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Family & Divorce Mediation Articles


Zena Zumeta

Interview with Zena Zumeta

(8/23/16)Zena Zumeta

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Zena Zumeta, long time mediator, trainer and former President of the Academy of Family Mediators, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.'

Tammy Lenski

How to Navigate the “not my problem” Problem

(8/19/16)Tammy Lenski

“That’s not my problem” are four of the most frustrating words to hear when you’re trying to talk through a conflict.

Donald T. Saposnek

Interview with Don Saposnek

(8/16/16)Donald T. Saposnek

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Don Saposnek, a leading family mediator, writer and editor, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.

Tammy Lenski

A Quick Little Phrase to Stop Bickering in its Tracks

(8/12/16)Tammy Lenski

Bickering, an argument about trivial matters, is one of those everyday bad habits that feeds the growth of destructive conflict in a relationship.

Shawn Leamon

5 Ways to Decide if Mediation Is a Cost-Effective Solution for Your Divorce

(8/12/16)Shawn Leamon

The article provides 5 tips to help people going through divorce determine if mediation is a cost-efficient solution to resolve their divorce.

Chip Rose

Interview with Chip Rose

(8/03/16)Chip Rose

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Chip Rose, a national leader in the fields of divorce mediation and collaborative practice, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.

Kristen Blankley

How to Make Mediation Safer in Cases of High Conflict

(8/02/16)Kristen Blankley

This article considers issues of safety in mediation, with practical advice for all mediators to consider before, during, and after a mediation session to ensure participant and mediator safety.

Jason Dykstra

Practicing Forgiveness, Holding Boundaries

(7/29/16)Jason Dykstra

Several months ago, a friend asked me how one goes about practicing forgiveness with respect to someone who persists in crossing relational boundaries, making unkind remarks, refusing to take responsibility for his/her behaviour, etc.

Stephen Fritsch

For Senior Caregivers, Mediation Is Often a Must

(7/29/16)Stephen Fritsch

When it comes time to decide on care for an elderly parent, mediation can help family members make tough financial and life care decisions.

Jim Melamed

Effective Conversations in American Society: Time for a National Mediation Act

(7/20/16)Jim Melamed

Please join Mediate.com in recognizing the importance of effective conversations and mediation by supporting a National Mediation Act. This is the shift in social consciousness, American exceptionalism and American leadership that we and the world now most need.

Phyllis Pollack

It Ain’t Easy To Say “I am Sorry”

(7/15/16)Phyllis Pollack

There are right ways and wrong ways to say “I am sorry”. Most of us have figured out the wrong ways… by accident.

Dan Simon

Mediation Center Director Re-Inspired by the Transformative Approach

(7/15/16)Dan Simon

Our intent in a recent training was to provide new mediators training in parenting plan mediation, we received so much more. Over the course of the weekend, I found myself reexamining some of my beliefs about mediation practice.

Maria Walsh

Pregnancy Discrimination Claims Grow

(7/15/16)Maria Walsh

With expanded participation of women in the workforce, there is a need to adapt the workplace to pregnant and breast-feeding workers.

F. Peter Phillips

“Procedural” Apology

(7/11/16)F. Peter Phillips

Richard Nixon was responsible for many teaching moments. One of my favorites is the advance in American appreciation of the difference between the passive voice (“Mistakes were made”) and the active voice (“I made mistakes”).

Donald T. Saposnek

What Should We Tell the Children? Developing a Mutual Story of the Divorce

(7/10/16)Donald T. Saposnek

One of the most typical questions asked of me by parents who are beginning the divorce process is, “What should we tell the children and how should we tell them?”

Nina Meierding

Interview with Nina Meierding

(7/10/16)Nina Meierding

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Nina Meierding filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.

Dan Simon

6 Reasons Name-Calling Can be a Healthy Part of Mediation

(7/01/16)Dan Simon

In some circles, name-calling is considered to be counterproductive in a mediation session.

Dr. Lynne C. Halem

Business Mediation: Strengthening Partnerships for the Long Haul

(6/27/16)Dr. Lynne C. Halem

Business partnerships are similar to marriages. Consider the problems encountered by these two very different partnerships.

Charlie Irvine

Scotland’s ‘Mixed’ Feelings About Mediation - Part 1

(6/27/16)Charlie Irvine

This paper considers Scotland’s lack of receptivity towards mediation in the light of its ‘mixed’ legal heritage of both civilian and common law influences. It contrasts the approach to mediation in common law jurisdictions (such as England and Wales and those of the USA) with that of France, where litigation acts like an ‘attracting magnet’.

Maria Simpson

Orlando and Radicalization

(6/27/16)Maria Simpson

As a former member of the IRA, and one who admits to violence, Sean O'Callaghan has clearer insights into this concept than a lot of commentators and psychologists who have not gone through this process and, more importantly, rejected it. His comments, made after the violence in France, are equally applicable to Orlando.

Richard Peachey

Mr v Mrs: Call The Mediator

(6/27/16)Richard Peachey

Behind closed doors, in more than 500 locations across England and Wales, a network of National Family Mediation (NFM) services are meeting separated couples attempting to resolve their disputes over money, children and property – without a courtroom battle.

Maxine Baker-Jackson

Interview with Maxine Baker-Jackson

(6/21/16)Maxine Baker-Jackson

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Maxine Baker-Jackson, former Director and Mediator, Los Angeles County Superior Court, Dependency Court, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.

Are You Really Ready for Divorce? The 8 Questions You Need to Ask

(6/20/16)Bruce Derman, Wendy Gregson

This article outlines what couples need to do in order to face the numerous dilemmas that are inherent in divorce. If people have not resolved their dilemmas before the divorce, they go through the process trying to manage their fear in different ways by hiding their doubt, responsibility; vulnerability, or dependency.

John Lande

Mashburn on Mediation in Open Adoption Cases

(6/10/16)John Lande

I remember one case that broke my heart in which I wish we could have arranged an open adoption.

Patricia Porter

You Thought Your Marriage Was Miserable- Wait Till You Get To Court…

(6/10/16)Patricia Porter

The breakup of a marriage almost always involves some level of conflict between spouses, but the process of litigation during divorce ratchets that conflict up to a level of devastation for all members of the immediate and even extended family.

Laurie Israel

Underwood Family Values – A Template for a Marriage

(6/10/16)Laurie Israel

The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.

Clare Fowler

3 Dastardly Disputes

(6/06/16)Clare Fowler

It seems lately everyone is trying to classify disputes. Well, never let it be said that I wasn't one for jumping on the bandwagon.

Jennifer Mahony

Revelling in the Pause: Creating Sustainable, Connected Working Relationships

(6/06/16)Jennifer Mahony

Mediation is about revelling in the pauses, honouring them, leaning into them. It is about slowing down, about being purposeful in everything that is said and done.

Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.

Interview with Joan Kelly

(5/31/16)Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.

This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Joan Kelly, well-known clinical psychologist, researcher and founding Executive Director of the Northern California Mediation Center, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.

Maria Simpson

Don't Take That Tone . . .

(5/27/16)Maria Simpson

An endgame is the strategy you plan for how you will play your last hand or your remaining chess pieces or the end of the race to ensure the outcome you want. Sometimes those strategies work and sometimes they don’t, but it’s the plan we put into place to get a desired result, and then we hope it works.

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