Divorce attorney Larry Sarezky has created a short film to stop divorcing parents from engaging in high-conflict custody battles for the sake of the kids. I saw the film, Talk to Strangers, and was dramatically impacted by its message. Larry also provides ten questions divorcing parents should ask themselves before fighting over the kids in court. His years of experience have shown him the consequences for the children involved -- effects they'll experience on a life-long basis. Here are Larry's 10 questions, along with his opening comments about high conflict divorce. read
Over 20,000 cases related to family disputes have been settled in Bangalore with the help of a third party mediator over the last 7 years.
1. Total no: of cases referred to mediation: 35784
2. Total no: of cases mediated: 27915
3. Total cases not mediated and returned: 5864
4. Total cases mediated and settled: 20534 read
I have just returned from an enjoyable but hectic visit to the United States. During my stay, I took some time to read up on the family law situation both in the US and north of the border in Canada. It is always intriguing to see such familiar family law touchstones as legal aid and mediation in a completely different context. read
Welcoming an agreement between the two top candidates brokered by U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry and the United Nations, Afghanistan’s election commission hopes to finish an audit of 23,000 polling stations within three weeks. Ahmad Yousuf Nouristani, chairman of the Independent Election Commission, told reporters Sunday that the commission is ready to start auditing all 8 million votes cast in the June 14 presidential runoff as soon as possible. Nouristani said after training auditors, the audit can begin in the presence of representatives from both candidates as well as national and international observers. The Kerry-brokered deal Saturday night for a full ballot audit offers a path out of political crisis for Afghanistan. Both candidates had claimed victory and were talking of setting up competing governments. read
A South Carolina Family Court judge has ordered U.S. Rep. Mark Sanford and his ex-wife, Jenny, to work with a mediator to resolve a dispute over money for their two youngest sons. The two appeared in court in Charleston on Monday. The issue is trust funds for the couple's two youngest boys. Their divorce agreement four years ago said the couple would try to work together to equalize the amount in the boys' trust funds so it's comparable with what was put in their older two boys' accounts at the time. read
Remember when we used to lament the fact that there were no mediation tv shows? Well we had Fairly Legal which was farcically formulaic and often a bit silly. Now we have Untying the Knot, a new reality series on the Bravo network. The show follows New Jersey divorce attorney-mediator Vikki Ziegler as she “mediates” property division issues for divorcing couples. The reason for the quotes? Here’s why: read
The California Strawberry Commission filed a lawsuit against UC Davis in October 2013 regarding its acclaimed strawberry breeding program. The commission expressed concern that the university was planning to end its breeding program. In April 2014, following months of meetings with the strawberry commission, the university filed a motion with the Alameda County Superior Court, asking that the lawsuit be dismissed as meritless. The university has assured the commission and other stakeholders that it is continuing the public breeding program, maintaining duplicate copies of each plant in the breeding program and recruiting for a new breeder with advanced genomic skills to join the program. read
The outcome of the much anticipated judge-ordered mediation process, following a law suit filed by the Bloomingdale community against Hillsborough County and developer Red Cast Bloomingdale LLC, turned out to be a bitter pill to swallow for residents this month. The disappointment came in a statement to residents by Coordinated Active Neighborhoods for Development Organization (Can-Do), which has taken the role of representing the community. In joining Plaintiff Fred Brown, Bloomingdale Can-Do and its officers have resolved all claims against Hillsborough County and developer Red Cast Bloomingdale LLC. After several rounds of meetings with representatives from Red Cast Bloomingdale LLC and Hillsborough County, Brown and the officers of Can-Do acknowledge that the project has the potential to enhance the neighborhood and surrounding community. The developer has shown a willingness to cooperate and listen to the community’s concerns. read
Sand is big business in Martin County. However, for people who live in the highly affluent community of Jupiter Island it can make or break their property values. It's also at the center of a debate that has raged for years between the county and the town which could end with a lawsuit. On Wednesday, county and town officials met for mediation. The two sides are at odds over the dredging of the St. Lucie inlet. read
Veteran United Nations official Staffan de Mistura, a former U.N. special envoy to Afghanistan and Iraq, will replace Lakhdar Brahimi as the international mediator seeking an end to Syria's civil war, diplomats said on Wednesday. U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon told reporters later on Wednesday that consultations were still continuing on the appointment and he hoped to make an announcement “very soon.” read
Why Mediation Works Michael Roberts We are in the midst of a litigation crisis. The high cost and long delays associated
with the trial of civil matters often make litigation an impractical method of resolving
disputes. It is not uncommon for the attorney's fees, expert witness fees, jury fees, court
reporter fees and other related costs to exceed the amount in dispute.
