A northern New Jersey honor student who has sued to get her parents to support her after she moved out of their home had her initial request denied Tuesday by a judge who cautioned that the case could lead to a 'potentially slippery slope' of claims by teenagers against their parents. Rachel Canning had sought immediate relief in the form of $650 in weekly child support and the payment of the remainder of her tuition at Morris Catholic High School, as well as attorney's fees. State Superior Court Judge Peter Bogaard denied those motions but ordered the parties to return to court on April 22, when they will present evidence and testimony on the over-arching question of whether the Cannings are obligated to financially support their daughter. Rachel Canning, a high school senior, has already been accepted by at least one college and is seeking to have her parents pay some or all of her tuition, attorney Tanya Helfand told Bogaard Tuesday. read
Najeeba Syeed-Miller, an internationally recognized author and assistant professor of interreligious education at Claremont School of Theology, gave a talk about religious conflict and mediation at the MultiCultural Center Theater yesterday. Titled “Interfaith Peacemaking: Healing the World,” the talk highlighted the importance of understanding religion’s role in conflict escalation and resolution, as well as the consequences of ignoring this role. Miller’s work focuses on resolving a number of complex religious and cultural conflicts in the Middle East, and she has intervened in disputes between urban gangs in Southern California. Her efforts have garnered a Southern California Mediation Association’s “Peacemaker of the Year” Award in 2007, and in 2008, she received the California State Legislature Women in Law Award for her work to reduce conflict worldwide. read
In May 2011, Mt. Diablo High School in Concord, CA, hired social worker Deonne Wesley to coordinate a grant from the U.S. Department of Education Safe and Supportive Schools program. Wesley trained 18 students to be peer mediators to work with. The good news: The program is teaching kids how to change their behavior so that they stop fighting. The peer mediators are becoming leaders. Some teachers are resolving conflicts with their students, which results in more teaching and more learning. The bad news: The grant runs out in 2014, at the end of this school year. Next school year, Mt. Diablo won’t have peer mediators or a drug counselor. read
Landowners at the end of Davis Lane want up to 400 feet of new beachfront declared as their own and the town and other parties are questioning that and want to make sure access and use of the beach is preserved. “The message from Judge Sands was crystal clear. We’ve always called for getting together to try and work this out, even before the legal dispute ended up in court. I am looking forward to the mediation effort.” read
The former head of a private preparatory school in Miami, Florida is out an $80,000 discrimination settlement after his daughter boasted about it on Facebook. Patrick Snay, 69 -- the former head of Guillver Preparatory School -- filed an age discrimination complaint when his 2010-11 contract wasn't renewed. In November 2011, the school and Snay came to an agreement in which Snay would be paid $10,000 in back pay, and an $80,000 settlement. Gulliver Schools also agreed to cut Snay's attorneys a check for $60,000. But before the ink could dry on the deal, Snay's daughter took to Facebook, boasting, "Mama and Papa Snay won the case against Gulliver. Gulliver is now officially paying for my vacation to Europe this summer. SUCK IT." read
For baby boomers, divorce has almost become, like marriage, another rite of passage. The post-World War II generation is setting new records for divorce: Americans over 50 are twice as likely to get divorced as people of that age were 20 years ago. But just because it's more common, doesn't mean it's not still painful. read
THE Australian Taxation Office is stepping up its push to avoid costly court actions with big businesses and wealthy people. The ATO has told a landmark Productivity Commission review that it is increasingly using alternative dispute resolution -- which uses methods such as mediation by retired High Court and Federal Court judges to avoid resorting to litigation -- in the early stages of tax disputes considered to be "high risk" involving large businesses, high net-worth individuals and their private groups. read
Plaintiffs in a lawsuit against the state's prison system over the treatment of mentally ill inmates are agreeing to mediate solutions to the issue while also allowing the litigation to continue. Mediation could ultimately save legal costs because it could work out solutions and end the litigation —which has been ongoing since 2005 — sooner, said Sen. Mike Fair of Greenville, chairman of the Senate Corrections Committee. "I'm glad mediation is going forward," Fair toldThe Greenville News. "I think everybody wins because of that. I choose to believe that the litigation will end more quickly because they're having the mediation." read
