are to unmarried, cohabitating couples. This represents an 80% increase. It used to be that marriage was the norm when pregnancy was involved. Now it is not.
Beyond “Divorce American Style": The Search for a More Responsive Process
Larry Gaughan 06/05/2015
Marriage is a high risk undertaking. Consider the statistics. In recent years the number of marriages each year is just over twice the number of divorces in the same year. So when two adults in their late 20’s – let’s call them Justin and Lisa - decide to get married and have an expensive wedding with all the trimmings, there is a good chance that they will also get divorced. And when they do, it wouldn’t be unusual for their divorce to cost as much as (or more than) their wedding and honeymoon.
The Good Divorce
Dr. Lynne C. Halem 05/22/2015
“What is a good divorce?” you ask. “After all, divorce is not a good or a happy event.” Correct you are. Divorce cannot be logically characterized as “good,” if we are referring to the event itself. Divorce is a time of sadness, even regret; it symbolizes the end to dreams once held. “ So,” you ask again,” how can a divorce be good?”
Divorce Mediation is a Waste of Time
Belinda Jokinen 05/15/2015
I’ve heard it so many times. My clients say that mediation won’t work for them. The most common reason they give is that the other party (ie: {exes} spouse or significant other) won’t agree to anything reasonable. The second most common reason given is that they will only do something if forced to by a Judge. Both are absolutely right.
Professional Divorce Mediation and The Future
Marilyn McKnight 05/08/2015
Today it really is a “Back to the Future” for me. Divorce Mediation will become the primary way to divorce. Divorcing families will become healthy and resilient, no longer harmed by adversarial divorce.
Divorce: Emergency Tumor Removal Surgery
Don Cripe 05/01/2015
Analogizing health care with other emergent situations may be a stretch to some, but it is valid. Couples on the bumpy glide to divorce are almost always in pain; they are facing one of the most dramatic life changes they will ever experience (some social scientists liken divorce to the death of a family member); the finances of the crisis are always a concern; and life after divorce will be disrupted for an indefinite time.
National Divorce Survey Yields Surprising Insights
John Licciardello 04/03/2015
Divorce is as popular as ever in America, with over 50% of first marriages and 70% of second marriages ending prematurely. In addition to traditional litigation couples are increasingly turning to mediation and the “do it yourself” pro se divorce process in the quest to have “successful” divorces as measured by satisfactory settlements, minimal relationship damage and reasonable cost.
Minnesota Considers Moving Divorce out of Court
Dan Simon 03/13/2015
“In our culture, court means contest – it means a fight. . . we’ve culturally viewed divorce as a battle” says Bill Doherty. Doherty says that, no matter how well-intentioned the lawyers, the assumption that judicial supervision is needed greatly increases the risk of destructive conflict arising. Doherty believes that, very often, couples who get divorced without the help of lawyers do better than they would with lawyers. Doherty’s plan takes divorce entirely outside the courts.
Mediating Divorce Agreements: The Problems and the Potential
Larry Gaughan 02/26/2015
It was really exciting to be part of the divorce mediation movement when it became national around 1980. Almost everyone seemed to be aware of the problems with the adversarial system of divorce, and mediation held the promise of a process that was more personal and far less expensive and time consuming. Mediation training was mainly focused on divorce agreements, and those training courses rapidly became a major source of income for the trainers.
Alimony in PA: Friend or Foe in Divorce?
Cris Pastore 01/09/2015
Alimony has become the "black sheep" of divorce law, often viewed as evil, spiteful and punitive. In my opinion, these perceptions are greatly misguided. I see alimony as entirely moral and appropriate, but only when it is necessary. Read my article to understand why.
10 Tips for Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator
Cris Pastore 11/14/2014
Perhaps you've come to the realization that divorce mediation is the way to go for you and your spouse, but how do you choose a divorce mediator? After all, not all divorce mediators are created equal.
The Shocking Cost of Divorce in PA
Cris Pastore 10/31/2014
The added expense of living in two separate households may be obvious in a divorce case, but have you also budgeted for the cost of hiring a divorce lawyer to go to court? Read this article to gain a full understanding of the fees associated with a divorce lawyer and understand why divorce mediation may the better option for you.
Editorial Notes on Divorce Mediation Future
Clare Fowler 10/23/2014
This page includes editorial notes on the future of the divorce and family mediation sector.
When You Might Need Mediation After Divorce
Cris Pastore 10/13/2014
When the divorce mediation process succeeds, spouses and their families often report a tremendous benefit from having chosen the option. However, there are still times when ex-spouses, even if they remain amicable after divorce, may need post-divorce mediation.
Divorce Mediation Sessions: What Goes on Behind Closed Doors
Cris Pastore 09/26/2014
If you are considering using divorce mediation as the option for your separation or divorce, you might find it helpful to understand what is actually discussed in the mediation room.
6 Major Mistakes to Avoid in a Do-It-Yourself Divorce
Cris Pastore 09/05/2014
Although spouses claim to have everything worked out, they almost always fail to consider some very important details. Read this article and learn the 6 common mistakes to avoid when attempting to resolve your own divorce.
Using the 17 Factors of Alimony in PA in Divorce Mediation
Cris Pastore 08/15/2014
Curious about how alimony is determined in Pennsylvania? Read this comprehensive article and learn about alimony and about the 17 factors the court considers in determining it.
GPS and Divorce Mediation
Bruce Provda 07/07/2014
GPS systems are starting to make their way into divorce proceedings. When infidelity is suspected, being able to produce digital confirmation of an spouse’s movements can provide powerful ammunition and lay a strong foundation for the remainder of the mediation process.