What Does A Mediator Do? Edward P. Ahrens Okay, we know you can't make decisions. We know you can't issue orders. ('I'm not a judge or an arbitrator, blah, blah, blah.') We know you can't take sides, must always remain neutral. And we know you can't give us legal advice. And then you tell us mediation is a consensual process. Bummer. Now the other side can walk at will!
"So, what in the hell DO you do?"
The “What” of Mediation: When Is Mediation the Right Process Choice? Paula Young As mediators, lawyers, and their clients gain more experience with mediation, fewer and fewer types of disputes will seem less amenable to the process. Even if mediation only succeeds in improving the parties’ communication, in identifying their underlying interests, in narrowing the issues in conflict, or in helping them more carefully evaluate their litigation option, it can move the dispute towards a quicker, more cost effective resolution. 1 Comment
Mediator Neutrality: How is it possible? Rachel Fishman Green, Esq. How could a mediator be neutral about your situation when you are getting divorced? Surely one of you is right and the other is wrong! If you know in your bones – and all of your friends agree – that you are right, you may think that mediation would not make sense for you, because you don’t want to compromise. 25 Comments
Mediation: A Process To Regain Control of Your Life Nathan Davidovich Mediation provides a method for people with disputes or conflicts to exercise their own choices and discretion and to regain a sense of control over their lives in resolving disputes. It is a means by which you can be an active participant in the decision making process and have direct involvement in the determination of your destiny.
Why Mediation? Lawrence A. Huerta While the benefits of mediation vary somewhat depending upon the nature of the dispute, and model of mediation applied, the following are some of the benefits typically associated with mediation.
Choosing A Divorce Mediator Julie Denny Finding and selecting a mediator can be easier if you follow some simple steps. In the best of circumstances, divorce is an uncomfortable process. Take the time to assure you have a mediator whom you like, respect and believe to be qualified to help both of you negotiate that equitable settlement.
Choosing the "Expert" Mediator Norm Brand When a dispute is truly ripe for mediation, who you choose to mediate is unlikely to affect the outcome. Frequently, however, who you choose to mediate can be critical to making mediation work.
Advocacy Skills: Tips for Selecting a Good Mediator Jerry Roscoe With several sources for professional mediators, the advocate often struggles with criteria for mediator selection. Selection criteria are all too often limited to mediation experience and settlement rate. If you are in the market for a mediator, your mediator selection process may benefit if you consider the following additional criteria:
Styles of Mediation: Facilitative, Evaluative, and Transformative Mediation Zena Zumeta Mediators around the country find themselves uncomfortable with what is being called mediation in their own and other areas. Accusations are made that one or another approach to mediation is not “real” mediation or are not what clients wanted. In addition, many clients and attorneys are confused about what mediation is and is not, and are not sure what they will get if they go to mediation.
The Narrative Approach to Mediation Toran Hansen Narrative Mediation carries with it both a certain perspective and methodology. It is a specific model developed out of the tradition of Narrative Family Therapy and, as such, represents a uniquely therapeutic approach to mediation. It challenges the mediator to acknowledge and take on assumptions made by conflict parties in creating personal and societal-level stories, make them explicit, and give the parties the power to change them through mediation. 7 Comments
Getting A Divorce? Why You Should Not Just Fight It Out Mimi E. Lyster Many have traveled the adversarial road, and probably for many of the same reasons.
