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Tammy Lenski

How to Navigate the “not my problem” Problem

(8/19/16)Tammy Lenski

“That’s not my problem” are four of the most frustrating words to hear when you’re trying to talk through a conflict.

Claudia Maffettone

Principles and Practices of Peace and Conflict Resolution in Islam. The Case of Morocco.

(8/19/16)Claudia Maffettone

In this article I will offer a panoramic view on the concept of peace in Islam and on Islamic conflict resolution principles and practices. Albeit the overwhelming negative narratives on Islam, this religion and tradition is rooted in an articulate philosophy of peace, justice, reciprocity, and community.

Shawn Leamon

5 Ways to Decide if Mediation Is a Cost-Effective Solution for Your Divorce

(8/12/16)Shawn Leamon

The article provides 5 tips to help people going through divorce determine if mediation is a cost-efficient solution to resolve their divorce.

John Lande

Where the "Puck" is Going -- and What Faculty Should Do to Help Students Get There

(6/27/16)John Lande

Analogizing the puck to the legal and dispute resolution fields, this program addressed where we are going and how, as legal educators, we can best prepare our students to “skate” there.

Justin Kelsey

Should We Also Talk About When Mediation Fails?

(6/27/16)Justin Kelsey

Many misunderstand what mediation is and mislabel dispute resolution processes. Litigators are urged to educate themselves about mediation, because if you only tell clients about the disadvantages then you are not providing balance either.

John Lande

Mashburn on Mediation in Open Adoption Cases

(6/10/16)John Lande

I remember one case that broke my heart in which I wish we could have arranged an open adoption.

Laurie Israel

Underwood Family Values – A Template for a Marriage

(6/10/16)Laurie Israel

The Underwoods, the main characters in the show House of Cards, have been married a long time when we meet them - 26 years - as the series begins. They seem to be a very solid two-person unit, that have things to teach us about balancing personal fulfillment and commitment to the marriage.

Hadassah Fidler

When Sorry Can’t Be The Only Word

(5/27/16)Hadassah Fidler

The latest research into apologising will come as no surprise to those who work in the mediation arena.

Katherine Triantafillou

Tips for Mediators Feeling the Heat of Hysteria

(1/08/16)Katherine Triantafillou

With all the hysteria going on in politics right now, it is hard for many mediators to know what to do. This article offers some great suggestions for finding a peaceable route in the midst of so much negativity.

Alla Roytberg

Is It “Culture Versus Law”? - Learning about Cultural Sensitivity in Family Disputes

(12/04/15)Alla Roytberg

While representing culturally diverse clients in court requires a degree of knowledge and cultural sensitivity, acting as a neutral mediator often presents even a greater challenge, – to maintain a delicate balance between honoring the cultural and religious rules and rituals that a family has and, on the other hand, helping people understand U.S. law and come up with agreements that are considered fair and legally enforceable.

Katherine Graham

Does Mediation Really Need ‘Respect’?

(11/30/15)Katherine Graham

What new mediators have in common is a desire to include ‘respect’ as a ‘ground-rule’ for their joint meetings

Gary Direnfeld

Separated Parents: It’s not Quantum of Time, but Quality of Relationship

(10/30/15)Gary Direnfeld

If you get hung up on the quantum of time with your partner and your children, you may lose sight of the quality of your relationship now and for the future.

Mary Damianakis

The Hague Convention, Seven Characteristics, and Mediation

(10/23/15)Mary Damianakis

This article discusses the Hague Convention on child abductions. It gives an update on dealing with children in international custody negotiations.

Michael Jacobs

Facilitating Disagreement

(9/11/15)Michael Jacobs

After twenty years practice and at the point of retirement, one of my mediator colleagues reflected on her experience of working with people in dispute. What struck her most forcefully was how rare it was for people to be able to disagree constructively. Disagreement inevitably ended up as conflict. At which point, people no longer had different points of view, they had a fight.

Kenneth Cloke

Let’s Talk: Charlie Hebdo, Immigration, Terror and Prejudice -- Notes Toward a Proposal for Dialogue over Difficult and Dangerous Issues

(6/02/15)Kenneth Cloke

As wars, religious and political differences, and international problems such as global warming, environmental degradation and poverty expand their reach, importance and severity, stimulating mass migrations and deepening social tensions, we are increasingly forced to recognize that military solutions cannot succeed; that legal processes take too long to implement; and that diplomacy does not reach deep enough into the ranks of those who are drawn to violence.

