Family & Divorce Mediation Articles
Valentine's Day: Hearts & Flowers Or Darts & Revenge (2/07/10)
Jeff Murphy Valentine's Day serves as a reminder of broken relationships. Divorced people are often angry and want revenge. Mediation gives the parties an opportunity to vent while allowing them to preserve the relationship. This is especially important if children are involved. This article includes comments from a divorce attorney and a therapist on how to handle divorce and Valentine's Day.
Parenting Plans For Special Needs Children (2/01/10)
Dr. Lynne C. Halem All parenting situations are not the same. In particular, in families of children with special needs, the parenting plan needs to be crafted with great care. Here, parents need to think and re-think child-related situations that over the years have most challenged their coping mechanisms and include provisions for their interaction and oversight that deal specifically with these very targeted issues.
Family Mediation Pilot Gets Mixed Results (1/25/10)
Jeff Thompson This article I think is worth reading for many reasons- and beyond just for family mediators. Issues such as saving, accrediting mediators and determining success is not limited to court mediations surrounding family issues.
(1/19/10)
Keith Seat
The teenager who ran away to Florida from her Muslim family who she said threatened to harm her for converting to Christianity has returned to Ohio. At a court hearing, an Ohio judge rejected the family’s request for mediation without attorneys present, and agreed with the girl’s attorney to continue with counseling and delay mediation.
SNP Online.com (December 23, 2009)
Mediation For Seniors (1/05/10)
Norman Pickell As seniors grow older, decisions often need to be made about where to live, should the senior continue to drive, how should financial affairs be managed and what kind of medical care is appropriate. These are tough emotional decisions often requiring difficult conversations within a family.
10 Ways For Divorcing Families To Enjoy The Holidays (1/04/10)
Linda Gryczan All families experience additional stress during celebrations and holidays, but divorced families can be pushed to the limit. We are headed into a time when everyone is expected to be happy and full of good cheer, and maybe your heart is in shreds, the kids are fighting, and you are flat broke. 10 Ways for Divorcing Families to Enjoy the Holidays offers suggestions on how to agree on a schedule; simplify celebrations; keep conflict to a minimum; plan for alone time and incorporate new traditions.
Business Divorce Mediation (1/04/10)
Richard Lutringer This article addresses how mediators can assist ordinary business owners and their counsel to resolve split-up issues more efficiently and fairly than litigation or arbitration.
Simple Mediation Methods Can Help Children Resolve Disputes (12/07/09)
Michael Lang Ah, the joys of parenting. Did we sign up for this? Who said we would need to be referees? Parenting was supposed to be about loving, nurturing and educating our children. I can’t tell you the number of times my three children would squabble about food, toys, space or (most contentious of all) control of the TV remote. So, when these arguments happen, and they will, what’s a parent to do?
Turning Parents Into People (11/30/09)
Michael Jacobs In the world of family mediation, the ‘best interests of the children’ often take central stage. There is much to argue for in this position. While not ignoring the voice of the child, we may also need to spend time reflecting on what it might mean to also work in the ‘best interests of adults’.
Mediation As An Alternative To Therapy (11/30/09)
Diane Cohen I was drawn to mediation because of what I saw as its unique ability to create greater happiness. I saw it as an alternative to therapy in many ways that was more suitable for people who were not mentally ill and who did not feel they needed to be diagnosed and treated, but to be understood and have their needs and desires addressed.
Same-Sex Couples: When Divorce Isn’t An Option (11/30/09)
Arnold W. Zeman Since 1995, same-sex couples have had full marriage rights in Canada. Since these rights are not available in many U.S. states, American couples have travelled to Canada to get married. So far so good. What happens, though, in the event that marriages of non-Canadian same-sex couples break down?
Divorcing Couples Can Save A Lot Of Money With Mediation (11/23/09)
Cynthia M. Fox One of the hardest things about divorce is its cost, not just emotionally and psychologically, but in cold hard cash. A typical scenario is a husband, wife and two attorneys. Add the expense of outside experts if there are disputes over who can better parent their children or the valuation of an asset such as a business that one or both owns, and the bottom line is fees well into five figures for each party.
How Not To Kill Your Relatives This Thanksgiving (11/23/09)
Victoria Pynchon I kicked off a recent Thanksgiving holiday season by having an argument with my friend and neighbor the rocket scientist about extraordinary rendition and the effect of immigrant workers on the economy. I knew I'd lost all sense of perspective around midnight as I continued searching for and emailing Tony articles that proved me right, while Mr. Thrifty snored softly beside me, intermittently awakening to say "I thought you said you were going to go to sleep?" Embarrassing, but true.
Good Job Ari! (11/09/09)
Jeff Thompson Honorable Mention was awarded to Ari Fontecchio of the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law for his essay entitled “Naming, Framing and Taming: Why Timing and Emotional Intelligence Really Matter in Crisis Intervention. Ari interviewed me months ago on how I, along with the entire NYPD Community Affairs Bureau, used various conflict resolution skills during the emotionallly charged Tibetan Protests in New York City during the Spring of 2008.
(11/03/09)
Keith Seat
USA Network is developing a TV series called “Facing Kate” in which Sarah Shahi plays a lawyer who leaves her job to become a mediator. Reports note that the main character is divorced, suggesting an emphasis on family mediation.
Mediation’s Place Blog (October 29, 2009); THR.com (October 21, 2009)
Elder Mediation Matters: Probate, Guardianship and Family Care-giving (10/26/09)
Susan Curcio M.A. Conflict associated with estate matters, adult guardianship and family care-giving can tear families apart. Present decisions regarding an aging family member can be influenced by past history. More families will be faced with difficult choices as the population ages in growing numbers. Elder Mediation offers the opportunity to avoid going through the court system which can be costly, time-consuming and divisive. A skilled Elder Mediator can help participants focus on the future and arrive at creative solutions.
‘Bad Dad’ Emerges As Better Dad’ (10/19/09)
Arnold W. Zeman The text below is taken from vol. 1 issue 2 of”Conflict Chronicles” of October 15th, an email newsletter published by the Conflict Resolution Center of the University of North Dakota:
Divorce Mediation: Is Separate Always Better? (10/12/09)
Kregg Nance, Benjamin Papa It is our experience that the vast majority of divorce mediators in Middle Tennessee conduct all divorce mediations with the parties in separate rooms from beginning to end. This seems to be true regardless of whether the parties have children together, their ability to communicate effectively, or the general level of conflict they are experiencing. This article challenges the premise that “separate is always better” and asks whether automatically separating the parties in divorce mediation serves the parties well, especially long-term.
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