Roberta , Los Angeles CA email@example.com 03/10/09
Don't use 'force -- use a positive frame
Bill Eddy's suggestion that parents use the language of 'expectations' instead of 'force' shows the power of positively framing an emotion -- brilliantly. And of course the mediator can model this use of framing.
And happily children's expectations are often positive, so when you tell a child that the other parent is expecting them, for the child it's perhaps like expecting an adventure, propelling them into the next moment.
What a wonderful suggestion. Thanks.