The most consistently effective mediators have shared these qualities: (1) They established and then maintained credibility throughout the entire negotiation. They provided a foundation for their statements and avoided exaggeration. When they said they would do something during the negotiation, they did it. (2) They spoke persuasively and calmly. They listened attentively and acknowledged valid points that did not threaten their case. They asked information-seeking questions as well as rhetorical ones. (3) They used time efficiently when working against a deadline. They initially tried to get deals as favorable as possible, but moved to more realistic demands and offers with enough time on the clock to do the harder endgame negotiating. read
Conflict is inevitable in high schools — or just about any place where hundreds of teenagers gather, each bringing their own personality, background and beliefs. The need to manage that conflict also is inevitable because some students lack the maturity they need to resolve their differences in a civil manner. Mayo High School takes this need seriously and has trained mediators who can intervene before disputes get out of hand. The remarkable thing is that the sessions are led by fellow students who conduct 300 to 400 conflict mediation sessions a year. It's an amazing success story, and it didn't happen by accident. read
Why Mediation Works Michael Roberts We are in the midst of a litigation crisis. The high cost and long delays associated
with the trial of civil matters often make litigation an impractical method of resolving
disputes. It is not uncommon for the attorney's fees, expert witness fees, jury fees, court
reporter fees and other related costs to exceed the amount in dispute.
What Does A Mediator Do? Edward P. Ahrens Okay, we know you can't make decisions. We know you can't issue orders. ('I'm not a judge or an arbitrator, blah, blah, blah.') We know you can't take sides, must always remain neutral. And we know you can't give us legal advice. And then you tell us mediation is a consensual process. Bummer. Now the other side can walk at will!
"So, what in the hell DO you do?"
The “What” of Mediation: When Is Mediation the Right Process Choice? Paula Young As mediators, lawyers, and their clients gain more experience with mediation, fewer and fewer types of disputes will seem less amenable to the process. Even if mediation only succeeds in improving the parties’ communication, in identifying their underlying interests, in narrowing the issues in conflict, or in helping them more carefully evaluate their litigation option, it can move the dispute towards a quicker, more cost effective resolution. 1 Comment
Mediator Neutrality: How is it possible? Rachel Fishman Green, Esq. How could a mediator be neutral about your situation when you are getting divorced? Surely one of you is right and the other is wrong! If you know in your bones – and all of your friends agree – that you are right, you may think that mediation would not make sense for you, because you don’t want to compromise. 25 Comments
Mediation: A Process To Regain Control of Your Life Nathan Davidovich Mediation provides a method for people with disputes or conflicts to exercise their own choices and discretion and to regain a sense of control over their lives in resolving disputes. It is a means by which you can be an active participant in the decision making process and have direct involvement in the determination of your destiny.
Why Mediation? Lawrence A. Huerta While the benefits of mediation vary somewhat depending upon the nature of the dispute, and model of mediation applied, the following are some of the benefits typically associated with mediation.
Choosing A Divorce Mediator Julie Denny Finding and selecting a mediator can be easier if you follow some simple steps. In the best of circumstances, divorce is an uncomfortable process. Take the time to assure you have a mediator whom you like, respect and believe to be qualified to help both of you negotiate that equitable settlement.
Choosing the "Expert" Mediator Norm Brand When a dispute is truly ripe for mediation, who you choose to mediate is unlikely to affect the outcome. Frequently, however, who you choose to mediate can be critical to making mediation work.
Advocacy Skills: Tips for Selecting a Good Mediator Jerry Roscoe With several sources for professional mediators, the advocate often struggles with criteria for mediator selection. Selection criteria are all too often limited to mediation experience and settlement rate. If you are in the market for a mediator, your mediator selection process may benefit if you consider the following additional criteria:
Styles of Mediation: Facilitative, Evaluative, and Transformative Mediation Zena Zumeta Mediators around the country find themselves uncomfortable with what is being called mediation in their own and other areas. Accusations are made that one or another approach to mediation is not “real” mediation or are not what clients wanted. In addition, many clients and attorneys are confused about what mediation is and is not, and are not sure what they will get if they go to mediation.
