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Don’t Run From Discomfort During Conflict…Allow It

by Tammy Lenski
November 2012

Tammy Lenski's Conflict Zen Blog

Tammy Lenski

As we began the kriya, my yoga teacher said, “If you feel pain, stop. There are no points for pain. But be sure to distinguish pain from discomfort.

“Discomfort may seem painful, but when you consider it, you realize it’s not real pain. It’s more like ‘I don’t know if I like this.’ Or, ‘I don’t want to do this anymore.’ Or, ‘I think maybe I’ll stop.’ Try to stay with discomfort. Breathe through it, release it, try to go beyond it.

“Discomfort is your body and brain telling you there’s something there worth working through.”

It’s not the case only in yoga. It’s true in conflict, too. Real pain is rare, but discomfort is familiar. We notice it and dislike it and want to get away from it.

Instead of caving to the discomfort, allow it, for it’s the gift of a hint there for your taking. The discomfort is a whisper in your ear. It’s saying, There’s something here worth working through.

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Dr. Tammy Lenski helps people resolve conflict in ongoing business and personal relationships and bring their "A" game to difficult conversations. Since founding her NH-based conflict resolution firm Myriaccord LLC in 1997, Tammy has worked with individuals and organizations worldwide as a master mediator, executive coach, speaker, and educator. Author of the award-winning book, Making Mediation Your Day Job, she recently received the Association for Conflict Resolution’s prestigious Mary Parker Follett award for innovative and pioneering work in her field. Her second book, The Conflict Pivot, was released in 2014.

 



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