Ricardo Padilla

(Instrumental) Reconciliation Without (authentic) Forgiveness (and Social Justice): A Recurrent Paradox in Political Conflicts

(4/24/15)Ricardo Padilla

After a conflict between communities or nations has been led to an ending phase, political reconciliation requires that both parties be brought closer to the point they may have respect for each other’s rights and can live peacefully together. When the conflict passed through war or mass atrocity, reconciliation is especially hard to achieve. There are limits to forgiveness that may state significant barriers on the pathway to reconciliation.

J Anthony Licciardello

National Divorce Survey Yields Surprising Insights

(4/03/15)J Anthony Licciardello

Divorce is as popular as ever in America, with over 50% of first marriages and 70% of second marriages ending prematurely. In addition to traditional litigation couples are increasingly turning to mediation and the “do it yourself” pro se divorce process in the quest to have “successful” divorces as measured by satisfactory settlements, minimal relationship damage and reasonable cost.

Greg Rooney

Rebooting Mediation by Detaching from the Illusions of Neutrality, Just Outcomes, and Balanced Power

(2/23/15)Greg Rooney

I would submit that the next quantum leap for the theory and practice of mediation is to detach from the concept of neutrality as a core element of mediation practice. I propose to reboot the profession of mediation by championing the proposition that mediators are not neutrals. That they bring their own personal history and professional expertise to the process of assisting parties who are in dispute.

Jennifer Winestone

Mandatory Mediation: A Comparative Review of How Legislatures in California and Ontario are Mandating the Peacemaking Process In Their Adversarial Systems

(2/13/15)Jennifer Winestone

This article examines the evolution of two mandatory mediation programs in the state of California and the province of Ontario, how they differ, and the lessons we can take from each program's successes and failures.

Gregorio Billikopf

Without Compulsion: Teaching Mediators Empathy

(1/30/15)Gregorio Billikopf

When we are in conflict, our counterparts become our enemies. We block positive feelings we may have about them. We may try and bravely think of something good to say, but emotional leakage gives away the pain we are feeling. It is difficult to move our counterpart out of the enemy camp, and even more difficult to say something positive about him or her.

Richard Barbieri

The Police and the Public: A Mediator’s Reflections

(1/23/15)Richard Barbieri

In a society where media coverage and public concern shift rapidly from one headline to another, tension surrounding the deaths of Michael Brown and Eric Garner seems to have exceptional durability and to be spilling into numerous venues, not least the conflict between New York’s police and its mayor. What insight can mediators offer as we seek to understand, and perhaps avoid, such escalating situations in the future?

Jennifer Winestone

Best Interests and Little Voices: Child Participation in the Family Mediation Dialogue

(1/17/15)Jennifer Winestone

This article examines the circumstances in which the child's perspective and inclusion is appropriate in divorce mediation and provides guidelines for achieving a safe inclusion process.

Eduardo Andres Sandoval Forero

Educación y Paz Integral Sustentable y Duradera - en Espanol

(1/16/15)Eduardo Andres Sandoval Forero

En el presente capítulo exponemos algunas ideas sobre la paz integral, su sustentabilidad y durabilidad. Abordamos la relación de la paz integral con la educación, entendida como un subsistema en el que se presentan conflictos, violencias, variedades áulicas y dinámicas de respeto y aplicación de los derechos humanos, de tolerancia, reconocimiento a las diversidades y praxis de cultura de paz.

Elinor Robin

Four Things You May Not Know About Conflict Even Though You Are Already A Conflict Expert--Book Excerpt

(1/02/15)Elinor Robin

Preview an excerpt of Elinor Robin's new book. Most of its content is relevant to the work we do as mediators, but not typical of the information generally presented during a mediation training program.

Brad Heckman

Police Academy IX: This Time It’s Interpersonal

(12/19/14)Brad Heckman

The New York Peace Institute recently conducted a mediation training for the NYPD. They have kindly shared how the training went, tips and tricks for training, and some insights into the cross-over between police and mediation.

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