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Will Saints and Pelicans owner Tom Benson face his estranged daughter Renee Benson across a mediation table in San Antonio? The question is the latest dispute in the Benson family feud. Renee Benson's lawyer said Tom Benson wants the option to skip mediation in their trust dispute in Texas and send representatives in his place. Renee Benson's legal team argues that the 88-year-old must participate in person. read
The estranged couple – who separated recently filed for divorce after two years of marriage – are hoping to keep their split as amicable as possible for the sake of their two-year-old son, Maceo, and have already agreed to seek professional help to iron out a fair custody agreement. read
Elizabeth Clemants, a New York City mediator and shaman., discusses the psychology of conflict resolution, how she integrates her work as a shaman with mediation, and the role that empathy plays in her work. Clemants also talks about the difficulty of coming to a solution in the “Me” generation. read
Even though we mediators love to tout the benefits of using divorce mediation over other divorce processes (especially traditional, court-based divorce) it is not the most popular process. Mediation just isn't the number one choice (yet) despite the facts that: it usually costs less, is faster and more efficient, and is a gentler and more peaceful process. read
Retirement village dispute resolution could be improved soon, after a forum in Auckland last week found a gap in the system. The outcome could be a beefed-up mediation process for the approximately 33,000 residents who live in a steadily rising number of villages, attempting to resolve issues faster between the owner/managers and the residents - and complaints might be able to be made online soon. read
Saints and Pelicans owner Tom Benson and his estranged daughter have agreed to work with a mediator on a possible settlement in the fight for control over the family's assets in Texas, lawyers for both sides said Monday (Oct. 19). read
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Family & Divorce Mediation Articles
Separation as a Cause of Conflict and Violence (11/30/15) Lorraine Segal The longer I work to understand and heal my own resentments and conflicts, and the more I work with individuals and organizations that need help with communication and conflict resolution, the more clearly I see that a huge underlying cause of conflict is separation.
Yes, it Does Matter What Others Think of You (10/12/15) Vivian Scott If you’re on the Internet at all, you’ve probably seen those quotes floating around social media that are supposed to give you strength, inspire you, or simply provide a chuckle here and there. Some of them can be quite thought provoking; enough so that I often share them myself because I think they’re a quick way to remind us all to be our best, try our hardest, and to generally calm down while we focus on the good things in our lives.
Are You Really Ready for Divorce? The 8 Questions You Need to Ask (10/06/15) Bruce Derman, Wendy Gregson This article outlines what couples need to do in order to face the numerous dilemmas that are inherent in divorce. A dilemma implies that you are torn between two choices, each of which have undesirable fearful elements. If people have not resolved their dilemmas before the divorce, they go through the process trying to manage their fear in different ways by hiding their doubt, responsibility; vulnerability, or dependency.
Bad Day at JAMS, Part 1 (10/02/15) Dan Simon An old friend (I’ll call him Frank) called to tell me he was being sued by a former employer (I’ll call him Owen) for improperly taking customers and trade secrets. I warned Frank that mediations conducted by retired judges often feel silly, meaningless and frustrating to litigants, and that they achieve, best case scenario, a settlement that both sides are unhappy with.
Being Creative with Child Support (9/25/15) Dick Price Using the Collaborative Law process, we feel impelled to be creative with solutions, even where there are standard guidelines in the Texas Family Code for such things as how to set child support. In most litigation cases, the child support amount is quickly set by following the standard formula. The Code deals with the amounts of income and the number of children before the Court, as well as considering if there are other children that need to be supported.
Sometimes You Need to Give Them Reasons to Mediate (8/08/15) Jeff Murphy So you would like to mediate your divorce, but you think you’ll have a hard time convincing your spouse to go along. I’m assuming he or she is ready to end the marriage as well and having a conversation about how to do it won’t be a surprise.
Finding a Maryland Divorce Mediator (7/08/15) Donna Duquette If you are thinking about working with a divorce mediator, then this is probably one of the more difficult times in your life. To make matters even more challenging, in the midst of this emotional turmoil you are called upon to make some important family decisions. One of these decisions is how to find a divorce mediator who will be right for you and your spouse. Here are suggestions for finding a divorce mediator in Maryland.
Designing a Successful Parenting Plan (6/17/15) Don Gordon, Jack Arbuthnot Here are several important issues you should think about as you design your parenting plan. A child needs the love and affection of both parents, but they also need both as teachers. These roles should override your desire to “own” your children.
Why We Have Different Experiences (6/12/15) Jason Dykstra How often does this happen to us? We experience the same action as another person and walk away from the action with a totally different perspective that happened. It happens at staff meetings, conversations with our bosses or employees, and even with our partners and kids.