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Five (Personal) Principles About Healing Conflict

by Lorraine Segal
November 2010

From Lorraine Segal's Conflict Remedy Blog

Lorraine Segal

My blog has been a wonderful way for me to reflect on my fundamental beliefs about conflict resolution. Many times I would write a new entry, and then wonder uneasily if I was repeating myself.

I realized that although I offer different stories and contexts, a few principles about conflict and communication are at the heart of my writings. As this is the one year anniversary of my blog, I thought I’d share with you the principles I uncovered:

1. We all deserve loving nourishment, so we can grow, heal, and lead a rich meaningful life.

2. Much conflict and unhappiness come from poor communication, misunderstandings, and unrealistic expectations. We can our increase awareness and acceptance of differences (including cultural, generational, ethnic, religious, gender, sexual orientation, class.) We can learn to listen with compassionate openness and express ourselves clearly, honoring our inner truth and that of others.

3. Learning to forgive ourselves and others and letting go of resentments are essential aspect of healing. We need to accept that making (frequent) mistakes is simply part of being human. And changing our own attitudes and behavior, challenging though that is, is much more feasible than changing other people.

4. Workshops, classes, conflict coaching with individuals or small groups, mediations, and meeting facilitation can all be vehicles for healing conflicts and communication problems.

5. Transformation, healing, forgiveness, and joy are always possible. And I wish for each of us to find and walk that path.

Biography


Lorraine Segal is a certified Conflict Management coach and teacher, specializing in communication and conflict resolution in the workplace. For many years a middle manager and tenured community college professor, she has her own business, Conflict Remedy LLC.

In her organizational consulting, classes, and coaching, she helps people learn new skills, get “unstuck” from negative stories, and shift their patterns of thinking and reacting so they can learn to: communicate clearly, resolve conflict effectively, and contribute to a more harmonious and productive workplace.

She currently teaches at Sonoma State University, Santa Rosa Junior College, and St. Joseph Health Life Learning Center (Memorial Hospital) and works with various businesses and organizations. 



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