Comments: We Stumble...But Love Never Fails

Go to article

Aaron  , -97.000000 AL   03/07/12
Mediation
This article reminds me that the legal example of the 'reasonable' person is just that, a person. I reflect on how many conflicts and arguments I could have handled differently if I stopped running my mouth and listened. The idea of tolerating or accepting another person causes us to stumble. We must ultimately have love and compassion of a person to create successful and safe spaces for mediation.

W.S. Harralson, CA   01/26/12
We Stumble...But Love Never Fails
You offer a very innovative concept that I will refine and incorporate into my mediation practice. Thank you!

Mary , Quebec   01/26/12
We Stumble...But Love Never Fails
Insightful and very astute to the deep rooted issues that mediation encompasses. Thank You.

Heidi , Woodstock CT   01/25/12
This is a beautiful illustration of how there is always a broken relationship at the bottom of all conflict, which results in feelings of disrespect by one or all parties. I watched a mediation fall apart just because one of the disputants saw that he was not going to get an apology or acknowledgement that he had been disrespected. The money was less important to him than the apology. People often think they are after a monetary settlement, when what they really want is to be acknowledged.

Barbara , Harrisburg PA   01/24/12
We Stumble...But Love Never Fails
Your article is so right on point! Especially hearing the small quiet voice telling you to not intervene in that moment. This is what I am talking about in Mediation. I have been so blessed with my Mediation experiences! From the beginning, many of them have ended with parties hugging each other as well as my co-mediator and me. I believe that Mediation can many times be part of a healing process. I have even had them end with prayers. Such a beautiful experience! Congratulations on this wonderful article! I look forward to seeing more from you!

Linda , Helena MT   01/24/12
Mediators often speak of an apology that allows the parties to settle. "Love Never Fails" points out that love or agape can also satisfy the parties needs. I recently experienced this in a workplace mediation where I asked the parties to each list 5 qualities they appreciate about each of their co-workers. I also ask parents, before they begin to negotiate a parenting plan, to bring in 10 qualities or memories about each other that they promise to tell their children. (idea from UpToParents.org). This article is a wonderful reminder of how effective this approach can be. There is a shortage of positive feelings around the mediation table. If mediators can encourage agape, the parties are more likely to settle, and be satisfied with the agreement.