The Narrative Approach to Mediation Toran Hansen Narrative Mediation carries with it both a certain perspective and methodology. It is a specific model developed out of the tradition of Narrative Family Therapy and, as such, represents a uniquely therapeutic approach to mediation. It challenges the mediator to acknowledge and take on assumptions made by conflict parties in creating personal and societal-level stories, make them explicit, and give the parties the power to change them through mediation. 7 Comments
Getting A Divorce? Why You Should Not Just Fight It Out Mimi E. Lyster Many have traveled the adversarial road, and probably for many of the same reasons.
Constant fighting, arguing and blaming in a marriage or similarly committed relationship generally leads to more of the same while dissolving it. Unfortunately, the consequences of continuing this behavior can be dramatic, including protracted litigation, escalating costs, a dramatically reduced standard of living and significant damage to your children’s emotional well-being.
Construction Mediation Really Works Gary Morgerman The use of mediation
to resolve disputes between members of the construction community is finally
taking hold in the industry as word of its effectiveness, efficiency and
economy spreads. Following is the story of a construction mediation mediated
by Construction Mediation Inc in New York City.
Estate Planning and Family Business Mediation Laura Bachle Unlike J.R. Ewing in Dallas, controversy arises among families and business owners more often as a result of misunderstanding than malevolent motives. When people get beyond the resistance and begin working together on an estate plan MOU or partnership charter, they discover that openly dealing with issues lessens the likelihood of misperception, builds trust and confidence, and improves their chances for long-term success.
The Allagash: A Case Study of a Successful Environmental Mediation Jonathan W. Reitman What are the elements which make possible the successful mediation of an environmental dispute? In this article, Jonathan Reitman analyzes what conditions led to the resolution of a 33-year-old controversy about the management of the Allagash Wilderness Waterway in northern Maine. The polarized dispute involved wilderness canoeists, sportsmen, environmental organizations, local residents and state and federal regulators. Their recent negotiated agreement was hailed as "comprehensive and visionary." The mediator who facilitated the negotiations reflects on lessons learned.
ADR in Healthcare: The Last Big ADR Frontier? Rob Robson, Ginny Morrison You are probably saying to yourself “What a strange title.” This seems especially true when you consider that dispute resolution and conflict management (DR/CM) practitioners are a fairly flexible, adaptable and imaginative group. Surely there will be lots of new “frontiers” left for us to conquer in the future?
Cyber-Mediation: Medium Massaging The Message Robin M. Kennedy, Jon Michael Gibb, Llewellyn Joseph Gibbons The course of ecommerce is not always smooth. Disputes are inevitable. These disputes will have to be resolved if ecommerce is to develop to its full potential. Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) is a range of processes for resolving online disputes. Businesses and consumers who engage in ecommerce are often more willing to mediate than to arbitrate their disputes in an online forum because mediation is a voluntary process in which a third-party facilitator assists the parties to the dispute to arrive at a mutually agreed upon resolution.
How Mediation Can Help Same Gender Relationships Barry Simon Since same gender couples cannot legally marry yet in most states and
foreign countries, how can they formalize their relationships? By using
a "Living Together Agreement." In this way they can couple consciously
in an attempt to create a solid foundation on which to build their
relationship. It's the perfect tool for sweeping away false expectations
and building honest, authentic communication. 1 Comment
Mediation in Sexual Harassment Cases Tim Hicks Mediation can provide an ideal setting in which the complainant can accomplish the primary aim of stopping the behavior. Without such a mechanism for dealing with the situation, the complainant has only two choices: go through the process of a formal complaint and investigation, or do nothing. These options often do not meet the needs of the employee or the organization. 1 Comment
Preparing For Your Mediation Tom Sebok It is likely that you asked for or agreed to mediation because the strategies you have already tried have not helped you resolve your dispute. The purpose of this article is to help you think - before your mediation - about what you can do as a participant to give your mediation the best chance to succeed.
Reframing: The Essence of Mediation Peter Blanciak The thesis of this article is that the
psychotheraputic technique of reframing is central to
effective mediation. Several mediation scholars'
theories are examined under this thesis. These
theories include the use of symbols, deception, active
listening and dramatic frames.
Managing an Imbalance of Power Rick Voyles One technique I often get requests to train on is managing an imbalance of power. There are effective techniques for handling power imbalance, however before we go too far, let’s consider what is an imbalance of power?