1. We agree to take turns speaking and not interrupt each other.
2. We agree to call each other by our first names, not "he" or "she."
3. We agree to not blame, attack, or engage in put-downs and will ask questions of each other for the purposes of gaining clarity and understanding. 4. We agree to stay away from establishing hard positions and express ourselves in terms of our personal needs and interests and the outcomes that we wish to realize.
5. We agree to listen respectfully and sincerely try to understand the other person's needs and interests.
6. We recognize that, even if we do not agree with it, each of us is entitled to our own perspective.
7. We will not dwell on things that did not work in the past, but instead will focus on the future we would like to create.
8. We agree to make a conscious, sincere effort to refrain from unproductive arguing, venting, or narration, and agree to use our time in mediation to work toward what we perceive to be our fairest and most constructive agreement possible.
9. We will speak up if something is not working for us in mediation.
10. We will request a break when we need to.
11. While in mediation, we will refrain from adversarial legal proceedings (except in the case of an emergency necessitating such action).
12. We will point out if we feel the mediator is not being impartial as to person and neutral as to result.
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