There was one thing that I want to focus on, just a small part that Evelyn talked about. This is what she said (paraphrased)
It’s very easy for me to say I like that piece, or I don’t like that piece. But often I have to give it some time. It may be that the chemistry isn’t quite right between myself and that piece of music, but it doesn’t give right to say that it is a bad piece of music.
How often do you do this? I remember the first time I listened to one of my favourite (now) albums called “De-Loused in the Comatorium” by Mars Volta. I hated it…really, I didn’t see what all the fuss was! Then I listened to it again, and again, and again, and then couldn’t stop listening to it.
I have had the same thing with people as well. I met them and did not think highly of them, but then I saw them again and again and now we’re great friends. This doesn’t always happen of course, but it teaches us an important lesson, our first judgements can be wrong. What we initially think about a person can often not be accurate, BUT that isn’t the problem…the problem is when we refuse to re-evaluate the situation, when we refuse to truly listen to the person to find out what they are really like, when we aren’t open to changing our opinion.
There is nothing wrong with first impressions/perceptions/judgements, we do, however, need to put aside our biases in order to listen to those people and allow them to change our perception of them. The only way we can do this is to listen to them fully, quietly, thoughtlessly, and with a genuine curiosity. Listen to their stories (Because everyone has a story).
This video is 30 minutes long, but it will feel like 10 minutes, hope you enjoy and leave your comments/questions below!