Family & Divorce Mediation Articles
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Zena Zumeta, long time mediator, trainer and former President of the Academy of Family Mediators, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.'
“That’s not my problem” are four of the most frustrating words to hear when you’re trying to talk through a conflict.
(8/16/16)Donald T. Saposnek
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Don Saposnek, a leading family mediator, writer and editor, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
Bickering, an argument about trivial matters, is one of those everyday bad habits that feeds the growth of destructive conflict in a relationship.
The article provides 5 tips to help people going through divorce determine if mediation is a cost-efficient solution to resolve their divorce.
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Chip Rose, a national leader in the fields of divorce mediation and collaborative practice, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
This article considers issues of safety in mediation, with practical advice for all mediators to consider before, during, and after a mediation session to ensure participant and mediator safety.
Several months ago, a friend asked me how one goes about practicing forgiveness with respect to someone who persists in crossing relational boundaries, making unkind remarks, refusing to take responsibility for his/her behaviour, etc.
When it comes time to decide on care for an elderly parent, mediation can help family members make tough financial and life care decisions.
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There are right ways and wrong ways to say “I am sorry”. Most of us have figured out the wrong ways… by accident.
Our intent in a recent training was to provide new mediators training in parenting plan mediation, we received so much more. Over the course of the weekend, I found myself reexamining some of my beliefs about mediation practice.
With expanded participation of women in the workforce, there is a need to adapt the workplace to pregnant and breast-feeding workers.
(7/11/16)F. Peter Phillips
Richard Nixon was responsible for many teaching moments. One of my favorites is the advance in American appreciation of the difference between the passive voice (“Mistakes were made”) and the active voice (“I made mistakes”).
(7/10/16)Donald T. Saposnek
One of the most typical questions asked of me by parents who are beginning the divorce process is, “What should we tell the children and how should we tell them?”
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Nina Meierding filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
In some circles, name-calling is considered to be counterproductive in a mediation session.
(6/27/16)Dr. Lynne C. Halem
Business partnerships are similar to marriages. Consider the problems encountered by these two very different partnerships.
This paper considers Scotland’s lack of receptivity towards mediation in the light of its ‘mixed’ legal heritage of both civilian and common law influences. It contrasts the approach to mediation in common law jurisdictions (such as England and Wales and those of the USA) with that of France, where litigation acts like an ‘attracting magnet’.
As a former member of the IRA, and one who admits to violence, Sean O'Callaghan has clearer insights into this concept than a lot of commentators and psychologists who have not gone through this process and, more importantly, rejected it. His comments, made after the violence in France, are equally applicable to Orlando.
Behind closed doors, in more than 500 locations across England and Wales, a network of National Family Mediation (NFM) services are meeting separated couples attempting to resolve their disputes over money, children and property – without a courtroom battle.
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Maxine Baker-Jackson, former Director and Mediator, Los Angeles County Superior Court, Dependency Court, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
(6/20/16)Bruce Derman, Wendy Gregson
This article outlines what couples need to do in order to face the numerous dilemmas that are inherent in divorce. If people have not resolved their dilemmas before the divorce, they go through the process trying to manage their fear in different ways by hiding their doubt, responsibility; vulnerability, or dependency.
I remember one case that broke my heart in which I wish we could have arranged an open adoption.
The breakup of a marriage almost always involves some level of conflict between spouses, but the process of litigation during divorce ratchets that conflict up to a level of devastation for all members of the immediate and even extended family.
The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.
It seems lately everyone is trying to classify disputes. Well, never let it be said that I wasn't one for jumping on the bandwagon.
Mediation is about revelling in the pauses, honouring them, leaning into them. It is about slowing down, about being purposeful in everything that is said and done.
(5/31/16)Joan B. Kelly, Ph.D.
This is the complete interview by Robert Benjamin with Joan Kelly, well-known clinical psychologist, researcher and founding Executive Director of the Northern California Mediation Center, filmed as part of Mediate.com's 'Views from the Eye of the Storm' Video Series.
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An endgame is the strategy you plan for how you will play your last hand or your remaining chess pieces or the end of the race to ensure the outcome you want. Sometimes those strategies work and sometimes they don’t, but it’s the plan we put into place to get a desired result, and then we hope it works.