Conflict Resolution For Kids

by Jeff Thompson

From Jeff Thompson's Enjoy Mediation Blog

September 2010

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I found this today and thought it would be a fun read for those mediators out their with children!

From www.Babble.com
Recently, my friend's four-year-old had a preschool classmate over for a play date. All was copasetic until his pal grabbed a much-loved toy helicopter and took off across the living room...

1) Make a Plan

If talking doesn't work, break all the toys.

2) Redirect

Are you really angry with him for taking the toy or are you really upset about the Big Bank Bail Out, or the Mortage Crisis?

3) Have Realistic Expectations

Mikey not really be in the mood to say sorry... especially since there is a distinct smell coming from his diaper.

4) Focus on Feelings & Relationships

"So it you sound like you are really angry about the blocks being knocked over. It also sounds like having a relationship with Mr. Elephant is important to you."

5) Obedience Isn't The Goal

"Say you are sorry because I said so or I am taking away Mr. Elephant. 1... 2...."

Ok, thats my attempt at humor. The title of the tips are real but I added in the comedic descriptions.

Read the real article [here].

Biography

Jeff Thompson is a certified international mediator. He is also a law enforcement detective in New York. His law enforcement role include a being a communication and conflict specialist, interfaith dialogue, developing and implementing community engagement programs, and designing training workshops.

Jeff is currently a PhD candidate researching nonverbal communication and mediation at Griffith University Law School. He also received his MS in Negotiation and Dispute Resolution from the Creighton University School of Law. Jeff has presented and trained on the topic of conflict, mediation, communication and nonverbal communication internationally and has been published and featured with numerous international media organizations. He currently writes also at PsychologyToday.com.

(All posts by Jeff Thompson represent his personal reflections and opinions as a mediator and not that of any organization.)

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