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Laurie Israel

Underwood Family Values – A Template for a Marriage

(6/10/16)Laurie Israel The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.
Clare Fowler

3 Dastardly Disputes

(6/06/16)Clare Fowler It seems lately everyone is trying to classify disputes. Well, never let it be said that I wasn't one for jumping on the bandwagon.
Jennifer Mahony

Revelling in the Pause: Creating Sustainable, Connected Working Relationships

(6/06/16)Jennifer Mahony Mediation is about revelling in the pauses, honouring them, leaning into them. It is about slowing down, about being purposeful in everything that is said and done.
Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.

Interview with Joan Kelly

(5/31/16)Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D. This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Joan Kelly, well-known clinical psychologist, researcher and founding Executive Director of the Northern California Mediation Center, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Maria Simpson

Don't Take That Tone . . .

(5/27/16)Maria Simpson An endgame is the strategy you plan for how you will play your last hand or your remaining chess pieces or the end of the race to ensure the outcome you want. Sometimes those strategies work and sometimes they don’t, but it’s the plan we put into place to get a desired result, and then we hope it works.
Hadassah Fidler

When Sorry Can’t Be The Only Word

(5/27/16)Hadassah Fidler The latest research into apologising will come as no surprise to those who work in the mediation arena.
Dr. Lynne C. Halem

Challenging The Myths Surrounding Divorce Mediation

(5/21/16)Dr. Lynne C. Halem Challenging divorce mediation myths, such as whether or not mediation will work if only one spouse can communicate well.
Tammy Lenski

Holding the Space for Someone in Conflict

(5/20/16)Tammy Lenski What does it mean to hold the space for someone who’s trying to get somewhere different in a conflict?
Gary Direnfeld

Resolving a Parenting Dispute? Get with the times….

(5/06/16)Gary Direnfeld For years, family law litigators were the go to persons to facilitate the distribution of property, support obligations and the plan of care for children of the relationship between separating couples.
Dan Simon

Surgeons’ Apologies Decrease Lawsuits: How Can that be News?

(5/06/16)Dan Simon I read an article on CNN that explains that when surgeons and other medical providers apologize after they’ve made a mistake, people are less likely to sue. What I found hard to swallow was that the story was considered newsworthy.
Larry Fong

Interview with Larry Fong

(5/02/16)Larry Fong This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Larry Fong, a leading Canadian Family Mediator, filmed as part of Mediate.com's "'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Marilyn McKnight

Interview with Marilyn McKnight

(4/26/16)Marilyn McKnight This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Marilyn McKnight, former President of the Academy of Family Mediators and Association for Conflict Resolution, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Series.
Eric Slepak

Child Protection Perspectives: Initiating the Conversation

(4/18/16)Eric Slepak RSI wanted to shine some attention on the work we are doing related to the development of the new Child Protection Mediation Program.
Vicki Shemin

4 Benefits Of Being A Child Of Divorce

(4/15/16)Vicki Shemin As a child of divorce, a divorced mother of two, and a long-practicing divorce lawyer/therapist, divorce is not exactly something I would advocate for improving a child’s mental health.
Gary Direnfeld

Beyond Court there is a World of Better Options to Resolve Parental Conflict. Here’s Four:

(4/08/16)Gary Direnfeld When locked in bitter conflict, sometimes people resort to court. This can result in poor outcomes as the court is more limited in terms of solutions that can be ordered.
Tammy Lenski

Work with People, Not on Them

(4/08/16)Tammy Lenski How do you reduce resistance? What are the best ways to handle difficult people?

Family Law Progress Inspires Divorce Mediation in Arizona

(4/04/16)Karen Aurit, Michael Aurit Three years have passed since the words “child custody” have been spoken in an Arizona courtroom. They have not been missed.
Patricia Porter

Laughing Through Conflict – Benefits of Infusing Humor into Your Relationship

(3/31/16)Patricia Porter Humor and laughter can be a valuable tool for defusing the tension brought on by conflict.
Tammy Lenski

Small Caring Actions to Help Ease the Suffering in Conflict

(3/11/16)Tammy Lenski Conflict and suffering are confederates working in painful alliance, each feeding the other as if to ensure its own continued existence. If I turn away from the suffering in conflict, I deny a part of my clients’ experience.
Jim Melamed

Review of MediationMate

(3/07/16)Jim Melamed This is a review of MediationMate (www.MediationMate.com), a new suite of end-to-end productivity tools for divorce mediators.
Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.

Top Ten Ways To Protect Your Kids From The Fallout Of A High Conflict Break-Up

(3/04/16)Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D. Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D. is a groundbreaking clinical psychologist and researcher who began studying the impact of divorce on children in 1968. Joan is an author, therapist, mediator, and parenting coordinator with four decades of experience working with high conflict parents who are separating.
Guest Author

High Conflict Child Custody: Mediation And Settlement

(2/29/16) In this video I discuss the dynamics and the psychology of settlement. This is one of the first challenges I faced in my child custody dispute and it really blindsided me.
Martin Rosenfeld

Eight Benefits of Collaborative Practice Training

(2/26/16)Martin Rosenfeld This article describes the benefits I see from taking Collaborative training.
Robert Baum

Alimony Does Not Necessarily End Upon Retirement of the Wage Earner

(2/26/16)Robert Baum A common misconception is that alimony will automatically end when the person paying the alimony retires. Unless the settlement agreement specifically provides for alimony termination upon retirement, recent cases in hold that alimony will continue, although perhaps at a reduced amount.
Laurieann Ram-Kern

Getting a Divorce - What Are You Going To Do With The Family Home?

(2/19/16)Laurieann Ram-Kern You made the decision to divorce, now read how to navigate best the mountainous task of deciding what to do with the family home.
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