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Mediation Techniques Discussion
What works in your mediation process?
Donald R. (Tad ) Powers has volunteered to lead a discussion on dealing with Emotions in the mediation process.
Of course this is only one avenue of technique development. Breaking Impasse techniques? Dealing with intent to retaliate?
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| Technique for Establishing/Quantifying Priorities (?) |
| by Jeff Klenner
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06/03/07 |
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I am a law student at Wayne State University Law School in Detroit and am hoping someone might have some insight that would help me with my research for a non-legal paper I have to write for my summer course on Negotiation. I want to explore how to accurately assess a person's true priorities from among a potential list of options (such as settlement demands in a lawsuit). If simply asked to "prioritize" the items, you just end up with a 1 thru 5 list if given five options -- but you don't know the relative weight that the person would assign to each of the items. I want to research the methodology that can be used for ascertaining that aspect. Perhaps somebody can help me with the name of some term or method that I can use in an internet search to find the sort of information I am seeking. Following is another "nutshell" summary of what I'm talking about...
I want to explore an interest that I have in a manner of prioritizing competing objectives by placing discernable values on them. I'm sure somebody has already put a lot of thinking into this topic and given it a name -- but I don't know how to learn what it's called in order to research it further.
Basically my interest is in situations where there are multiple competing priorities and two (or more) people are asked to separately prioritize them. But rather than just put them in a ranked order, we are seeking more clarification about how these two people actually and honestly value the options. So we tell them that they each have 100 points to allocate among the five competing priorities. Here is what two different invdividuals decided
Person 1:
Option A = 20 points
Option B = 15 points
Option C = 15 points
Option D = 30 points
Optoin E = 20 points
Person 2:
Option A = 2 points
Option B = 70 points
Option C = 2 points
Option D = 2 points
Optoin E = 24 points
Given this sort of response, we know person 1 could have given a ranked order of prioritization and it would have been fairly close to his true feeling about the relatively close competition of priorities. However, person 2 is a completely different story. Given a simple ranked distribution, this person would be better off saying B, then E, and then none of the above. Obviously there is a vey strong feeling (particularly for Option B), and a simple ranked order of prioritization would not adequatly describe the wide disparity in views about the relative value of each of the five issues.
Anyhow, if you follow my explanation and know where I can learn more about this sort of theory, please provide me with a term or something else that I can use to conduct further research. I'm thinking it should be called "forced weighting" or something of that manner -- but so far I have struck out trying to figure out how to refer to the concept in order to explore it further via internet research.
Thanks in advance for any help you can provide.
Best regards,
Jeff |
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| Deterimining priorities |
| by Fred470
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02/15/08 |
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Jeff, I have found that in general people can put a small number of items in relative order but have a harder time with a larger number.. and seldom do you get a relative weight.
the answer AHP, Analytical Hierarchical Process (see Satty). this is a technique where you build a matrix of pair wise comparisons and then performing some simple (or more accurate vector) math.
For instance.. you are buying a car.. options are Style, color, fuel economy, cost.
Nest you do comparisons such as
Is style more important than color -- If yes you migt say (on a 9 point scale) that style is 6 times as important.
Style vs fuel --- Style is not as important --> only 1/5 as importnat
etc..
Then you put this into a simple 5 x5 matrix.. Use the simple math and you have relative weight (or work out the complete eigen vector)..
This is really cool and should be just what you need..
Let me know how it turns out..
Fred
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| Noisy neighbors |
| by nwetzel
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05/06/06 |
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Jeff, I have found that in general people can put a small number of items in relative order but have a harder time with a larger number.. and seldom do you get a relative weight. the answer AHP, Analytical Hierarchical Process (see Satty). this is a technique where you build a matrix of pair wise comparisons and then performing some simple (or more accurate vector) math. For instance.. you are buying a car.. options are Style, color, fuel economy, cost. Nest you do comparisons such as Is style more important than color -- If yes you migt say (on a 9 point scale) that style is 6 times as important. Style vs fuel --- Style is not as important --> only 1/5 as importnat etc.. Then you put this into a simple 5 x5 matrix.. Use the simple math and you have relative weight (or work out the complete eigen vector).. This is really cool and should be just what you need.. Let me know how it turns out.. Fred < |
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| Noisy neighbors |
| by Lynnette Weldy
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05/07/06 |
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There definitely are laws that deal with these issues an attorney can pursue however that is an alternative I am assuming you are attempting to avoid which speaks loudly of what a patient and gracious neighbor you are.
Appreciating the fact you have already approached them with these issues, it is still possible there is a serious gap between what you are asking and what they are hearing.
