I was excited about my new co-worker coming on board because of his skills and experience.  Now that he’s been here a couple of weeks, I’m not so sure this is going to work out.  He’s not very friendly and rarely asks questions until there’s a problem.  And he never offers to pitch in when it’s clear that I’m overwhelmed, even when his in-basket is empty.  I’m concerned that he won’t ever carry his fair share of the workload.  Is there any hope for making this work?

We’ve all been there – the new kid on the block.  Newcomers are often anxious about unfamiliar surroundings, concerned about co-workers’ expectations, and learning a new job all at the same time.  Rather than giving up on your new co-worker, do your part to help pave the way for a smooth, productive transition into your workplace that will benefit everyone.

Put out the welcome mat – Think about what would have been helpful to you when you first started.  Make a point to introduce your new co-worker to others and include him in group conversations.  Invite him to have lunch with you.  Provide him with basic information such as the location of equipment and supplies he needs to do his job.  Willingly share your knowledge and experience, including unwritten procedures and tips that evolve in every organization.

Be sensitive to natural anxieties about new roles, environments and relationships – Learn the culture of a new organization and understanding the interpersonal dynamics of the people takes time and can be intimidating.  So what you’re interpreting as unfriendliness may be more about your new co-worker not yet knowing how to fit in.  And his reluctance to ask questions or offer help may be based in a fear of being seen as less qualified or of stepping on toes.  Recognizing these natural anxieties will help you give him the benefit of the doubt.

Share expectations – Have a conversation with your new co-worker about how each of you understands your roles and responsibilities in the department, along with what you expect from each other.  Talking about what each of you does and how it affects the other will avoid confusion and frustration.  Get clarification now, from the appropriate person(s), for any differing interpretations about roles and responsibilities to avoid future conflicts.

Everyone has a learning curve.  Your patience and assistance can speed your new co-worker’s adjustment process and you will both benefit.