Constant fighting, arguing and blaming in a marriage or similarly committed relationship generally leads to more of the same while dissolving it. Unfortunately, the consequences of continuing this behavior can be dramatic, including protracted litigation, escalating costs, a dramatically reduced standard of living and significant damage to your children’s emotional well-being.
Construction Mediation Really Works Gary Morgerman The use of mediation
to resolve disputes between members of the construction community is finally
taking hold in the industry as word of its effectiveness, efficiency and
economy spreads. Following is the story of a construction mediation mediated
by Construction Mediation Inc in New York City.
Estate Planning and Family Business Mediation Laura Bachle Unlike J.R. Ewing in Dallas, controversy arises among families and business owners more often as a result of misunderstanding than malevolent motives. When people get beyond the resistance and begin working together on an estate plan MOU or partnership charter, they discover that openly dealing with issues lessens the likelihood of misperception, builds trust and confidence, and improves their chances for long-term success.
The Allagash: A Case Study of a Successful Environmental Mediation Jonathan W. Reitman What are the elements which make possible the successful mediation of an environmental dispute? In this article, Jonathan Reitman analyzes what conditions led to the resolution of a 33-year-old controversy about the management of the Allagash Wilderness Waterway in northern Maine. The polarized dispute involved wilderness canoeists, sportsmen, environmental organizations, local residents and state and federal regulators. Their recent negotiated agreement was hailed as "comprehensive and visionary." The mediator who facilitated the negotiations reflects on lessons learned.
ADR in Healthcare: The Last Big ADR Frontier? Rob Robson, Ginny Morrison You are probably saying to yourself “What a strange title.” This seems especially true when you consider that dispute resolution and conflict management (DR/CM) practitioners are a fairly flexible, adaptable and imaginative group. Surely there will be lots of new “frontiers” left for us to conquer in the future?
Cyber-Mediation: Medium Massaging The Message Robin M. Kennedy, Jon Michael Gibb, Llewellyn Joseph Gibbons The course of ecommerce is not always smooth. Disputes are inevitable. These disputes will have to be resolved if ecommerce is to develop to its full potential. Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) is a range of processes for resolving online disputes. Businesses and consumers who engage in ecommerce are often more willing to mediate than to arbitrate their disputes in an online forum because mediation is a voluntary process in which a third-party facilitator assists the parties to the dispute to arrive at a mutually agreed upon resolution.
How Mediation Can Help Same Gender Relationships Barry Simon Since same gender couples cannot legally marry yet in most states and
foreign countries, how can they formalize their relationships? By using
a "Living Together Agreement." In this way they can couple consciously
in an attempt to create a solid foundation on which to build their
relationship. It's the perfect tool for sweeping away false expectations
and building honest, authentic communication. 1 Comment
Mediation in Sexual Harassment Cases Tim Hicks Mediation can provide an ideal setting in which the complainant can accomplish the primary aim of stopping the behavior. Without such a mechanism for dealing with the situation, the complainant has only two choices: go through the process of a formal complaint and investigation, or do nothing. These options often do not meet the needs of the employee or the organization. 1 Comment
Preparing For Your Mediation Tom Sebok It is likely that you asked for or agreed to mediation because the strategies you have already tried have not helped you resolve your dispute. The purpose of this article is to help you think - before your mediation - about what you can do as a participant to give your mediation the best chance to succeed.
Reframing: The Essence of Mediation Peter Blanciak The thesis of this article is that the
psychotheraputic technique of reframing is central to
effective mediation. Several mediation scholars'
theories are examined under this thesis. These
theories include the use of symbols, deception, active
listening and dramatic frames.
Managing an Imbalance of Power Rick Voyles One technique I often get requests to train on is managing an imbalance of power. There are effective techniques for handling power imbalance, however before we go too far, let’s consider what is an imbalance of power?