They quite possibly may feel as though you are trying to control their lives. It is important that they know it is quite the reverse. They are controlling an aspect of your life and invading on your rights as a neighbor. Putting it in terms they might better understand may take you a long way. Let them see what you have lost in terms of what they do not want to lose.
As a last resort, an extra copy of that book you just bought strategically placed on their doorstep would be a very kind final warning before legally pursuing this. |
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| Teen coordination mediation |
| by Robert
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02/21/06 |
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There definitely are laws that deal with these issues an attorney can pursue however that is an alternative I am assuming you are attempting to avoid which speaks loudly of what a patient and gracious neighbor you are. Appreciating the fact you have already approached them with these issues, it is still possible there is a serious gap between what you are asking and what they are hearing. They quite possibly may feel as though you are trying to control their lives. It is important that they know it is quite the reverse. They are controlling an aspect of your life and invading on your rights as a neighbor. Putting it in terms they might better understand may take you a long way. Let them see what you have lost in terms of what they do not want to lose. As a last resort, an extra copy of that book you just bought strategically placed on their doorstep would be a very kind final warning before legally pursuing this. < |
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| Peer Mediation In Recreation Staff |
| by LaShawndra Vernon
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06/02/05 |
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There definitely are laws that deal with these issues an attorney can pursue however that is an alternative I am assuming you are attempting to avoid which speaks loudly of what a patient and gracious neighbor you are. Appreciating the fact you have already approached them with these issues, it is still possible there is a serious gap between what you are asking and what they are hearing. They quite possibly may feel as though you are trying to control their lives. It is important that they know it is quite the reverse. They are controlling an aspect of your life and invading on your rights as a neighbor. Putting it in terms they might better understand may take you a long way. Let them see what you have lost in terms of what they do not want to lose. As a last resort, an extra copy of that book you just bought strategically placed on their doorstep would be a very kind final warning before legally pursuing this. < |
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| Mediation Brings Peace |
| by LaShawndra Vernon
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06/02/05 |
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There definitely are laws that deal with these issues an attorney can pursue however that is an alternative I am assuming you are attempting to avoid which speaks loudly of what a patient and gracious neighbor you are. Appreciating the fact you have already approached them with these issues, it is still possible there is a serious gap between what you are asking and what they are hearing. They quite possibly may feel as though you are trying to control their lives. It is important that they know it is quite the reverse. They are controlling an aspect of your life and invading on your rights as a neighbor. Putting it in terms they might better understand may take you a long way. Let them see what you have lost in terms of what they do not want to lose. As a last resort, an extra copy of that book you just bought strategically placed on their doorstep would be a very kind final warning before legally pursuing this. < |
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| NEIGHBORLY LOVE |
| by mart2387
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06/02/05 |
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There definitely are laws that deal with these issues an attorney can pursue however that is an alternative I am assuming you are attempting to avoid which speaks loudly of what a patient and gracious neighbor you are. Appreciating the fact you have already approached them with these issues, it is still possible there is a serious gap between what you are asking and what they are hearing. They quite possibly may feel as though you are trying to control their lives. It is important that they know it is quite the reverse. They are controlling an aspect of your life and invading on your rights as a neighbor. Putting it in terms they might better understand may take you a long way. Let them see what you have lost in terms of what they do not want to lose. As a last resort, an extra copy of that book you just bought strategically placed on their doorstep would be a very kind final warning before legally pursuing this. < |
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| Noisy neighbors are hard to deal with |
| by LaShawndra Vernon
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06/02/05 |
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In the past I have dealt with noisy neighbors and have faired both poorly and well. I had a family living next to me that constantly bothered me. In fact my entire neighborhood was tired of dealing with them. As a result the entire area came together and worked to fix the problem. We contacted political officials, conducted block parties rallying together to brainstorm, but nothing seemed to work. Finally something drastic happened. The lady that lived next door died on the porch! She was lying there one morning before I went to work. It was a terrible sight, but it put the nature of their behavior into prospective. They were facing many issues that I was not able to recognize, I was so consumed by the fact that they were a noise factor on my block. They were not healthy, they did not value life in the same way that I did, they were self destructive, they needed help. I did not look at it that way. I am not saying that I was supposed to make them feel better about their lives, I am simply saying that I didn't see their issues so they saw no need to respect mine. This is where conflict arises. I wish I had handled the noisy neighbors more effectively, but hindsight is always 20/20 right? |
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| Conflict resolution tools for Teachers and Parents |
| by Michael
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02/19/05 |
