I think I am successful, but am I significant?

26 July 2005

Dear Diary

I think I am successful but am I significant?

Today all my insecurities came out to play.

After a long session they removed their dark suit coats from the back of their chairs, walked over to where I was wiping the board and said “. . . thanks Geoff – not sure what you did, probably we didn’t need mediation, probably could have got there ourselves but, hey . . . it was fun . . .”

What???

Can’t they see I didn’t just do the money – that was the easy part after I stayed connected with them when they were being difficult and after I subtly created doubt in their obdurate minds without offending them.

Come to think of it…I even planted the seed that grew into the outcome (hey, it was so my idea!!), without them thinking I had made an uninvited mediator’s proposal.

And another thing, why on earth can’t they identify the defining moment of the day when I persuaded them to step away from the cliff after they had all but held hands and jumped off.

Too needy? . . . okay, couldn’t they at least recognise all that paddling under the water I did when it all went wrong this morning- the caring questioning that set the tone early on, the eternal optimism through out that created the right vibe - seems a long time ago for them but it was just a couple of mediator moves back for me.

Yep, sometimes its only my Mum who’s really there for me.

So what I did I say to the guy putting on his coat?

You tell me what you would have said by using the ‘add a brief comment’ link below.

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willam ,   new york city ny	centeringear@aol.com      08/17/05
may I be as the air you breathe, as necessary and as unnoticed
If you start from this premise "may I be as the air you breathe as necessary and as unnoticed" then you could feel a very satisfied mediator Add New Comment

Sue ,   Leicester UK	sugrady@cwcom.net      08/10/05
You told yourself the following - If I act as a bridge I must expect to be walked upon. Add New Comment

Martha Uelmen,   San Jose CA	08/04/05
I do what I do so well that you didn't even realize that you needed me. Add New Comment

Linda ,   San Francisco CA	eresolve@aol.com      08/04/05
A Lao-tzu poem
This has happened a number of times and always reminds me of this ancient poem: "A leader is best When people barely know That he exists, Less good when They obey and acclaim him, Worse when They fear and despise him. Fail to honor people And they fail to honor you. But of a good leader, When his work is done, His aim fulfilled, They will say, We did this ourselves." Add New Comment

Linda ,   San Francisco CA	eresolve@aol.com      08/04/05
A Lao-tzu poem
This has happened a number of times and always reminds me of this ancient poem: "A leader is best When People barely know That he exists, Less good when They obey and acclaim him, Worse when They fear and despise him. Add New Comment

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