Comments: Traits of a 'Mediator'

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Pearl Georgen, Los Angeles CA  pmgeorgen@aol.com     08/04/10
Good job, Sam. Thanks for addressing the male pronoun issue. It was a concern of mine also. I like the article and your chutzpah in writing it.

Pearl , Los Angeles CA   08/04/10
Interesting and innovative correlation made by the author. i'm impressed. I hadn't thought of mediation in quite this way before, particularly from this source (the manual).

Fisher Michael David, Melbourne Vi  rudd2@live.com.au     04/23/09
ADR
The essential key to resolve conflict, to mediate and effectevely conduct ADR process such as: dispute or negotiate, is to keep every trick of the trade as close as possible and to invade and to unfold intrinsic nature of human feelings of every one involved. Feelings are the clouds over the rights. It is a duty of every professional to utilize re framing principles and to systematical isolate concerns and issues of the case. Various models e.g. 7 stages of the mediation or 12 steps to resolve a dispute or any other is there for the purpose. ADR process has a future as long as its walks together with generation serves its needs and deliver prompt justice within complex multicultural society interests, rights and obligations.

paul  , Knoxville TN   04/20/09
The categories of "traits" sound promising. I believe the explanations of the categories miss the point. In my perspective of mediation the mediator is a neutral. No agendas. Her goal is to keep the parties focused to come to a resolution. So when there is the "agreement", the parties came to it as both informed and voluntarily. The process is all about them. Some of the listed traits help but aren't the complete answer. I would rather be trusted above all. Helping the parties think their way out conflict is what it's all about. Thank you.

Sam , Portland OR  SamImperati@comcast.net     02/25/09
Pronouns
I have received emails from colleagues noting I only used the masculine pronoun in the above article. One was addressed to “Ms. Imperati,” perhaps to make a point. As the “Author’s” Full Disclosure indicates, the article was “cribbed.” I considered changing the pronouns, but decided against it because I thought it was telling that the real authors did not. Perhaps the point was too subtle, for which I apologize. Thanks, Sam