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In the past I have dealt with noisy neighbors and have faired both poorly and well. I had a family living next to me that constantly bothered me. In fact my entire neighborhood was tired of dealing with them. As a result the entire area came together and worked to fix the problem. We contacted political officials, conducted block parties rallying together to brainstorm, but nothing seemed to work. Finally something drastic happened. The lady that lived next door died on the porch! She was lying there one morning before I went to work. It was a terrible sight, but it put the nature of their behavior into prospective. They were facing many issues that I was not able to recognize, I was so consumed by the fact that they were a noise factor on my block. They were not healthy, they did not value life in the same way that I did, they were self destructive, they needed help. I did not look at it that way. I am not saying that I was supposed to make them feel better about their lives, I am simply saying that I didn't see their issues so they saw no need to respect mine. This is where conflict arises. I wish I had handled the noisy neighbors more effectively, but hindsight is always 20/20 rig |
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| Mediation Techniques in Settlement? |
| by llee611838
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02/05/05 |
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In the past I have dealt with noisy neighbors and have faired both poorly and well. I had a family living next to me that constantly bothered me. In fact my entire neighborhood was tired of dealing with them. As a result the entire area came together and worked to fix the problem. We contacted political officials, conducted block parties rallying together to brainstorm, but nothing seemed to work. Finally something drastic happened. The lady that lived next door died on the porch! She was lying there one morning before I went to work. It was a terrible sight, but it put the nature of their behavior into prospective. They were facing many issues that I was not able to recognize, I was so consumed by the fact that they were a noise factor on my block. They were not healthy, they did not value life in the same way that I did, they were self destructive, they needed help. I did not look at it that way. I am not saying that I was supposed to make them feel better about their lives, I am simply saying that I didn't see their issues so they saw no need to respect mine. This is where conflict arises. I wish I had handled the noisy neighbors more effectively, but hindsight is always 20/20 rig |
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| emotions |
| by Rather Notsay
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02/02/05 |
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In the past I have dealt with noisy neighbors and have faired both poorly and well. I had a family living next to me that constantly bothered me. In fact my entire neighborhood was tired of dealing with them. As a result the entire area came together and worked to fix the problem. We contacted political officials, conducted block parties rallying together to brainstorm, but nothing seemed to work. Finally something drastic happened. The lady that lived next door died on the porch! She was lying there one morning before I went to work. It was a terrible sight, but it put the nature of their behavior into prospective. They were facing many issues that I was not able to recognize, I was so consumed by the fact that they were a noise factor on my block. They were not healthy, they did not value life in the same way that I did, they were self destructive, they needed help. I did not look at it that way. I am not saying that I was supposed to make them feel better about their lives, I am simply saying that I didn't see their issues so they saw no need to respect mine. This is where conflict arises. I wish I had handled the noisy neighbors more effectively, but hindsight is always 20/20 rig |
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| Emotion in Mediation |
| by Tad Powers
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11/10/04 |
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In the past I have dealt with noisy neighbors and have faired both poorly and well. I had a family living next to me that constantly bothered me. In fact my entire neighborhood was tired of dealing with them. As a result the entire area came together and worked to fix the problem. We contacted political officials, conducted block parties rallying together to brainstorm, but nothing seemed to work. Finally something drastic happened. The lady that lived next door died on the porch! She was lying there one morning before I went to work. It was a terrible sight, but it put the nature of their behavior into prospective. They were facing many issues that I was not able to recognize, I was so consumed by the fact that they were a noise factor on my block. They were not healthy, they did not value life in the same way that I did, they were self destructive, they needed help. I did not look at it that way. I am not saying that I was supposed to make them feel better about their lives, I am simply saying that I didn't see their issues so they saw no need to respect mine. This is where conflict arises. I wish I had handled the noisy neighbors more effectively, but hindsight is always 20/20 rig |
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| Emotion |
| by Tad Powers
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12/10/04 |
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Emily- I notice no one has commented in quite a while. Why do you think that is? Noticing my own feelings, I'm disappointed that there isn't a rapidly growing string of insightful, wise comments and questions. Should we change topics? Approaches? What do our readers (knowing they're there!) need? |
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| techniques for dealing with strong emotion |
| by Emily Gould
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11/10/04 |
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Emily- I notice no one has commented in quite a while. Why do you think that is? Noticing my own feelings, I'm disappointed that there isn't a rapidly growing string of insightful, wise comments and questions. Should we change topics? Approaches? What do our readers (knowing they're there!) need? < |
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| Responding to Emotion |
| by Tad Powers
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11/09/04 |
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Emily- I notice no one has commented in quite a while. Why do you think that is? Noticing my own feelings, I'm disappointed that there isn't a rapidly growing string of insightful, wise comments and questions. Should we change topics? Approaches? What do our readers (knowing they're there!) need? < |
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