A Song of Loss for Divorce Mediators
Richard Barbieri 06/30/2014
I was recently asked to give a presentation in an advanced seminar on Mediating with Families in Transition. I thought at first of the many film scenes that I have previously utilized, from the opening of Wedding Crashers to The War of the Roses. I then realized that most of my artistic experience of lost love comes through music, rather than film, and so I prepared a new presentation based on favorite songs about the effects of divorce.
Post-Divorce Blues: Unresolved Issues and New Problems Unsettle Divorced Spouses
Dr. Lynne C. Halem 06/13/2014
Months, even years, of haggling and anxiety were finally at an end. A new beginning was in the offering. Yet the initial relief, may be filled with sadness, and may well be short-lived. Divorced couples are often faced with agreements that do little to help them navigate an evolving, and even rocky, future. Mediation provides an agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow. agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow.
Mediating Your Divorce? Do You Still Need an Attorney?
Joy Rosenthal 05/23/2014
Reviewing or consulting attorneys are crucial to the divorce mediation process. This article explains why, and helps readers know how to find the right attorney for the job.
Parenting, Mediation, and Divorce: Meeting the Needs of Our Children
Shannon Rios Paulsen 05/16/2014
Children are a huge source of love in our lives; they can say one sentence, bring a huge smile to our face, and remind us of the innocence of childhood. Children all deserve that time of play, laughter, and fun as they grow up. This article addresses what parents and other loved ones can do for children before, during and after a divorce. You can take this information and pass it along or decide to be mentor or positive role model for the children yourself.
Issues with Children in Divorce
Richard Gordon 05/09/2014
Divorce is complicated enough. When children are also part of the mix, there are several unique considerations the parents need to make.
Children, Divorce, and Dating
Shannon Rios Paulsen 04/15/2014
In my role as a counselor for children of divorce, my focus is the children. Parents made a decision to divorce and they also made a decision to have children. It is my view that they must do all things possible to mitigate the effects of the divorce on their children. The question about dating arises in every session of “Co-parenting Through Your Divorce” that I facilitate. This article addresses this question for parents of divorce and for those who are dating others who are divorced with children.
I'm Heading for Divorce--What Should I Do?
Rachel Virk 03/21/2014
You want out. Your marriage is no longer happy. You just need to know the correct process for telling your spouse in a safe and respectful way, and know what are the appropriate steps to take.
Compassionate or Benevolent Divorce
Roger Ley 02/21/2014
This is an essay on compassionate divorce and the role of lawyers in the divorce or dispute resolution process.  For the parties, the core of my system is to negotiate for the welfare of both sides.  For the lawyers, the core is to throw away the law books and let imagination help the lawyers find creative resolutions to their cases.
5 Ways That Divorce Mediation Can Help Resolve the 'Get' Crisis
Morghan Leia Richardson 02/07/2014
Without the religious divorce, Leah would not be able to remarry -- or even date -- in her community. Her life was on hold, tied to her ex -- at his whim. And she is not alone. This article discusses the conflict that many in religious communities are trying to resolve.
Demystifying American Divorce Law
Larry Gaughan 01/24/2014
The misconception that there may be a fixed "legal" solution for many mediated divorce cases has created unnecessary difficulties in communication between mediators of different professions. A proper understanding of how the formal system of divorce law works (and often doesn't work) may help to bridge these gaps. This article is intended to enable mediators who are not attorneys to be more comfortable with some useful concepts and guidelines inside the legal box. It is also intended to enable mediators who are lawyers to expand the scope of their skills and knowledge into the important areas of divorce settlements outside of the legal box.
Elder Divorce Mediation
Dr. Lynne C. Halem 01/17/2014
As the remaining baby boomers turn 50 this year, we continue to see a significant increase in divorce and separation among the general population of those in that 50-plus age bracket.
Does Divorce Mediation Work?
Brietta Mengel 01/11/2014
This article is a pictograph that illustrates visually the changing percentage of divorce in the US.
Are You Really Ready for Divorce? The 8 Questions You Need to Ask
This article outlines what couples need to do in order to face the numerous dilemmas that are inherent in divorce. A dilemma implies that you are torn between two choices, each of which have undesirable fearful elements. If people have not resolved their dilemmas before the divorce, they go through the process trying to manage their fear in different ways by hiding their doubt, responsibility; vulnerability, or dependency.
What Parents Can Do to Help Children with Divorce
Kathleen O'Connell Corcoran 10/18/2015
A well-known psychologist offers suggestions for what parents can do to support their children's comfort and adjustment to the many realities of divorce.
Mediation vs. Litigation: To Punish or Not to Punish, That is the Question
Robin Graine 11/13/2015
Many people go into a divorce with swords pulled. They want to get even. They want to punish their spouse for making them feel bad. Humiliated. Depressed. When divorce is not your idea, you may even go into a classic defensive “stall mode” to try and drive the other person a little crazy with angst.
Who Says That Mediation Needs Reclaiming?
William Levine 11/09/2015
These authors assert that most of the traditional values and styles that guide divorce mediation are still applicable.
The 7 Strategies for Determining Your Parenting Plan
Gary Direnfeld 11/09/2015
The Parenting Plan is the parental agreement setting out how the children will be cared for between separated parents. Essentially, the Parenting Plan is the road map that separated parents will follow for the raising of their kids. Recognized as "Top 10" Attorney Directory Site! 11/09/2015
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Separated Parents: It’s not Quantum of Time, but Quality of Relationship
Gary Direnfeld 10/30/2015
If you get hung up on the quantum of time with your partner and your children, you may lose sight of the quality of your relationship now and for the future.
The Hague Convention, Seven Characteristics, and Mediation
Mary Damianakis 10/23/2015
This article discusses the Hague Convention on child abductions. It gives an update on dealing with children in international custody negotiations.
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