Five (Personal) Principles About Healing Conflict
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From Lorraine Segal's Conflict Remedy Blog November 2010 |
My blog has been a wonderful way for me to reflect on my fundamental beliefs about conflict resolution. Many times I would write a new entry, and then wonder uneasily if I was repeating myself.
I realized that although I offer different stories and contexts, a few principles about conflict and communication are at the heart of my writings. As this is the one year anniversary of my blog, I thought I’d share with you the principles I uncovered:
1. We all deserve loving nourishment, so we can grow, heal, and lead a rich meaningful life.
2. Much conflict and unhappiness come from poor communication, misunderstandings, and unrealistic expectations. We can our increase awareness and acceptance of differences (including cultural, generational, ethnic, religious, gender, sexual orientation, class.) We can learn to listen with compassionate openness and express ourselves clearly, honoring our inner truth and that of others.
3. Learning to forgive ourselves and others and letting go of resentments are essential aspect of healing. We need to accept that making (frequent) mistakes is simply part of being human. And changing our own attitudes and behavior, challenging though that is, is much more feasible than changing other people.
4. Workshops, classes, conflict coaching with individuals or small groups, mediations, and meeting facilitation can all be vehicles for healing conflicts and communication problems.
5. Transformation, healing, forgiveness, and joy are always possible. And I wish for each of us to find and walk that path.
Biography
Lorraine Segal, M.A., has her own Sonoma County conflict & forgiveness coaching, mediation, and training business, Conflict Remedy, based in Santa Rosa, California. She also teaches in Sonoma State University’s Conflict Resolution certificate program and leads communication skills workshops and webinars on forgiveness, co-parenting skills, and communication. She specializes in transforming communication for divorced parents.
She has presented face to face or via teleseminar for ACR, ADRHub, Women’s Global Leadership Institute, local non profits and schools. Her coaching and mediation services are available by telephone as well as face to face. Her blog and more information about her and her services are available at www.ConflictRemedy.com
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