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From Lorraine Segal's Conflict Remedy Blog
I love reading science fiction, because at its best it offers an imaginative window into our conflicts and possible solutions. In Factoring Humanity, renowned SF author Robert J. Sawyer explores the power of empathy to transform human relationships.
In the book, SETI scientists are attempting to decipher a series of radio messages received from Alpha Centuri. A brilliant psychologist figures out that the messages, when grouped together, are a blue print for building a 4th dimensional hypercube. She builds it, activates it, and discovers she can use it to enter into the mind of anyone on the planet. She witnesses the lives of widely diverse people and is awe struck at the rich complexity of their thoughts and emotions.
She shares the technology with her husband, who is holding deep bitterness and rage against a misguided counselor whose actions led to the death of his daughter and almost destroyed his marriage.
He wants the counselor to be punished for the harm she has done, but after he enters into her mind and sees the truth of who she is and the deep childhood wounds that shaped her, he is able to let go of his burning resentment.
Ultimately, this new technology transforms humanity. Wars and murders virtually stop, the nightly newscast fills with good news, and people everywhere are infused with a spirit of compassion, truthfulness, and deep connection.
This remarkable, healing transformation comes about because of empathy and identification.
Although we don’t have a 4 dimensional hypercube to assist us, we can learn and help our clients learn, to develop imaginative empathy, to envision what motivates another, or why they see life or situations so differently from us. This process has tremendous potential to reduce conflict and increase peace and compassion.
Lorraine Segal, M.A., has her own Sonoma County conflict & forgiveness coaching, mediation, and training business, Conflict Remedy, based in Santa Rosa, California. She also teaches in Sonoma State University’s Conflict Resolution certificate program and leads communication skills workshops and webinars on forgiveness, co-parenting skills, and communication. She specializes in transforming communication for divorced parents.
She has presented face to face or via teleseminar for ACR, ADRHub, Women’s Global Leadership Institute, local non profits and schools. Her coaching and mediation services are available by telephone as well as face to face. Her blog and more information about her and her services are available at www.ConflictRemedy.com
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