Turn Differences Into Assets

I'm working on a project for the first time with someone with a great reputation for getting things done right. She may get it done right, but it takes her forever. She can't make a decision without analyzing every detail.

I like to review information and make decisions quickly. We can always regroup and try something different if we don't succeed the first time.

When I put the pressure on to move forward, she digs in her heels even more and the tension between us grows. Are we just too different to be able to work together?

Believe it or not, what's causing tension between you can actually be the basis of a complementary working relationship.

You describe two different, but equally beneficial, working styles. The strengths of your co-worker's style include her attention to detail and analytical approach. The strengths of your style include risk-taking and an ability to think and act quickly. To make the relationship work:

Utilize each of your strengths: Careful analysis and attention to detail has earned your partner respect as someone who will provide a beneficial, reliable work product. She's good at gathering information and able to evaluate relevant information to forecast a variety of outcomes, including the worst-case scenario, which can prevent disasters.

You see the big picture and are a ready source of ideas. You are optimistic and able to stay the course in spite of difficulties that may arise, seeing obstacles as learning opportunities and challenges you can overcome. You are both comfortable working independently.

Jointly set realistic time frames and deadlines: You need time frames and deadlines to keep the project moving along and your partner needs them to ensure competency and accuracy. Use the project deadline and work backward, giving time for her to gather and analyze pertinent information in a way that enables you to keep working on other aspects of the project.

Share information appropriately: Don't hesitate to give your partner all of the information you can to avoid unnecessary questions and wasted time gathering information that's already accessible. When you request information from her, be clear about what you want, and how much detail you need, to avoid getting overwhelmed with information overload.

When you organize project tasks and responsibilities in ways that capitalize on each of your strengths, you turn differences into assets.